Zamkati
- Kuthetsa mantha oyamba a chibwenzicho
- Ndi zinthu ziti zomwe muyenera kudziwa?
- Kuyamba chithandizo chokwatirana
- Kusiya zakale
- Momwe mungayambitsire kukhulupirirana muukwati
- Kupewa kusudzulana pamene mukumanganso banja lanu
Kusakhulupirika ndichimodzi mwazinthu zoyipa zomwe zimachitika m'banja. Koma kodi banja lingathe kupulumuka ngati wina wachita chigololo?
Ndipo, ngati zingatheke, funso lotsatira likhoza kukhala, momwe mungapulumukire kusakhulupirika pamene mnzake wonyengayo walola kuti achoke kwa lumbiro lawo laukwati, ndipo wasaka chisangalalo kapena ngakhale chikondi kunja kwa banja?
Ndizovuta kupulumuka pachibwenzi komanso kuthana ndi kusakhulupirika, popeza zochitika zina zimakhala za nthawi imodzi, koma zina zimapitilira milungu ingapo kapena zaka.
Wokondedwayo adadabwa, momwe angatetezere banja pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika ndi kunama, ndi momwe angabwezeretsere ubale wawo. Amasiyidwa kuti aganizire pazolakwa zawo, ndikukayikira zamtsogolo.
Kodi izi ndi zawo? Kodi ukwati watha? Kodi pali chilichonse chatsalira kuti amangenso?
Zachidziwikire, pali njira zambiri zopitilira kusakhulupirika mbanja, ndipo izi mwina sizingapangitse okwatirana kuyesera kukonza zinthu. Pali mitundu iwiri ya zochitika —m'maganizo ndi mwathupi. Nthawi zina wokwatirana akhoza kuchita chimodzi kapena chimzake, kapena zonse ziwiri.
Chimodzi mwazinthu zofunikira kwambiri pamwambowu ndikutaya chikhulupiriro. Ngati mnzake angathe kuchita izi, kodi angakhulupiriridwenso? Kodi chikondi chitha kukhalapo pomwe chidaliro chathyoledwa?
Nthawi zambiri, chibwenzi chimakhala chifukwa cha zovuta zina mbanja, koma nthawi zina ngakhale zinthu zili bwino, kusakhulupirika kumachitikabe.
Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, maanja ambiri amatha kupulumuka osakhulupirika ndipo amayambanso kukhulupirirana m'banja. Ngakhale kuyambiranso kusakhulupirika ndikukhululukirana kusakhulupirika sichinthu chophweka, ngati onse awiri ali odzipereka kwa wina ndi mnzake, amatha kutero limodzi.
Nawa maupangiri ofunikira amomwe mungapulumutsire kusakhulupirika ndikukhazikitsanso kukhulupirirana muukwati.
Kuthetsa mantha oyamba a chibwenzicho
Mwinamwake inu munadzipeza nokha — inu munkaganiza kuti chinachake chikuchitika, ndipo inu munagwira mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu mu bodza. Kapenanso mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu wasankha kuti akuululireni zachinyengo musanadziwe njira ina.
Komabe, mupeza, ngakhale mutakhala ndi chidziwitso kuti china chake chikuchitika, kungomva mawuwo kungakudabwitseni. Mumatha bwanji izi?
Musanakwatirane, mudadzizindikiritsa kuti ndinu okwatirana ndi amuna kapena akazi anu. Simunaganizepo kuti mudzakhala "banja" ndi bwenzi losakhulupirika. Ndipo, nazi.
Kulandila ndi gawo limodzi mwazovuta kwambiri pantchitoyi. Zimatanthawuza kuyang'anizana kuti banja lanu silinachitike monga momwe mumaganizira, ndipo muyenera kuyamba njira yothanirana ndi kusakhulupirika ndikukonzekera banja.
Ndi zinthu ziti zomwe muyenera kudziwa?
Chibwenzi chikachitika, mnzake akhoza kukhala ndi mafunso. Kodi mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo ankachita zachinyengo ndi ndani? Kangati? Kodi amawakonda? Chifukwa chiyani adachita izi?
Wokondedwayo ayenera kulemba mafunso ndikutenga kanthawi kuti adziwe ngati kudziwa mayankho a mafunso awa kungathandize kuchepetsa malingaliro awo kapena kupangitsa zinthu kuipiraipira. Dziwonetseni nokha.
Kodi 'kudziwa zambiri' kudzathandiza kuchiritsa kuchokera kusakhulupirika? Ngati ndi choncho, ndiye kuti wolakwayo akuyankha mafunso anu. Ndi mwayi kwa onse okwatilana kukhala omasukilana wina ndi mzake ndikuyesera kupulumutsa banja lawo pambuyo pa chigololo.
Kuyamba chithandizo chokwatirana
Ngati nonse mukufuna kuthana ndi kusakhulupirika ndikuchita zinthu zina, ndiye kuti mufunika munthu wachitatu wodziwa izi kuti akutsogolereni. Inu nonse mudzakumana ndi zinthu zomwe simukuzindikira kuti zibwera pamwambapa.
Kukana, kukwiya, kuwawidwa mtima, kuipidwa, kusadzilemekeza wekha kapena mnzako, kudziimba mlandu, kudziimba mlandu!
Zinthu zambiri zimakhala zovuta kuthana nazo, makamaka ngati aliyense wa inu akukumana ndi zochuluka nthawi iliyonse. Katswiri wothandiza maukwati atha kukuthandizani kuti mupulumuke kusakhulupirika mukaikidwa m'manda pamtima.
Tengani nthawi yanu ndikupeza wothandizira okwatirana omwe nonse mungakhale omasuka kugwira nawo ntchito.
Funsani wothandizira za mabanja ena, omwe adawathandiziranso nthawi ngati yomweyi, ndipo ngati akuwona kuti banja lanu lili ndi chiyembekezo chokwaniritsa. Dziwani kuti zinthu sizingafanane pamaulendo ochepa. Uku ndikudzipereka kwakanthawi.
Kusiya zakale
Chimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kuzichita ndikusiya zakale. Kodi mumadzikhululukira nokha kapena mnzanu chifukwa cha kusakhulupirirana kumeneku?
Koma, m'malo mongowunikira momwe angathetsere chibwenzi kapena momwe angachitire ndi kusakhulupirika, choyamba, okwatirana akuyenera kuvomereza kuti izi zachitika. Sipadzakhalanso kukana! Kenako, amayenera kukhululukira.
Poyamba, lingaliro la izi mwina silingamveke lotheka. Musayembekezere kukhululuka nthawi imodzi. Ndi kachitidwe-nthawi zina kachitidwe kotalika. Chokhacho chomwe muyenera kuchita koyambirira ndikuti, khalani okonzeka kukhululuka. Khulupirirani kuti mutha kuyambitsa njira yopulumukira kusakhulupirika.
Momwe mungayambitsire kukhulupirirana muukwati
Kupanganso kukhulupirirana ndi mnzanu- apa ndipamene ntchito yayikulu imayambira. Ngati nonsenu mukufunadi kuti banja liziyenda pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika, ndiye kuti ntchito yomanganso iyenera kuyamba.
Koma motani? Zinthu sizingafanane ndi kale, sichoncho?
Nthawi zina okwatirana amatengeka kwambiri ndikufuna kuti banja lawo likhale “monga kale,” amasowa mwayi weniweni wokula ndi kusintha. Osakhumba zakale. M'malo mwake, chiyembekezo chatsopano. Inde, nthawi zabwino kwambiri muukwati wanu.
Kukhulupirira kumeneko kumakhala kovuta poyamba, koma ngati nonse mungakhale ndi malingaliro amenewo, ndiye kuti chilichonse ndichotheka.
Yambani pang'ono. Ngakhale tsiku ndi tsiku khazikitsaninso chidaliro mukamakumana ndi zovuta za tsiku ndi tsiku. Onetsani kuti mutha kuthandizana. Monga momwe aliyense m'banjamo amawonetsera, mwamalingaliro ndi mwathupi, zinthu zimatha kuyenda m'njira yoyenera ndipo mwinanso kukula nkukhala china chabwino kuposa kale.
Kupewa kusudzulana pamene mukumanganso banja lanu
Ndizosatheka kusudzula ukwati wanu, koma anthu awiri akakhala odzipereka kuubwenzi wawo, zodabwitsa zimatha kuchitika. Kusudzulana sikungakhale patebulo pomwe anthu onse ali osangalala ndikukwaniritsa zosowa zawo.
Izi zikutanthauza kuyika zofuna za mnzanu pamwamba pa zanu, komanso kukhala owona mtima kwa mnzanu pazomwe mukufunikira. Zimatanthauza kukhala achikondi ndi kuvomereza chikondi. Muonetsane tsiku lililonse kuti banja lanu ndilofunika kwambiri kuposa china chilichonse.
Kusakhulupirika m'banja ndichinthu chachikulu. Awiriwa, omwe adalonjezana wina ndi mnzake patsiku laukwati wawo, tsopano ali pachimake. Mmodzi mwa okwatiranawo adapita kunja kwaukwati ndipo adachita chibwenzi.
Ngakhale maukwati ambiri samakhalabe osakhulupirika, ambiri amatero.
Ngati onse awiri ali ndi chidwi chofuna kusakhulupirika m'mbuyomu ndikumanganso banja, pogwira ntchito molimbika komanso mwachikondi, atha kupulumuka kusakhulupirika limodzi.
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