Zamkati
- 1. Mavuto olumikizana ndi ubale
- 2. Kuwononga nthawi yokwanira limodzi
- 3. Kusinkhasinkha
- 4. Momwe mungalerere ana
Mwinamwake mukakhala pakati pa zovuta za banja kapena zovuta zilizonse zaubwenzi, mumakhala nokha; koma mutalankhula ndi anzanu, mumazindikira kuti simuli nokha.
Ndizowona kuti alipo ambiri mavuto abanja wamba ndi mavuto amabanja omwe mabanja ndi mabanja amakumana nawo.
Zonse ndi gawo lokhala munthu. Timakhala amantha, otopa, odzikonda, aulesi, otopa, achifundo, komanso osasamala. Pamene tikugawana malo ndi anthu tsiku lililonse, tidzakumana nthawi zonse - kwenikweni komanso mophiphiritsa.
Kwenikweni, palibe aliyense wa ife amene ali wangwiro. Tonsefe timapanga zisankho tsiku lililonse zomwe zimakhudza osati zathu zokha koma za iwo omwe atizungulira. Chofunika kukumbukira ndi kuphunzira momwe mungakonzere mavuto am'banja kapena momwe mungathetsere mavuto am'banja.
Kulimbana ndi mavuto am'banja kumafuna ntchito. Amatenga kuganiza mozama ndikusankha. Chifukwa chake lingalirani za momwe moyo wanu ungasinthire ngati mumamvera zovuta zamaubwenzi ambiri ndikusintha momwe mumawafotokozera.
Pezani mbali zomwe zili pachibwenzi chanu zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano mokhazikika m'banja mwanu. Muthane ndi mavutowo ndikuyang'ana yankho lomwe lingakhalepo.
Kukuthandizani kuti mupite patsogolo, nayi mavuto omwe amafala pabanja komanso mavuto am'banja komanso momwe mungachitire kuthetsa mavuto a m'banja:
1. Mavuto olumikizana ndi ubale
Kodi sizoseketsa kuti m'badwo momwe titha kuyimbirana mafoni, kutumizirana mameseji, ndi zina zambiri, wina ndi mnzake, limodzi mwamavuto omwe timakumana nawo kwambiri ndikulephera kwathu kulumikizana ndi ena?
Palibe paliponse pamene munthu wokhulupirikayu ali kunyumba ndi banja lanu ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu. Tikafika kunyumba kuchokera ku ntchito zathu zambiri kutali ndi kwathu, timakhala titatopa. Sitikwiya. Nthawi zina, timangofuna kutisiyira tokha kuti tisangalale.
Nthawi zina timafuna kulumikizana ndikuyankhula ndikumverera kuti tikukondedwa. Nthawi zambiri sitimagwirizana ndipo sizimayankhulana. Timapewa kuyesetsa kokwanira kuti tipeze zomwe tingakambirane.
Kodi timathana nawo bwanji mwayi wolumikiziranawu zomwe zimayambitsa kusamvana mu chibwenzi? Muyenera kukonza zanyumba kuti mukhale omasuka kulumikizana. Khalani pansi pachakudya limodzi ndikulankhulana.
Funsanani wina ndi mnzake za masiku awo. Mverani mayankho. Ngati mukukhumudwitsidwa ndi china chake, musangochiika mkati mpaka chithupsa. Patulani nthawi yokambirana za zinthu izi, mwina pamsonkhano wabanja.
2. Kuwononga nthawi yokwanira limodzi
Imeneyi ndi nkhani yovuta kwambiri chifukwa aliyense ali ndi malingaliro osiyana pa zomwe zili “zabwino” komanso “nthawi yokwanira” yocheza limodzi ngati maanja komanso monga mabanja.
"Tili limodzi nthawi zonse," wina m'banjamo atha kunena, koma wina sangamve ngati kukhala mchipinda chimodzi ndikumacheza nthawi yabwino limodzi.
Kotero ndi nthawi yoti tikambirane zomwe zimatanthauza "zokwanira" komanso zomwe zili "zabwino." Sikuti aliyense adzavomereze, chifukwa chake yesetsani kukumana kwinakwake pakati.
Kodi muyenera kuchitira limodzi kangati limodzi ndi banja kunyumba, ngati masewera amasewera? Kodi ndi kangati pomwe mungachitire limodzi limodzi kunja kwa nyumba?
Mwina ngati banja, kamodzi pa sabata tsiku limagwira nonse awiri. Chinsinsi chothanirana ndi mavuto ndikukambirana ndikukhala pamgwirizano m'malo mozisiya mwangozi.
3. Kusinkhasinkha
Tikakhala ndi wina, timawawona atatopa komanso nthawi zina osasamala. Safuna kunyamula masokosi awo kapena kuyeretsa pambuyo pawo; mwina adakuwuzani kuti adzakuchitirani zinazake, koma iwalani.
Pali njira zingapo zomwe okondedwa athu angatikhumudwitse. Ndipo izi zitha kubweretsa vuto limodzi pachibwenzi: kukankha.
“Bwanji sukuchita izi?” kapena "N'chifukwa chiyani ukudya?" ndi zina zomwe sitinganene kwa anzathu, koma chifukwa timakhala omasuka ndi anzathu ndi banja lathu, timayiwala luso lathu.
Ndiosavuta kwambiri kunena zinthu zimenezo. Kodi tingachite bwanji? Lolani kupita kokonda zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano yabanja ndi kupsinjika?
Dziyesereni kuti mupite tsiku limodzi osanenapo chilichonse cholakwika kwa mnzanu kapena ana anu. Ndi tsiku limodzi lokha, sichoncho? Ngakhale atakunenani, khalani otsimikiza.
Malingaliro anu adzakhala ndi gawo lalikulu komanso banja lanu. Mukayamba tsiku latsopano, dzitsimikizireni kuti musanene chilichonse cholakwika, ngakhale mutakhala ndi chidwi. Mukamayeseza, kumakhala kosavuta.
4. Momwe mungalerere ana
Izi zitha kukhala zoyambitsa zazikulu zokangana pakati pa makolo chifukwa palibe njira imodzi yabwino yothandizira kholo. Koma ndipomwe zimakhala zovuta.
Mwinanso mwamuna kapena mkazi wina anakulira ndi makolo omwe amachita zinthu m'njira imodzi, ndipo winayo adakula ndi makolo omwe amachita zinthu mosiyana kwambiri. Ndi kwachibadwa kuti okwatirana onse azitsatira zomwe akudziwa.
Funso lodziwika bwino lomwe anthu amafuna yankho lake ndi - "Momwe mungathetsere mavuto am'banja zochokera kuzomwezo? ” Pachifukwa ichi, muyenera kusankha ndikusankha zomwe zingagwire ntchito pabanja lanu pano. Ndipo izi zikutanthauza kulumikizana kwambiri.
Kambiranani za momwe mukufuna kulera ana anu, kuphatikizapo momwe mungathetsere mavuto akadzabwera. Ndi zilango zotani zomwe zili zoyenera? Komanso, sankhani limodzi zomwe mungachite pakachitika zinthu zosayembekezereka.
Lingaliro limodzi ndikuti mudzikhululukire nokha kwa mwana wanu, kuti mukambirane nkhaniyi mobisa kenako mubwerere kwa mwana wanu mogwirizana.
Monga china chilichonse m'moyo, kuthetsa mavuto am'banja kumachitika. Chifukwa chake sankhani zomwe mukufuna, ndikuchitapo kanthu tsiku lililonse.