Zamkati
- Kambiranani mfundo zazikulu ndi ana limodzi
- Kambiranani kunja kwa khothi ngati zingatheke
- Khalani omasukirana ndi ana anu
- Pangani madera osiyana
- Muzikhululukirana
Kodi mukudabwa momwe mungasiyire amuna anu mukakhala ndi mwana kapena momwe mungasiyire banja ndi mwana?
Muli muukwati womwe sukugwira ntchito, koma mulinso ndi ana. Chifukwa chake kusiya banja ndi ana sichinthu chophweka kusankha popeza lingaliro loti achoke silofanana kwenikweni. Anzanu ndi abale anu akukuwuzani kuti "khalani limodzi kuti muthandize ana," koma kodi ndiyabwino kuyitanidwa? Kodi muyenera kuyesetsa kuti banja liziyenda bwino, kapena kodi inu ndi anawo mungakhale achimwemwe ngati simumangokhalira kumenya nkhondo?
Ndipo ngati mungaganize zongoitaya ndikuti mukufuna kuthetsa banja ndi ana, ndani angakuuzeni nthawi yochoka m'banja komanso momwe mungasiyire ukwati mwamtendere? Mwinamwake mungagwiritse ntchito thandizo laling'ono la momwe mungasiyire amuna anu mukakhala ndi mwana.
Izi zimadalira momwe mukukhalira. Kuchoka m'banja ndi ana sichingakhale chisankho chokhwima, ndipo sichingakhale chotopetsa. Ndipo ngati mungayankhe kuti muthane nawo, ndiye kuti momwe mungasiyire banja liyenera kukhala lofunikira kwambiri monga nthawi yoti muchoke pabanja ndi ana.
Chisankho chomaliza chimadalira ngati inu ndi mnzanuyo mukufuna kuchikwaniritsa ndipo mukufunitsitsa kuti chigwire ntchito tsiku ndi tsiku. Koma ngati simunagwiritse ntchito, ndipo ngati nonse mumangodziwa m'mitima mwanu kuti chisudzulo ndi chisankho choyenera, ndiye ndani angakuuzeni kuti mukhalebe chifukwa muli ndi ana? Ndipo, alipo ndani kuti akutsogolereni momwe mungasiyire amuna anu mukakhala ndi mwana? Kapena, muyenera kusiya liti chibwenzi ndi mwana?
Pali njira zambiri zowonera, imodzi ndiyoti mukufuna kupezera nyumba ndi makolo awiri omwe amakonda ana awo. Koma kodi kukhala m'banja ndikusowa chikondi, ndiye chitsanzo chabwino kwa ana anu? Kusiya ukwati ndi ana sikophweka, koma kodi izi zingakhale zabwino kapena zoyipa kuposa makolo omwe akukhala kutali?
Malinga ndi kafukufuku wofalitsidwa ndi National Academy of Science of the United States of America, ana omwe ali m'mabanja omwe amakhala pachiwopsezo nthawi zambiri amayembekezera kapena kuthana ndi kutha kwa ukwatiwo.
Ana ambiri akhala akuthetsa banja la makolo awo, ndipo achita bwino kwambiri. Asintha. Chofunikira kwambiri pamachitidwe awo ndikusamalira chisudzulo, komanso momwe makolo amachitira ndi ana kutsatira chisudzulo.
Chifukwa chake, ngati mukuganiza momwe mungasiyire ubale ndi mwana yemwe akukhudzidwa, nazi maupangiri amomwe mungatulukire m'banja loyipa ndi mwana. Malangizowa atha kukuthandizani posankha zakusiya banja ndi ana.
Mutasankha nthawi yoti muchoke pabanja ndi ana, muyenera kupita ku gawo lina lotsatira - Momwe mungasiyire banja ndi ana.
Nawa maupangiri akuchoka pabanja ndi ana, osasokoneza ubale wa kholo ndi mwana-
Kambiranani mfundo zazikulu ndi ana limodzi
Pofuna kusintha kuti zinthu zisinthe, ndikofunikira kukhala ogwirizana; Pakadali pano, zitha kukhala zovuta kuti nonse awiri muvomereze, koma muziyang'ana kwambiri ana.
Kodi akufuna kumva chiyani kuchokera kwa nonsenu pakadali pano?
Auzeni kuti mukusudzulana, koma sizisintha kalikonse za chikondi chanu pa iwo.Nenani zakomwe amayi ndi abambo azikhala, ndikuti ana azikhala ndi nyumba zachikondi zoti azipitako.
Onetsetsani kuti akudziwa kuti chisudzulocho sichikugwirizana nawo. Ngakhale kusiya ukwati ndi ana ndi nkhani yovuta kwa inu ndi ana anu, yesetsani kuchita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mukhale otsimikiza ndikutsimikizira ana anu.
Kambiranani kunja kwa khothi ngati zingatheke
Mwina mungadabwe kuti, 'kodi ndingamusiye mwamuna wanga ndikutenga mwana wanga?' kapena china ngati, 'ndikasiya amuna anga, nditha kutenga mwana wanga?'
Inu ndi omwe mudzakhale naye banja posachedwa simukugwirizana paukwati wanu, koma kuti ana asinthe bwino, muyenera kusiya kusiyana kumeneku.
Kambiranani modekha komanso momveka bwino za zomwe zidzachitike mu chisudzulocho, makamaka kwa ana. Mukamayesetsa kusankha zomwe zili bwino kunja kwa khothi, zimakhala bwino.
Kungatanthauze kupereka kwambiri ndikutenga, koma zikhala bwino kuposa kupsinjika ndi kusatsimikizika kwa zomwe zingachitike woweruza atenga nawo mbali. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukuyenera kukonzekera kusiya banja ndi ana, ndibwino kukambirana kunja kwa khothi.
Kugwiritsa ntchito thandizo la wothandizira kapena phungu panthawiyi kungathandize kuti ntchitoyi iziyenda bwino.
Khalani omasukirana ndi ana anu
Ngakhale ana anu safunikira kudziwa zovuta zaubwenzi wanu ndi chisudzulo, ndi zomwe zimawakhudza, khalani omasuka. Ana anu akadzakufunsani mafunso, mvetserani ndi kuyankha.
Thandizani kukulitsa chidaliro chawo mgawo latsopanoli la moyo. Athandizeni kudziwa kuti mudzakhala mukuwathandiza nthawi zonse, zivute zitani. Nthawi zina ana amakhala ndi nkhawa koma samawalankhula, chifukwa chake pangani nthawi yomwe amakhala omasuka kukambirana za zinthu.
Pangani madera osiyana
Mukayamba kukhala padera, kudzakhala kusintha kovuta kwa ana. Chifukwa chake yesetsani kupanga nthawi ino kukhala yapadera komanso yowoneka bwino momwe mungathere.
Dongosolo lanu lochoka pabanja ndi ana limapangidwa. Chotsatira ndi chiyani? Muyenera kukhazikitsa miyambo mnyumba iliyonse. Onetsetsani kuti mumathera nthawi yambiri yabwino ndi ana anu.
Thandizani kholo linalo momwe mungathere. Kukumana kuti mudzanyamule / kusiya, simuyenera kukhala ocheza, koma khalani odekha komanso olimbikitsa. Lemekezani malamulo oyimbira / kulembera omwe mwakhazikitsa kuti muzilumikizana koma osasokoneza nthawi ya ana a makolo ena.
Kupatula apo, kusiya banja ndikukhala ndi mwana sichinthu chophweka kupanga, makamaka kwa mwanayo. Chifukwa chake, muyenera kuwonetsetsa kuti mwana wanu samasamaliridwa ndi makolo kapena amayi.
Muzikhululukirana
Kuthetsa ubale ndi ana omwe akukhudzidwa ndikumapeto kwa nkhaniyi. Ndipo, chimodzi mwazinthu zoyipa kwambiri zomwe mungachite mutasudzulana ndi, kusungirana chakukhosi mnzanu mpaka kalekale. Udzakhala ngati mtambo wopachikika pa aliyense; ana adzamvadi. Nawonso atha kukhala ndi malingaliro omwewo.
Mukapita kukafunafuna upangiri pazinthu monga, 'Ndikufuna kusiya amuna anga, koma tili ndi mwana', kapena zina zotere, 'Ndikufuna chisudzulo koma ndili ndi ana', anthu ambiri angakuuzeni kuti mumukhululukire mnzanuyo ndikupitiliza ndi moyo. Chifukwa chake, musanakwatirane ndi ana, ganizirani ngati zingatheke kuiwala zokumbukira zoipa, khululukirani mnzanuyo ndikuyambiranso.
Ngakhale kusudzulana kuli kovuta, makamaka ngati wakale anachitapo kanthu kuti athetse banja, kukhululukirana kumatheka.
Makamaka kwa ana, ndikofunikira kuyesetsa kuti asiye zopwetekazo ndikusankha kupita patsogolo. Izi zitha kutenga nthawi, koma ndikofunikira kuyesetsa ndikuwonetsa ana anu momwe angathetsere zovuta izi.
Pokhazikitsa chitsanzo ichi kwa ana akhazikitsa njira yosinthira bwino gawo lotsatira la moyo wanu, moyo wakale, komanso miyoyo ya ana anu moyenera.