Zamkati
- Kodi nsanje ndi chiyani?
- 1. Munthuyo amafuna nthawi yanu yonse yopuma
- 2. Amayang'ana "zizindikiro" zomwe mumawachita
- 3. Amatsutsa zokonda zanu zakunja
- 4. Munthuyo amasangalala ngati sangakwanitse kukuyandikirani
- 1. Zomverera siziyenera kuchitidwa
- 2. Dzikumbutseni kuti simungathe kumulamulira mnzanu
- 3. Ganiziraninso momwe mumaganizira za maubwenzi
- 4. Khulupirirani nokha mwa luso lanu lachikondi
Kodi ndinu mtundu wa munthu yemwe angachite nsanje pachibwenzi?
Msanje pang'ono ndi wabwinobwino. Mukuwona chibwenzi chanu chikuwononga nthawi yochulukirapo kucheza ndi wogwira naye ntchito wotentha ku phwando lanu la Khrisimasi, kotero kuti kukhala ndi nsanje komanso kusatetezeka kumatha kukhala chinthu chachilendo.
Koma nsanje yochulukirapo, mtundu womwe mumangokhalira kutsata malo ake ochezera nthawi zonse ndikumamuyimbira mkazi aliyense amene amapereka ndemanga pazolemba zake? Izi zitha kukhala zowononga osati paubwenzi wanu wokha komanso mtendere wamalingaliro watsiku ndi tsiku.
Nsanje yochuluka mu maubwenzi siyabwino. Zitha kubweretsa kutha kwa ubale wanu.
Zowonadi, zitha kubweretsa kupha munthu, kumbukirani O.J. Simpson?
Kodi nsanje ndi chiyani?
Nsanje ndikumverera komwe kumadza chifukwa chodziona kuti ndiwe wopanda pake. Chifukwa simukumva kukhala wotetezeka, mumakhala ndi nkhawa komanso nkhawa pamene mnzanu ali ndi chidwi ndi wina.
Anthu ansanje amaopsezedwa kuti wokondedwa wawo apeza wina wokongola ndikuwasiya.
Munthu wansanje amamva kuti sangakwanitse kuchita zambiri ndikuti zonse zomwe zingafune kuti wokondedwa wawo awasiye ndi mkazi wina, "wabwino" kuposa iwo.
Nsanje ingakhale yosangalatsa kwa mnzanu. Atha kuwona izi ngati chizindikiro kuti mumawakondadi, ndipo akunena zowona. Koma nsanje yachilendo si yosangalatsa. Ikhoza kuwonetsa zovuta zakuya zamaganizidwe.
Kodi ndi ziti zomwe zikuwonetsa kuti nsanje ndiyabwino m'mabanja?
1. Munthuyo amafuna nthawi yanu yonse yopuma
Chikondi chikakhala chachilendo ndizachilendo kufuna kukhala ndi chidwi chanu mwachikondi momwe mungathere.
Anthu athanzi amadziwa kuti izi sizotheka nthawi zonse. Anthu amayenera kugwira ntchito, ali ndi maudindo kunja kwa ntchito, amakonda kupita kumalo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi, kuchita zokonda zawo, ndi zina zambiri.
Munthu wansanje kwambiri amakwiya nthawi yomwe amakhala kutali ndi iwo ndipo amalola wokondedwa wawo kudziwa izi mwa kulira, kudandaula, nthawi zina ngakhale kulira.
Ndiyo mbendera yofiira ya nsanje pachibwenzi.
2. Amayang'ana "zizindikiro" zomwe mumawachita
Munthu wansanje ndiye Nthawi zonse mumakayikira zomwe mukuchita mukakhala nawo.
Samakukhulupirirani, osati chifukwa choti mwawapatsa chifukwa chosakukhulupirirani, koma chifukwa chosowa kwawo ndikuti ndinu osakhulupirika ngati simuli nawo.
Ngati muli ndi mawu omwe akubwera, adzafuna kudziwa komwe akuchokera.
Mukasiya foni yanu ndikutseguka, adzadutsa mumaimelo anu ndi imelo. Ngati mupita kunja ndi anzanu usiku, munthu wansanjeyo amakuyimbirani kuti mutsimikizire kuti muli komwe mudanena.
3. Amatsutsa zokonda zanu zakunja
Munthu wansanje sachitira nsanje anzanu okha komanso momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito nthawi yanu yopumula.
Amawona zinthu izi ngati mpikisano komanso kudziopseza. Chifukwa chake adzanyoza zomwe mumakonda, kuzitcha kuti zazing'ono kapena kuwononga nthawi.
Adzapeza cholakwika ndi abale anu ndikunyoza anzanu. Cholinga chawo ndikulekanitsani inu ndi chilichonse chomwe chimakusowetsani kwa iwo, ngakhale tsiku limodzi.
Ichi ndi chizindikiro chodziwika bwino cha nsanje yosayenera m'mabwenzi!
4. Munthuyo amasangalala ngati sangakwanitse kukuyandikirani
Munthu wansanjeyo sangapirire ngati mwazimitsa foni yanu chifukwa chokhala pamsonkhano, kapena kugona pang'ono.
Simunawatumizireko nthawi yomweyo? Khalani okonzekera mikangano ina.
Kulephera kwanu kuyankha kumatanthauza kuti mukusamala china chake kupatula iwo, ndipo kwa munthu wansanje, sizovomerezeka.
Ngati mukudzizindikira nokha mwa izi mwamafotokozedwe, mudzafunika kuyesetsa kuchepetsa kapena kuthetsa nsanje yoyipa m'mayanjano.
Adzachotsa ubale wanu wapamtima.
Ngati, mukulimbana ndi momwe mungalekere nsanje pachibwenzi, onerani vidiyo iyi ya Noah Elkrief.
Nawa maupangiri ochepetsera nkhawa zanu pamabanja.
1. Zomverera siziyenera kuchitidwa
Kodi kukhala nsanje? Poyamba, mukayamba kumva chilombo chamaso obiriwira, imani ndi kuvomereza.
Inde, mukuchita nsanje. Koma zitha kuyimira pamenepo. Ndizovuta kusiya kuchita nsanje, komabe, palibe chifukwa chochitira kalikonse koma kumverera kumverera uku.
Kulimbana ndi nsanje m'maubale sikophweka, koma kuvomereza malingaliro anu kumatha kukuthandizani kuti mukhale mwamtendere ndi izi ndikuthandizani kuthana ndi nsanje, pambuyo pake.
Dzichotsereni nokha pochita china chomwe chimakupangitsani kuti musangalale. Gawo losinkhasinkha ndi zitsimikiziro zina, mwachitsanzo.
2. Dzikumbutseni kuti simungathe kumulamulira mnzanu
Kodi mungagonjetse bwanji nsanje m'njira yabwino, yosinthira? Chimodzi mwamalangizo chothana ndi nsanje ndikumvetsetsa kuti nsanje ikhoza kukhala yakupha maubale mwakachetechete.
Pamene nsanje yanu imakupangitsani kufuna kuyika ma tabu omwe mnzanu amakhala nthawi zonse, kumbukirani: kusatsimikizika ndi gawo la moyo wabwinobwino. Kusapezeka kwa winayo sikutanthauza kuti ali ndi munthu wina.
Koma kuwalamulira sikutsimikizira kuti adzakhala nanu.
M'malo mwake, mwina ziziwatsogolera kukusiyani. Gonjetsani nsanje m'mabwenzi musanawononge moyo wanu. Pamapeto pake, zonse ndizodzizindikira munthawi yake.
3. Ganiziraninso momwe mumaganizira za maubwenzi
Chikondi sichitanthauza kuti onse awiri sangakopeke ndi wina aliyense, choncho siyani kukhala osatetezeka.
Sizachilendo nonse kupeza anthu ena owoneka bwino.
Palibe chifukwa choponyera nsanje chifukwa mnzanu akuti akupeza Kate Upton wokongola. Muli ndi chinsinsi kwa Ryan Gosling, sichoncho? "Mutha kukhala ndi zakudya koma sizitanthauza kuti simungayang'ane pazosankha", monga akunenera. Ndizosamveka konse kuchitira nsanje maubale akale,
Njira imodzi yochotsera nsanje ndikukhazikitsanso zomwe mukuyembekezera kuchokera kwa mnzanuyo komanso ubalewo.
Kuletsa nsanje m'maubale sikophweka. Kufunafuna chithandizo cha nsanje ndi kusatetezeka kungakuthandizeni kuti musiye kukhumudwa m'malo mongolimbana nawo nokha.
Ngati mukuyembekezera zomwe sizingachitike pachibwenzi, gwirani ntchito ndi othandizira kuti musinthe ziyembekezozi, ndikuthandizani kuthetsa nsanje yanu.
Katswiri, wodalirika wothandizila wachitatu amakupatsani malingaliro oyenera amomwe mungachitire ndi nsanje m'banja kapena upangiri wothana ndi nsanje komanso kusatetezeka m'maubale apamtima.
4. Khulupirirani nokha mwa luso lanu lachikondi
Malingaliro ambiri a nsanje muubwenzi amachokera pamalo omwe amadzimva osayenera chikondi.
Ndiye, mungatani kuti musiye nsanje pachibwenzi ndikuthana ndi nkhawa komanso ukali womwe umakudzazani?
Yesetsani kukulitsa kudzidalira kwanu komanso zikhulupiriro zanu pazofunika zanu.
Mudzawona kuti mukadzisungira nokha, nsanje yanu kwa ena idzachepa. Mukupita kukakhala ndi malingaliro abwino, oyenera komanso osangalala.
Tikukhulupirira, malangizo awa kuti athetse nsanje pachibwenzi adzakuthandizani kuzindikira, ndikusiya malingaliro opanda pake, owononga, ndikuwasiya.
Monga momwe mawu otchuka a Bob Marley akupitilira momwe angathetsere nsanje, "Moyo ndi msewu umodzi waukulu wokhala ndi zizindikilo zambiri. Chifukwa chake mukamakwera kudutsa, musavutitse malingaliro anu. Thawirani chidani, zoipa, ndi nsanje. Osabisa malingaliro anu, ikani masomphenya anu kukhala owona. Dzuka Ukhale ndi Moyo! ”
Chifukwa chake, musachite manyazi ndi nsanje muubwenzi, tsegulani chitseko chakuzindikira ndikuphunzira kuthana ndi nsanje pachibwenzi.