Zamkati
- Chifukwa chake kukhululuka ndikofunikira
- Yang'anani zabwino
- Mverani chisoni mzake
- Lankhulani kuti mupeze thandizo
- Malangizo a momwe mungathetsere mkwiyo muukwati
Kukhululukirana koona mu ubale kumathandizira kukhala ndiubwenzi wosangalala komanso wathanzi. Chikondi ndi kukhululukirana zimayenderana.
Kwa iwo omwe akuyang'ana mayankho otsimikizika a funsoli, kodi kukhululuka ndi chiyani ndipo chifukwa chiyani kuli kofunikira, tisaiwale kuti palibe amene ali wangwiro. Kukhululuka ndikutanthauza kuwonetsa kuvomereza kuti ndiwe munthu ndipo ukhoza kuvulazidwa ndikumva kuwawa.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake kukhululuka ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti ubale uliwonse ukhale wathanzi komanso wopambana. Maanja omwe amakhulupirira kuti okondedwa awo adzakwaniritsa moyo wawo wamtsogolo ndi ziyembekezo monga gulovu ali pachisoni chachikulu.
Pansi pamzerewu, azindikira kuti onse awiri ali ndi udindo wolakwitsa ndi kukhumudwitsa mnzake.
Ndiye kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti tiziwasiya? Ngati mukufuna kusangalala ndi banja losatha ndi munthu amene mumamukonda ndi kumukonda, ndiye kuti kukulitsa kuthekera kwathu pakukhululuka ndikofunikira. Kumbukirani kuti chikondi ndi kukhululukirana zimayendera limodzi.
Izi zikupempha funso, momwe mungalekerere zakale ndikudaliranso?
Chifukwa chake kukhululuka ndikofunikira
Tisanafotokozere momwe tingakhalire okhululukirana muukwati kapena muukwati, tiyeni tiwone zina mwazomwe zingachitike chifukwa chokhala ndi mkwiyo.
- Ikuwonjezera mkwiyo ndiubwenzi muukwati
- Zolepheretsa kuthekera kwathu kusangalala ndikukhala munthawiyo
- Zimawonjezera nkhawa zathu komanso kukhumudwa
- Amatisiyanitsa ndi anzathu
Ndiye, chifukwa chiyani kukhululuka ndikofunikira?
“Ngati simumakhululuka, ndiye kuti ndiye amene mumalipira kwambiri”
Ngakhale titha kudziwa zonsezi ndikukhulupiliranso kuti ndikofunikira kukhululuka ndikusiya, mwina sizingakhale zophweka. Anthu ambiri, ngakhale omwe ali okonzeka kukhululuka ndikuiwala, samadziwa za momwe angakhululukire ndikusunthira patsogolo.
Kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti munthu ayenera kumayiwalirabe, kukhala pansi ndikulimbana ndi nkhanza? Inde sichoncho! Nazi njira ndi njira zotsimikizika zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuti muzikhululukire wina amene adakunyengani.
Nthawi zina, zimangokhudza malingaliro.
Kwa ena, kukhululuka wina chifukwa chobera silifunso, popeza aganiza zothetsa chibwenzi chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika komanso kuwonongeka kwamaganizidwe ndi malingaliro kumangothetsa chibwenzi chawo. Kukhululukirana mu chibwenzi ndikosavuta kuposa kuchita.
Kwa ambiri, kubera pachibwenzi ndi chimodzi mwazovuta zomwe zimalepheretsa mnzanu wosabera ndikusankha kovuta kukhalabe pachibwenzi ndi mnzakeyo.
Ngakhale itha kukhala chinthu chomaliza chomwe mungafune kuchita, makamaka ngati mukuwona kuti zakulakwirani kwambiri, khalani ndi zotsatira zabwino za gawolo.
Kodi idakutengerani chiyani chamtengo wapatali?
Mukasintha malingaliro anu ndikugwiritsa ntchito zomwezo kuti mupeze maphunziro ofunikira, ndikupeza yankho la funsoli, momwe mungakhululukire mnzanu wonyenga sizikhala zosavuta.
Yesani kudziyika nokha munthawi ya mnzanu.
Yesetsani kumvetsetsa zomwe adakumana nazo, kapena chifukwa chake mwina adachita izi akulekerera mkwiyo m'banja. Unikani ngati munalakwitsapo chimodzimodzi m'mbuyomu.
Yesetsani kuganizira za mikhalidwe yawo yabwino; zonsezi zitha kukuthandizani kumvetsetsa kuti sichinali cholinga chawo kukupweteketsani. Mwinamwake, akuchitirana ndi mavuto awo omwe alibe chochita ndi inu.
Malangizo abwino amomwe mungakhululukire munthu amene akupitilirabe kukuvutitsani ndi - osamvera mawu anu amkati otsutsa; yesetsani kumvetsetsa momwe mungathere.
Ngati wokhumudwitsidwayo anali wovulaza kwambiri, monga pankhani ya kubera, kusiya ndikupitiliza kukhala pachibwenzi kumakhala kovuta kwambiri.
Zikatero, ndibwino kuti mulankhule ndi munthu amene muli naye pafupi kapena kuti mupeze thandizo kwa akatswiri kuti mumve bwino momwe mukumvera mukamalimbana ndi kukhululuka ndikusiya.
Mwanjira imeneyi mudzatha kupeza chithandizo choyenera kuti mudzithandizire pochita izi ndikupanga maluso ofunikira pakukhululuka.
Mukapwetekedwa, zonse zomwe mukufuna kuchita ndikufuula kapena kulira.
Kuyesera kukhululuka kungakhale chinthu chomaliza m'maganizo mwanu. Koma dzipatseni nthawi ndipo mudzadziwa chifukwa chake kuli kofunika kuthana ndi nkhawa zam'mbuyomu, musiye kukhululuka - zonsezi kuti zikuthandizeni. Yesani njira izi zakukhululukirana mbanja ndikuwona momwe zimakuthandizirani kukula monga munthu.
Onaninso:
Kukwiya muukwati kapena ubale wina uliwonse kwakanthawi ndi wakupha mwakachetechete komwe kumawopseza ubale wanu.
Nawa maupangiri ochepa oti mupange banja lanu kuti liziyenda bwino ngati mkwiyo ukusokoneza banja lanu.
- Self-lamulo ndikuwongolera momwe mukumvera ndizofunikira kwambiri mukafuna kukhululukirana muubwenzi ndikuchira mabala a kusakhulupirika.
- Zindikirani zimenezo kukhululukirana muubwenzi sikutanthauza kulekerera zoipa zomwe mnzanu akuchita. M'malo mwake, kukhululukirana muubwenzi kumawonetsera kukula ngati banja, komanso tsogolo lopanda mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo.
- Pewani kudzipatula kwamalingaliro ndi kwakuthupi, ndipo pangani chitsogozo cholandirira kumvera ena chisoni, chikondi ndi kulumikizana kwabwino muubwenzi wanu.
- Musalole kuti kunyalanyaza kukula ndikuchepetsa nkhawa zanu. Monga kupitiriza kwa kukhululuka mu ubale, yang'anani pa machiritso munthawi yochepa posakhalitsa kukhumudwa kwanthawi yayitali.
Kusungirana chakukhosi paubwenzi ndi chisonyezo chodzilangira nokha osati mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu yekha. Chifukwa chake, lekani kukhala akapolo amalingaliro anu olakwika.
Chofunika kwambiri, kuvomereza kuti ubale wanu uli ndi ming'alu, ndipo kutha kuwononga ubale wanu ndikofunikira kuti mukhululukire chibwenzi, ndikuyambiranso. Gwiritsani ntchito chigamba chokhwimitsachi ngati chowongolera kuti mulimbitse kulumikizana kwanu ndi mnzanu, ndikupanga masitayilo olumikizana bwino.