Zamkati
- Njira 12 zothanirana ndi bwenzi loipa
- 1. Musayese kulumikizana ndi mnzanu kudzera mukusokonezeka
- 2. Mvetsetsani ndikuvomereza kuti siinu oyang'anira mphamvu yamnzanu
- 3. Pewani kuvomereza kulakwa kulikonse mukakhala kuti simulakwa
- 4. Mvetsetsani zomwe zimayambitsa kusakhulupirika kudzera pakulankhulana momasuka
- 5. Zokhudza zochitika zazikulu m'moyo pamalingaliro amukwati
- 6. Khalani achifundo kuti muthandizane
- 7. Yesetsani kudzizindikira
- 8. Dziwani kuti simungathe kuthetsa mavuto a mnzanu
- Lolani kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro abwino ndikukhala osangalala
- 10. Palibe chifukwa choweruzira partne wanur
- 11. Mutha kuyesetsa kukhala anzeru zam'maganizo ndikukhala okhwima
- 12. Chithandizo chitha kukhala chothandiza kwambiri
- Mapeto
Ukwati uliwonse umabwera ndi magawo ake abwino. Komabe, zovuta zothana ndi mnzanu yemwe ali ndi malingaliro olakwika kapena opanda chiyembekezo atha kukhala vuto losiyana kwathunthu.
Ngakhale pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zingapo zokhudzana ndi thanzi lam'mutu zomwe mnzanu angakhale atenga kapena kukhala ndi malingaliro olakwika, ndizovuta kuthana nazo kapena kuzolowera.
Ngati mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungathanirane ndi mnzanu wapabanja, nkhaniyi ingakuthandizeni kwambiri. Kulimbana ndi kunyalanyaza kapena malingaliro olakwika a mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu zitha kuyambitsa mavuto m'banja.
Tiyeni tiyambe mwa kupuma pang'ono. Pali kuthekera kwakukulu kosintha zinthu ndikukhazikitsa njira zomwe zatchulidwa munkhaniyi
Pitirizani kudzilemeretsa nokha ndi kuteteza banja lanu kuti likhale lolimba!
Njira 12 zothanirana ndi bwenzi loipa
Choyamba, tiyeni tiyesetse kumvetsetsa kuti kuti mudziwe momwe mungathanirane ndi mnzanu wapabanja, muyenera kudziwa kuti mwina akukumana ndi mavuto azaumoyo monga kukhumudwa kapena kukhumudwa.
Mwina atakulungidwa ndi mphamvu zawo zoyipa osazindikira ngakhale pang'ono momwe zimawakhudzira, komanso, zimakhudza anthu owazungulira.
Ngati mukumva kuti banja lanu likhoza kukhala lowopsa chifukwa cha kusayanjanitsika konse, mwayi ndikuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu sakudziwa izi!
Mutha kulingalira kugwiritsa ntchito njira 12 zotsatirazi kuti muthane ndi mnzanuyo:
1. Musayese kulumikizana ndi mnzanu kudzera mukusokonezeka
Ndi chibadwa chofananitsa zomwe zimakhudzidwa ndi zomwe mumakonda. Pokhudzana ndi mnzanu, izi zimachitika pafupipafupi.
Komabe, ngati malingaliro a mnzanuyo ali oyipa, kufananiza momwe mukumvera ndi mnzanuyo kuti mupange kulumikizana, mwatsoka, sikugwira ntchito.
Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa negativity imafalikira!
Kudziwa momwe mungathanirane ndi mnzanu yemwe ali ndi vuto ndi gawo lanu loyamba. Ngati mungayesere kulumikizana nawo powafotokozera zokhumudwitsa, mungomudyetsa kwambiri.
Chifukwa chake, pamapeto pake mudzakhumudwa kwambiri ngati mungayesere kulumikizana ndi mawonekedwe owonetsa. Mutha kukhala opsinjika, okhumudwa, okhumudwitsidwa, kapena zinthu zonsezi pamodzi!
2. Mvetsetsani ndikuvomereza kuti siinu oyang'anira mphamvu yamnzanu
Muyenera kukhazikitsa malire abwino kuti mudziteteze ku mphamvu zopanda mphamvu. Malire oyenera ali ofunikira kuti ubale ukhale wachikondi, waulemu, komanso wokhalitsa.
Komabe, munthawiyi, ndizofunikira kwambiri. Ngakhale mnzanu amakhala wokondedwa wanu, simuli woyang'anira mnzanu. Simuli oyang'anira anzanu!
Ngati mutenga udindowu, mudzawona kufunika kokonza zomwe zili zolakwika ndi mnzanu. Izi zitha kukupanikizani mopitirira muyeso. Osazichita nokha. Kumbukirani kuti inu ndi mnzanu nonse ndinu achikulire!
Ingokukumbutsani nthawi zonse kuti simungathe kuyang'anira chisangalalo cha mnzanu. Sizigwira ntchito mwanjira imeneyi. Simungayike moyo wanu pachiswe kuti muyese kukonza moyo wa wina.
3. Pewani kuvomereza kulakwa kulikonse mukakhala kuti simulakwa
Mukamachita ndi mnzanu wopanda pake, nthawi zambiri mumadzipeza nokha pomwe anzanu amakunenerani zachinyengo.
Izi zikachitika, yesetsani kuthana ndi izi. Palibe chifukwa chobwezera ndikunyalanyaza kapena kudzichitira nokha phwando.
Zitha kumveka zopanda chilungamo mukamayimbidwa mlandu pazinthu zomwe simukuzilamulira. Koma ndiye kuti mukuwongolera pazomwe mwasankha kuvomera.
Mukamadzimva kuti muli ndi udindo pazomwe zikuchitika, zivomerezeni. Koma ngati simulakwa, simuyenera kukhala wopezera chinyengo mnzanuyo.
4. Mvetsetsani zomwe zimayambitsa kusakhulupirika kudzera pakulankhulana momasuka
Pankhani yakumvetsetsa momwe mungachitire ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna woyipa, ndikofunikira kukhazikitsa malire oyenera, muyeneranso kutsegula njira yolumikizirana ndi mnzanu.
Mwanjira imeneyi, mutha kuthandiza mnzanu pomwe mukuziteteza. Khalani pansi ndi amuna anu kapena akazi anu. Yambitsani kukambirana kuti mumvetsetse chifukwa chomwe akumvera momwe amamvera.
Ngati nonse mutha kugwirira ntchito limodzi kuti muthandize mnzanu kuyendetsa njira zawo kuti azindikire zomwe zimayambitsa malingaliro kapena malingaliro awo olakwika, kuzindikira kumatha kuthandiza mnzanu.
Gwero la malingaliro olakwika lingakhale ambiri. Kungakhale zokumana nazo zoyipa zaubwana, kulera ana molakwika, zochitika zomvetsa chisoni zomwe mwina mnzanu adakumana nazo, ndi zina zotero.
Nthawi zambiri, anthu samadziwa chifukwa chake ali momwe aliri. Chifukwa chake, kuzindikira kwina kumatha kuwathandiza.
5. Zokhudza zochitika zazikulu m'moyo pamalingaliro amukwati
Monga tanenera poyamba, malingaliro olakwika kapena malingaliro atha kukhala chifukwa cha zokumana nazo m'mbuyomu.
Zochitika zofunikira pamoyo zimatha kukhudza kwambiri kuthekera kwa munthu kuwongolera momwe akumvera. Chifukwa chake, mutha kukhala pansi ndikuganiza za chochitika chilichonse chofunikira, makamaka zomwe mwina zidachitika posachedwa m'moyo wa mnzanu.
Kodi mnzanu mwadzidzidzi wasowa ntchito? Kodi aferedwa wokondedwa wawo? Kodi adakangana ndi munthu yemwe anali pafupi naye? Kodi mnzanu ali wathanzi?
Yankhani mafunso awa nokha ndikufunsani mnzanuyo kuti ayankhe mafunso awa. Izi ndizofunikira pophunzira momwe mungathanirane ndi mnzanu yemwe ali ndi vuto.
6. Khalani achifundo kuti muthandizane
Mukakwatirana ndi munthu, nkofunika kumuthandiza. Ndikofunika kuwathandiza ndikukhala nawo nthawi yosangalala komanso yovuta pamoyo wawo.
Chifundo ndi njira yabwino yosonyezera chikondi chanu komanso kuthandiza munthu wopanda pake. Chifukwa chake, mungakhale bwanji achifundo osatengeka ndi malingaliro olakwika a amuna anu?
Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti kumvera ena chisoni ndi malingaliro ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana. Mukayamba kumvera chisoni munthu wopanda pake, malire amalingaliro sangakhaleko.
Mukakhala achifundo, musankha kutsimikizira momwe akumvera popanda kudziyika nokha povuta kuti mumve momwe mnzanu akumvera.
Chifukwa chake khalani omvera achifundo.
Onani kanemayu mwachangu kuti mupeze malangizo amomwe mungathandizire mnzake:
7. Yesetsani kudzizindikira
Munthu aliyense mdziko lino amabwera ndi gawo lawo la katundu.
Koma kumvetsetsa za iwe mwini mwa kudzizindikira wekha kumatha kudziteteza. Mukadzidziwa nokha, mutha kumvetsetsa bwino komwe mukuyang'anira.
Mutha kumvetsetsa zomwe zimayambitsa inu, chifukwa chake, khazikitsani malire anu mukamakhala ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wolakwika. Kugwira ntchito pakudzizindikira kwanu kungakuthandizeni kuti mudziteteze ku kusokonekera muukwati.
8. Dziwani kuti simungathe kuthetsa mavuto a mnzanu
Monga tanenera kale, malire amafunika kuthana ndi malingaliro olakwika a mkazi.
Gawo lalikulu lokhala ndi malire pamalingaliro ndikuvomereza kuti simudzakhala ndi njira zothetsera mavuto amnzanu.
Gawo lofunikira la momwe mungachitire ndi mnzanu yemwe ali ndi vuto ndikudziwa kuti anthu akakhala ndi malingaliro olakwika, amafuna mnzake womvetsetsa. Osati kuthetsa mavuto.
Mwakutero, mnzanuyo amangofuna kuti mumumvetse.
Lolani kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro abwino ndikukhala osangalala
Tsopano chifukwa chakuti muli pachibwenzi cholakwika sizitanthauza kuti simukuyenera kukhala osangalala.
Ndizotheka kuti mukhale ndi nkhawa ndikusamalira mnzanu pomwe mukukhala ndi chiyembekezo komanso chisangalalo.
Chitani nawo zinthu ndi zinthu zomwe zimakusangalatsani.
10. Palibe chifukwa choweruzira partne wanur
Malingaliro oweluza ndiopanda phindu pankhani yakudziwa momwe mungathanirane ndi mnzanu yemwe ali ndi vuto.
Maganizo oweruza ena chifukwa cha malingaliro okhumudwitsa a mnzanuyo akhoza kubwerera. Nkhani ndiyakuti, mwina mutha kuganiza kuti mukudziwa zomwe zingamuyendere mnzanu, koma sizomwezo!
Mukayamba kuweruza ena, mutha kukhalanso ndi malingaliro olakwika! Izi ndichifukwa choti mudzatengeka ndikumachita zomwe mukuganiza kuti ndizolakwika ndi amuna kapena akazi anu.
11. Mutha kuyesetsa kukhala anzeru zam'maganizo ndikukhala okhwima
Ngakhale luntha lamaganizidwe ndi gawo logwirira ntchito kudzizindikira kwanu, limafunikira chisamaliro chapadera.
Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa nkhani yanu yayikulu ikukhudzana ndi kukhumudwa kwa mnzanu.
Chifukwa chake, ngati mukudziwa bwino momwe mumamvera, momwe mungafotokozere moyenera momwe mumamvera, momwe mungawerengere chipinda ndikuchitapo kanthu moyenera, simudzangodziteteza nokha, mutha kukhala ndi mwayi wosonkhezera mnzanu kuti agwire ntchito pa yekha / yekha.
12. Chithandizo chitha kukhala chothandiza kwambiri
Njira imodzi yothanirana ndi chiyembekezo yomwe ingakhale yolimbikitsidwa ndi kuwalimbikitsa kusankha kuchitapo kanthu mwaukadaulo.
Kufunika kwa malingaliro osakondera komanso akatswiri pakukonda mgwirizanowu ndi kopindulitsa kwambiri.
Therapy si njira yongothandiza kwa mnzanu, itha kukuthandizani. Ngati mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungathanirane ndi wokwatirana naye yemwe alibe, mutha kusungitsa nthawi yokumana ndi katswiri wazachipatala!
Njira ina yabwino ndikupita kuchipatala. Mwanjira imeneyi, nonse muphunzira momwe mungathetsere kusayanjanaku ndikuchita nokha ndi ubale mogwirizana.
Mapeto
Tsopano popeza mukudziwa momwe mungachitire ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wolakwayo, mutha kuyamba kugwiritsa ntchito njirazi kuti mudziteteze ndikupulumutsa banja lanu. Khulupirirani kapena ayi, njira izi zimagwira ntchito!