Zamkati
- 1. Kudzisamalira pamaso pa okondedwa
- 2. Pitani pa bwenzi
- 3. Kuzunza ndi kuwonongeka kwake
- 4. Pangani "Ife" kuti tigwiritse ntchito
- 5. Khalani kusintha komwe mukufuna kuwona
Kodi mungapulumutse bwanji banja lanu pamene zinthu zikuyenda kumwera mu paradaiso wam'banja?
Banja lililonse limayenda modutsa. Pali masiku omwe banja limakhala lodzaza ndi chimwemwe komanso chiyembekezo, ndipo pamakhala masiku omwe banja limadzazidwa ndi kutaya mtima kwathunthu. Mukumenyedwa ndi paranoia, pomwe "banja langa likutha" likumveka m'mutu mwanu.
Mumatani mukakhala kuti muli pabanja lakuya, ndipo mukufunafuna njira zopulumutsira banja lanu? Kodi mumadalira ndani kuti akutsogolereni? Kodi mungatani kuti mupulumutse banja ngati vuto lakuchulukirachulukira?
Kwa iwo amene akufuna yankho la momwe angapulumutsire banja lanu, nazi malangizo ndi njira zopezera ukwati.
1. Kudzisamalira pamaso pa okondedwa
Kodi mumakumana ndi mafunso osokoneza bongo monga:
“Kodi ukwatiwu ungapulumuke?”
“Kodi ukwati wanga ukuyenera kupulumutsidwa?”
Khwerero 1 muzinthu zoti muchite kuti muteteze banja nthawi zonse limatanthauza kudzisamalira.
Nthawi zina kudzisamalira kumayambitsanso kupulumutsa ukwati.
Musanayambe kuthana ndi mavuto omwe abweretsa mavuto m'banja, muyenera kuchita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mukhalebe athanzi, osangalala, komanso athanzi.
Yambani ndi kuyenda mwachangu kuti mukalimbikitse ma endorphin othandiza. Funani thandizo la mlangizi wachikondi kuti akuthandizeni kuthana ndi zowawa ndi chisoni. Chitani nawo pemphero kapena chitsogozo chauzimu kuti chikuthandizeni kukhala "wokhazikika" pa njira yovuta patsogolo panu.
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2. Pitani pa bwenzi
Kudzisamalira kwanu kuli m'manja abwino, ndizothandiza kuthana ndi mavuto am'banja ndi mnzanu yemwe mwasiyana naye.
Kodi mungatani kuti mupulumutse banja lanu?
Zomwe zingathandize kuti banja likhale labwino zimaphatikizapo kugwiritsa ntchito chilankhulo "Choyamba", kufotokoza momveka bwino zaukwati monga mukuwonera.
Kuyeserera kumvetsera mwachidwi, perekani mnzanu mpata woti afotokozere za zovuta zam'banja.
Ngati inu ndi mnzanu mumatha kuchita izi mosavutikira kwenikweni, zitha kuwonetsa kuti muli ndi zida zomwe zingakuthandizeni nonse kupitilira kukakamizidwa ndikupulumutsa banja lanu.
Ngati kuyanjana kuli kolemetsa, pitani nthawi yomweyo kukafunsira kwa wololera yemwe ali ndi zilolezo kuti akusungireni njira zopulumutsira banja lanu.
Njira yabwino yopulumutsira banja ndikuthandizira abwenzi omwe angakuthandizeni kukambirana pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu.
3. Kuzunza ndi kuwonongeka kwake
Mutakhala ndi njira zotopetsa zopezera banja lanu, kodi mumakonda kudzifunsa kuti, ndi liti pamene mungataye banja lanu?
"Ukwati wanga ukulephera chifukwa chakuzunzidwa" - ngati mwazindikira kuti fupa lakumangika opanda chiyembekezo muukwati ndi nkhanza zamthupi, zogonana kapena zamaganizidwe, ndiye muyenera kupanga chiweruzo ndikusiya mavuto mukukhala chete.
Ngati nkhanza mwa mtundu umodzi kapena mitundu yonse yalowa muukwati, ndikofunikira kukhazikitsa dongosolo lachitetezo ndikusiya ukwati mwachangu m'malo mofufuza njira zopulumutsira banja lanu.
Ngakhale zokambirana komanso chiyembekezo chokhala ndi ubale watsopano zitha kulimbikitsa chiyembekezo chanu, kuzunzidwa sikungaloledwe. Wopondereza yemwe sakufuna kufunafuna chithandizo cha nkhanza payekha, apitilizabe kuzungulira kwamuyaya.
Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, dzichitireni zabwino komanso muteteze tsogolo lanu. Palibe banja lomwe liyenera kupulumutsidwa ngati zomwe zachitika muukwati zimawononga thanzi la m'modzi kapena onse awiri. Kuteteza banja lomwe likulephera sikuyenera kuthana ndi thanzi lanu.
4. Pangani "Ife" kuti tigwiritse ntchito
Ngati mungadzifunse moona mtima, kodi mumapezeka kuti mukuwopseza malingaliro a mnzanu chifukwa mukufuna kuyima bwino? Kapena mwakhala mukumva chisoni chifukwa choti mnzanu adasokoneza maloto anu pofuna kukwaniritsa zolinga zawo?
M'malo mopanga ukwati kukhala malo oti azithandizira okha, bweretsani chidwi chaubwenzi. Gwirani ntchito ngati gulu, pomwe palibe nonse mwa inu amene amapambana kapena kutaya.
Kumene mukukumana ndi mavuto m'banja ndipo simukukhana ngati otsutsana. Limbikitsani ubale wanu pochita zomwe zikugwirizana ndi banja lanu, mosiyana ndi zomwe zimakuwonetsani kuti ndinu wolondola.
Musalole kuti mphwayi inyamuke mutu muukwati wanu. Yesetsani kupangitsa mnzanu kumva kuti akumva, akutsimikizika, komanso kuyamikiridwa.
Mutha kupulumutsa banja lomwe likulephera mwa kusintha kusiyana ngati malo ophunzirira kuti mumvetse zambiri za mnzanuyo ndikulumikizananso kwambiri.
5. Khalani kusintha komwe mukufuna kuwona
Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani ngati banja lanu likusokonekera? Kumbukirani, chibwenzi chimakhala chophatikizika cha kugwira ntchito molimbika, kudzipereka, komanso kuyesetsa.
Banja likaputidwa, ndikusowa zoyeserera kuchokera mbali zonse zomwe zimayambitsa ukwati wachimwemwe.
Mukufuna kuwona mnzanu akusintha mwa iwo okha zomwe zingathandize kumanga banja labwino. Koma kumangokhalira kukangana, kudzudzula ena, komanso kuwadzudzula mwankhanza kumasiya mnzanuyo alibe chidwi chokwanira chothandizira kuti mukhale ndi banja losangalala.
Njira imodzi yopulumutsira banja kusudzulana ndikuchotsa chidwi pa zofooka za mnzanu ndikupanga mphamvu yakuwonetsera. Pitilizani kugwira ntchito mwa inu nokha, ndipo posachedwa muwona zotsatira zake zikuwonetsa, pomwe ubale wosagwirizana umasweka ndipo ukwati umapulumutsidwa.
Onaninso moona mtima zomwe mwathandizira kukulitsa ukwati, ndikudzipereka kuti mugwire nawo gawo lokonzanso ubale womwe wasweka ndikupulumutsa banja lanu.
Ngati zonsezi zikumveka kuti ndizochulukirapo, palibe vuto kufikira katswiri wotsimikizika yemwe angakuthandizeni kuti muwone kupyola mikangano ndi zoyipa zomwe zili pachibwenzi chanu ndikuchitapo kanthu kuti muteteze banja lanu.
Pamodzi kapena m'malo mwa akatswiri othandiza, ndibwino kuti mutengepo banja lodzidalira pa intaneti kuti muphunzire zambiri za momwe mungakhalire ndi banja losangalala komanso kuthana ndi mavuto am'banja.