Zamkati
- Momwe ubale wamaubwenzi ungakhudzire ana anu
- Zitsanzo za makolo zimapangitsa kusiyana konse
- Gawani ntchito mofanana
- Lankhulani zakukhosi kwanu moona mtima
- Sonyezani chikondi
Pamene timaganizira zokhala ndi ana, ine ndi mkazi wanga tinagwirizana kuti tichite chilichonse chomwe tingachite kuti tikhale ndi banja labwino, makamaka pakati pamavuto osayembekezereka. Pofika nthawi yomwe timayamba kulandira ana athu mnyumba, tidali okonzeka kuwapatsa maziko okhazikika a ukwati wathu waulemu komanso wachikondi.
Momwe ubale wamaubwenzi ungakhudzire ana anu
Kudzipereka kwathu kokhazikika kuubwenzi wathu kudalimbikitsidwa ndi ubale womwe tidawona pakati pa makolo athu ndi zitsanzo zina zazikulu m'miyoyo yathu. Ndinakulira m'banja lachikhalidwe, bambo anga ndiye amalandira malipiro okhaokha ndipo amayi anga amakhala kunyumba nafe ana.
Ponseponse, nyumba yanga yaubwana inali yosangalatsa; Komabe, pali zina mwa makolo akale m'nyumba yanga yaubwana zomwe ine ndi mkazi wanga tinagwirizana kuti zilibe malo m'banja lathu lamtsogolo.
Ubwana wa mkazi wanga sunali wosangalatsa kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri makolo ake ankamenya nkhondo kwambiri, ndipo ngakhale kunalibe kuchitiridwa nkhanza, nkhanza zomwe amachitirana zimakhudza kwambiri mkazi wanga ndi abale anga.
Komabe, mkazi wanga anali wofunitsitsa kuthana ndi vutoli kuti ana athu asadzakhale ndi nkhawa zomwezo. Takhala tikulemekezana nthawi zonse mwala wapangodya wa banja lathu.
Zomwe ana amaphunzira kuchokera kuukwati wanu ndizofunika kwambiri ndipo zimawasiya osazikumbukira. Ndicho chifukwa chake nkofunika kuti muzimusamalira mnzanu m'njira zabwino.
M'zaka zaposachedwa, kafukufuku watsimikizira kusamala kwathu, monga vuto lomwe limatchedwa mwana yemwe wakhudzidwa ndi mavuto am'banja (CAPRD), lawonjezeredwa ku DSM-5. Monga ambiri adziwa kwazaka zambiri, kuwonera makolo ali pachibwenzi kungapangitse ana ku:
- Pangani zikhalidwe zamakhalidwe kapena kuzindikira
- Madandaulo Somatic
- Kutalikirana kwa makolo
- Mkangano wosakhulupirika wamkati
Zitsanzo za makolo zimapangitsa kusiyana konse
Chenjezo loyipa pambali, pali njira zambiri zomwe makolo angawonetsere machitidwe abwino pakuchita kwawo. Ndikofunikira kutsatira njira zina zabwino zoperekera ulemu kwa mnzanu.
Zinthu zina zomwe makolo angathe kuchitirana zomwe zimaphunzitsa ana awo zofunikira ndi izi:
Gawani ntchito mofanana
Ndimagwira ntchito kunyumba, ndipo magwiridwe antchito a mkazi wanga amasiyanasiyana kutengera nyengo. Chifukwa chake, ntchito imodzi yomwe ndaigwirapo ndikupanga chakudya chonse, kuphatikiza chakudya chamasana cha banja.
Ngakhale sindinakhale ndi mwayi wophika mpaka ku koleji, ndimakondadi kupangira banja langa chakudya ndipo ana anga amatha kuwona kuti amuna enieni amachita zomwe zimafunikira. Mkazi wanga amasamalira mbale, ndipo ntchito zina zonse zimagawidwa mofananamo, kuthandiza ana athu kumvetsetsa kuti amayi anga ndi ine ndife ofanana.
Lankhulani zakukhosi kwanu moona mtima
Nthawi zina makolo amakhumudwitsana, makamaka popanda zolinga zoyipa. Ndinachita izi tsiku lina nthawi ya chakudya chamadzulo, ndikupanga ndemanga zomwe sizinakhumudwitse mkazi wanga.
M'malo mongondinyalanyaza ndikumayerekezera kuti zonse zili bwino kapena kuwomba, mkazi wanga amangoyankha kuti zomwe ndanenazo zamupweteka ndikufunsa ngati ndikutanthauza momwe ndanenera. Mwachibadwa, sindinatero, koma ngakhale sindinatanthauze, ndinayesetsabe kupepesa chifukwa chakukhumudwitsidwa.
Ana athu ationa tikulankhulana momasuka komanso moona mtima miyoyo yawo yonse, ndipo abwezera kumasuka kumeneku m'momwe amalankhulira nafe komanso anzawo. Ngakhale kuti si anzawo onse omwe adatha kulumikizana mwachindunji, ambiri adatero, ndipo ana athu akhala ndiubwenzi wabwino.
Sonyezani chikondi
Ngati mukuda nkhawa kuti ana anu atha kusamvana pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu, ndikulimbikitsani kuti mupeze mlangizi wabwino wamaukwati. Mkazi wanga ndi ine takhala tikukhoza kupitilizabe kukonza momwe timalerera komanso kuyang'ana pa banja ndi banja mothandizidwa ndi mlangizi wathu, ndipo ndikukhulupirira makolo aliwonse odzipereka atha kupeza njira yogwirira ntchito limodzi chifukwa cha mabanja awo.