Nthawi zambiri, maanja ambiri amakumana ndi zovuta mbanja lawo chifukwa chosagwirizana bwino ndi apongozi awo. Mu 2013, ziwerengero zidawonetsa kuti 11% ya mabanja opatukana adadzudzula banja lawo chifukwa chosagwirizana ndi apongozi awo. Ngakhale chiwerengerochi sichikuchuluka kwambiri, ndiwodabwitsabe popeza banja siliyenera kutha chifukwa cha maubwenzi osayenera chifukwa cha akunja (aukwati).
Mu moyo, sizabwino konse kukhala ndi ubale wowonongeka ndipo tikamakalamba izi zimakhala zowopsa. Monga anthu, ambiri a ife timayesetsa kukhala moyo womwe ndi wolimbikitsa, wopindulitsa komanso wabwino. Tikufuna kukumbukiridwa chifukwa cha zinthu zodabwitsa zomwe tidachita m'miyoyo yathu, osati zovuta zomwe mwina tidakumana nazo panjira. Njira imodzi yoonetsetsa kuti kukumbukira kwathu kumakhalabe ndi chiyembekezo ndi kukonza ndikumanga ubale uliwonse wosweka womwe ungakhalepo.
Ngati mukukumana ndi mavuto okonza ubale wanu ndi apongozi anu, koma mukufunadi kuthetsa vutoli, tikupereka malingaliro otsatirawa pansipa kuti izi zikhale zosavuta:
Choyamba mvetsetsani momwe ubale wanu ndi apongozi anu umakhudzira banja lanu
- Mnzanu akhoza kukhumudwa kapena kuganiza kuti simumawakonda makolo ake
- Nthawi yabanja, monga tchuthi, imatha kuwonongedwa chifukwa chosagwirizana bwino
- Ana atha kukhudzidwa ndikumverera kuti ali ndi nkhawa
- Kumva kuwawa ndipo kulumikizana kumamveka molakwika
Njira zokulitsira ubale wanu ndi apongozi anu
Pofuna kuchepetsa mavuto omwe banja lanu limakumana nawo chifukwa chocheza bwino ndi apongozi anu, tsatirani malangizo ali m'munsiwa ndikuwona momwe mungalimbitsire ubale wanu ndi apongozi anu:
- Lolani kuti mukhululukire ndikupitilira - kusunga mkwiyo kapena kuipidwa kungokupweteketsani inu, osati munthu amene akukupweteketsani. Lolani kuti musakhale ndi zowawa ndikusunthira kuzinthu zofunika kwambiri komanso zofunika pamoyo wanu.
- M'malo mokhumudwa, mwina yesetsani kumvetsetsa zomwe amakhulupirira. Zachidziwikire kuti kukhumudwa, kulumikizana kumatha kuvuta. Dzikonzekeretseni musanalankhulepo podzikumbutsa kuti nthawi zonse khalani odekha ndikukhala ndikuganiza kaye musanayankhe.
- Sankhani kuti mubweze zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu - Bwerani kumgwirizano kuti zomwe zidachitika kapena zomwe zanenedwa kale zidzatsalira; kuti tisakambirane kapena kugwiritsidwanso ntchito pokambirana mtsogolo. Izi zithandizira kuchira ndi zowawa zomwe mwina zidachitika chifukwa chakulolani kuti mukhale omasuka pankhaniyi komanso kuthekera kwakukhudzaninso.
- Yambani kupita patsogolo ndikumangapo zaubwenzi wanu - Nthawi ikafika yoyenera, yambani kumanga pang'onopang'ono ubale wanu ndi apongozi anu. Mwina mwa kuwaitanira ku phwando la banja kapena paphwando laling'ono kunyumba kwanu.
Ngakhale m'moyo timakumana ndi maubale osavomerezeka, sizitanthauza kuti chibwenzi chilichonse sichingakonzeke. Nthawi zambiri, ngati kulumikizana kowoneka bwino kungatsegulidwe ndikumverera chifundo, ubale wathu wambiri umatha kupirira nthawi yayitali.