Zamkati
- Kukondwerera Tsiku la Valentine ndi banja losavomerezeka
- Palibe amene mwadala amapanga V -Day tsiku losangalatsa
- Lekani kusintha zochita za anthu okuzungulirani
- Ingodzipatulani nokha ku misala
Tsiku la Valentine sili la okondana okhaokha, komanso ndi mwayi wamabanja kukondwerera chikondi pakati pawo.
Nanga bwanji mukadakhala nawo, kapena mumakhala ndi banja losavomerezeka?
Kodi mungatani, kuti muchepetse zopenga patsiku lofunika ngati ili komanso kusamalira zovuta zamabanja?
Kwa zaka 30 zapitazi, wolemba, wogulitsa komanso wogulitsa wamkulu wa Life Coach a David Essel akhala akuthandiza mabanja kuphunzira momwe angachiritsire, kuthana ndi mavuto m'banja, makamaka mozungulira Tsiku la Valentine.
Pansipa, David akupereka malingaliro ake okondwerera tchuthi ndi banja losavomerezeka.
Kukondwerera Tsiku la Valentine ndi banja losavomerezeka
"Zaka zingapo zapitazo, mayi wina wazaka 25 adasaina kukachita uphungu ndi ine kudzera pa Skype, tsiku la Valentine lisanafike chifukwa sankafuna kubwereza zomwe zachitika zaka zingapo zapitazi.
Pomwe amayamba nkhani yake yolephera kugwira ntchito pabanja, maso ake adatuluka m'maso atanena "David, kuyambira ndili mwana wamng'ono zomwe ndimafuna ndimangokhala kuti makolo anga azigwirizana pa Tsiku la Valentine, ndipo zomwe ndimangowona ndimakangano, mikangano, pakati iwo ndi banja lathu lonse. "
Momwe timagwirira ntchito limodzi ndipamene adayamba kuwona kuti ali ndi gawo pakusowa kwamabanja.
Chifukwa amafuna kuti Tsiku la Valentine likhale lapadera kwambiri, adapitilizabe kukwiyitsa makolo ake, powakumbutsa momwe masiku am'mbuyomu a Valentine akhala akudzazidwa ndi zisokonezo komanso zisudzo.
Kodi muli mumkhalidwe wonga uwu? Zilibe kanthu kuti muli ndi zaka 15 kapena 90, ngati mukuchokera kubanja losavomerezeka zitha kukhala zovuta nthawi zina kuti mukhale ogwirizana komanso mwamtendere.
Komanso, penyani kanemayu pazinthu zodziwika bwino za banja losavomerezeka.
Nazi zinthu zingapo zoti muziganizire, munyengo ya Tsiku la Valentine ngati mukuchokera kubanja lopenga.
Momwe mungasamalire Tsiku la Valentine komanso kusokonekera kwa mabanja
Palibe amene mwadala amapanga V -Day tsiku losangalatsa
Mvetsetsani kuti chisokonezo ndi sewero lochokera kubanja lanu mwina lakhala likuperekedwa kwa mibadwo yonse. Kulephera kwamabanja sikuchitika mwadzidzidzi komanso mwakufuna kwanu.
Ndizosowa kwambiri kuti anthu am'banja amadzuka dala pa Tsiku la Valentine ndikuti, tiyeni tikhale tsiku lansangala.
Koma, ngati takulira m'malo omwe tchuthi china chimanyalanyazidwa, kapena ngati atabwera ndi katundu kuchokera m'mbuyomu wachisokonezo ndi sewero, pali mtundu womwe umakhazikitsidwa m'maganizo osazindikira omwe amakhala ngati kugwedezeka kwamabondo, Osangoganiza zodzuka ndikupanga Tsiku la Valentine kukhala tsiku lowopsa, koma kungoti ndichinthu chomwe chakhala chikumbumtima chomwe tidabwereza kuyambira tili ana.
Lekani kusintha zochita za anthu okuzungulirani
M'buku lathu latsopano logulitsa kwambiri, "Zinsinsi za chikondi ndi maubwenzi ... Zomwe aliyense ayenera kudziwa!", Timafotokoza mwatsatanetsatane kugwiritsa ntchito chida chotchedwa kutaya mtima, pamene mukufuna kusintha machitidwe a anthu okuzungulirani omwe nthawi zambiri amakhala wodzazidwa ndi chisokonezo.
Kutaya mtima ndikungoganiza kuti mudzipereka pakadali pano, osapereka malingaliro anu, osapereka upangiri wanu, koma m'malo mwake pumani mpweya ndikulola tsikulo kuti lifikire momwe lingakhalire.
Pomwe ndimagawana nawo kasitomala womaliza uja, adadzuka nthawi yomweyo!
"David, ndikutha kuwona kuti chaka chilichonse ndikayamba kudandaula tsiku la Valentine lisanachitike, ndikufunsa banja langa kuti lipange tsiku losiyana ndi la Valentine m'mbuyomu, ndikhoza kukhala ndikuwonjezera chisokonezo ndi sewero!
Ndikungozisiya zonsezi, ndiwone zomwe zingachitike ngati ndingathe kuchita mosiyana chaka chino mwina ndidzakhala ndi zotulukapo zosiyana. "
Ndipo zomwe zidachitika zidamudabwitsa.
M'malo mongolankhula kwa masiku asanu ndi awiri tsiku la Valentine lisanachitike za momwe zidzakhalire bwino, chaka chosiyana, adangobisalira malingaliro ake, koma adayamba kuyika nyumba zithunzi za mitima, ngakhale tanthauzo lake la zomwe Valentine's Tsiku limatanthauza kwa iye.
Ndipo zinagwira ntchito.
Mwa kudzilekerera kwake, osabweretsa zina zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu, Tsiku la Valentine lidamuthandiza kwambiri iye ndi abale ake onse.
Mchimwene wake wamkulu adamuwuziranso kuti linali tsiku loyamba la Valentine pazaka zomwe sanapange chisokonezo komanso sewero podandaula za zakale tsiku lililonse lisanafike tchuthi.
Ndipo chaka chino?
Posachedwa adandiuza kuti apitiliza kuchita zomwe adachita chaka chatha.
Kusiya, kusiya, kuleka kubweretsa kusokonekera kwa banja ndikuwopa kwambiri.
Ngati simukugwirizana ndi wokondedwa wanu, kapena abale anu, kapena anzanu patchuthi chaka chino, ganizirani zosiya.
Ingodzipatulani nokha ku misala
Mukasunthira patali ndikupanga kopenga kwamabanja osagwirizana muwone ngati moyo sungakhale pang'ono "tsiku lachikondi" ili m'mbuyomu.
Ntchito ya David Essel 'imavomerezedwa kwambiri ndi anthu monga malemu Wayne Dyer, ndipo wotchuka Jenny Mccarthy akuti "David Essel ndiye mtsogoleri watsopano wa gulu loganiza bwino."
Ntchito yake ngati phungu komanso Life Coach yatsimikiziridwa ndi Marriage.com. Watsimikiziridwa kuti ndi m'modzi mwa alangizi othandizira maubwenzi komanso akatswiri padziko lapansi.
Buku lake lomwe lagulitsidwa kwambiri kwambiri, lomwe langotulutsidwa mu nthawi ya Tsiku la Valentine, limatchedwa "Zinsinsi zachikondi ndi maubwenzi ... Zomwe aliyense ayenera kudziwa!"
Kuti mumve zambiri pazonse zomwe David amachita chonde pitani ku www.davidessel.com