Zamkati
- Kodi nkhanza ndi chiyani?
- Kunenedwa mawu osokoneza bongo
- Kuopsa kovutitsidwa m'maganizo
- Kodi mungadziwe bwanji kuti mukuzunzidwa m'maganizo?
- Zomwe muyenera kuchita ngati mukuzunzidwa m'maganizo?
Mawu oti "kuzunza" ndi omwe timamva kwambiri lero, chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa tanthauzo lake tikamanena za nkhanza, makamaka kuzunzidwa m'mabanja kapena pachibwenzi.
Tiyeni choyamba tifotokoze chomwe nkhanza m'mabanja sichili:
- Mukauza wina, simukukonda zomwe akuchita, uko si nkhanza zamaganizidwe ndi malingaliro. Ngakhale mutakweza mawu mukamawanena, monga momwe mungachitire mukamauza mwana kuti asakhudze mbaula yotentha, izi sizogwirizana ndi gulu lomwe lanenedwa.
- Mukamakangana ndi mnzanu, nonse nkukweza mawu chifukwa cha mkwiyo, kumeneko sikukuzunza mumtima. Imeneyi ndi gawo lachilengedwe (ngakhale silosangalatsa), makamaka ngati malingaliro anu sanakhazikike.
- Ngati wina anena china chake chomwe chakupweteketsani mtima, samakuzunzani. Atha kukhala osaganizira ena kapena amwano, koma sizinaphatikizidwe mgululi.
Zomwe zatchulidwazi sizomwe zikuwonetsa kuti muli pachibwenzi.
Kodi nkhanza ndi chiyani?
Nkhanza m'malingaliro ndi winawake akamakulamulirani, malingaliro anu ndi momwe mumamvera, moopsa.
Sizimaphatikizapo nkhanza zakuthupi (zomwe zitha kukhala kuzunzidwa) koma njira zobisika, zosazindikirika mosavuta za akunja zakuzunza.
Zitha kukhala zowoneka bwino kwambiri kuti mwina mukukayikira zaumoyo wanu - kodi adachitadi "izi" mwadala, kapena ndikulingalira?
"Kuunikira kwa gasi" ndi mtundu wina wamisala yamaubwenzi; munthu m'modzi akamachita zachinyengo komanso mwakachetechete, osawonekera kwa mboni, kuti amupweteketse mtima mnzake.
Koma mwanjira yomwe iwo (wozunza) angaloze kwa wozunzidwayo ndikunena kuti "Ndiye, ukupusanso" pomwe wozunzidwayo akuwaimba mlandu wowasokoneza mwadala.
Onaninso:
Kunenedwa mawu osokoneza bongo
Chitsanzo cha nkhanza zam'magulu amodzi ndi zomwe mnzake anganyoze mnzake, ndipo pomwe mnzake akutsutsa, womuzunzayo akuti, "Nthawi zonse mumangotengera zinthu molakwika!"
Amaimba mlandu wozunzidwayo kuti anthu azimuwona ngati “wothandiza” basi, ndipo womunenerayo akumutanthauzira molakwika. Izi zitha kusiya womenyedwayo akudzifunsa ngati akunena zowona: "Kodi ndimakwiya kwambiri?"
Mnzanu amene angamamunene mawu onyoza angatanthauze zinthu zomwe mnzake akumunenera, kapena kumuwopseza kuti azilamulira pano. Amatha kumunyoza kapena kumunyoza, chonsecho amangonena kuti amangonena nthabwala. ”
Chitsanzo cha nkhanza m'maganizo muubwenzi ndi mnzake yemwe angayese kupatula mnzake kuchokera kwa abwenzi komanso abale kuti azitha kumulamulira.
Amamuuza kuti banja lake lili ndi poizoni, kuti ayenera kudzipatula kuti akule. Amadzudzula abwenzi ake, kuwatcha osakhwima, opanda nzeru, kapena zoyipa zoyipa pa iye kapena pachibwenzi chawo.
Amupangitsa kuti wovutikayo akhulupirire kuti ndiye yekha amene amadziwa zomwe zingamuyendere bwino.
Kuzunzidwa kwamaganizidwe ndi mtundu wina wamisala yamaubwenzi.
Ndi nkhanza zamaganizidwe, cholinga cha wozunza; ndiko kusintha malingaliro a wozunzidwayo kuti azidalira wozunza kuti "awasunge."
Amipembedzo nthawi zambiri amachita nkhanza zoterezi pouza otsatira awo achipembedzo kuti akuyenera kutaya ubale wawo ndi abale ndi abwenzi omwe sali mgululi.
Amalimbikitsa otsatilawo kuti ayenera kumvera mtsogoleri wachipembedzo ndikuchita zomwe akufuna kuti azitetezedwa ku "zoyipa" zakunja.
Amuna omwe amamenya akazi awo mowakakamiza amazunza anzawo (kuwonjezera pa kuwazunza) akauza akazi awo kuti zomwe amachita zapangitsa kuti amuna amenye, chifukwa "amayenera kutero."
Kuopsa kovutitsidwa m'maganizo
Anthu omwe ali pachiwopsezo chakuzunzidwa mgululi ndi omwe ali pachibwenzi anthu omwe amachokera kumayiko ena komwe kudzidalira kwawo kudasokonekera.
Kukula m'mabanja momwe makolo nthawi zambiri amadzudzulana, kunyozana, kapena kunyozana, ndipo ana amatha kumulera mwanayo kuti azichita izi ngati wamkulu, chifukwa amalingalira izi ndi chikondi.
Anthu omwe saganiza kuti akuyenera kukhala ndi chikondi chabwino, chathanzi ali pachiwopsezo chotenga nawo gawo mkazi wapabanja kapena amuna ozunza.
Kuzindikira kwawo kuti chikondi ndi chiyani sichimadziwika bwino, ndipo amavomereza nkhanza chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti sayenera kuchita bwino.
Kodi mungadziwe bwanji kuti mukuzunzidwa m'maganizo?
Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pokhala ndi bwenzi losaganizira komanso kukhala ndi mnzanu amene amamuzunza?
Ngati anu momwe mnzanu amakuthandizirani nthawi zonse amakusowetsani mtendere, kukhumudwitsidwa mpaka misozi, manyazi kuti ndinu ndani, kapena kuchita manyazi kuti ena awone momwe amakuchitirani, ndiye kuti izi ndizizindikiro zowoneka bwino zakubanja komwe kumakuzunza.
Wokondedwa wanu akakuwuzani-muyenera kusiya kulumikizana ndi abale anu ndi abwenzi, chifukwa "samakukondani," mumakuzunzani.
Ngati mnzanu amangokuwuzani kuti ndinu opusa, oyipa, onenepa, kapena ena otere, akukuzunzani m'maganizo.
Ngati, nthawi ndi nthawi mnzanuyo anena kuti zomwe mwachita zinali zopusa, kapena kuti sakusangalala ndi kavalidwe kameneka, kapena kuti makolo anu amupsetsa mtima, ndikungomvera chisoni.
Zomwe muyenera kuchita ngati mukuzunzidwa m'maganizo?
Pali zinthu zambiri kunja uko zokuthandizani kuchitapo kanthu moyenera.
Ngati mukuganiza kuti ubale wanu uyenera kutetezedwa ndikuganiza kuti wokondedwa wanu atha kukhala munthu yemwe sakuchitira nkhanza m'maganizo, funani mlangizi wazokwatirana wa banja ndi mabanja kuti nonse awiri mukambirane.
Chofunika: popeza iyi ndi nkhani ya anthu awiri, nonse muyenera kupatsidwa ndalama zothandizira.
Osangopita nokha; ili silili vuto kuti mugwire nokha. Ndipo mnzanu atakuwuzani kuti, “Ndilibe vuto. Zachidziwikire, mumatero kuti mupite kuchipatala nokha, ”ichi ndi chisonyezo choti ubale wanu suyenera kukonzedwa.
Ngati mwaganiza zosiya bwenzi kapena mwamuna wanu (mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu) yemwe amakuchitirani nkhanza zam'maganizo, funani thandizo ku malo azimayi omwe akukhala komwe angakutsogolereni momwe mungadzipulumutsire kuubwenziwu mosatekeseka kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino komanso chitetezo.