Zamkati
- 1. Khalani olimba mtima
- 2. Kukondana mchipinda chogona: Kunena zowona, nenani mosapita m'mbali
- 3. Lumikizani potsegula
- 4. Sungani ma neuron anu kukhala olimba, ndikugawana zomwe mukuphunzira
- 5. Kugonana kosagonana
- 6. Kuyanjana kopatulika komanso kwauzimu
Kodi nthawi zina mumamva ngati mungakonde kulimbitsa chibwenzi m'banja lanu? Mukudziwa kuti mumakondana kwambiri, koma mumadabwa momwe zingamvekere kulumikizana kwambiri ndi mnzanu, mwamalingaliro komanso mwathupi? Nawa maupangiri oyeserera omwe akutsimikiziridwa kuti abweretse ubale wapamtima muubwenzi wanu.
1. Khalani olimba mtima
Ndizofala: mwakwatirana zaka zingapo ndipo inu ndi mnzanu mwakhazikika malo abwino, omasuka pamodzi. Palibe amene akudandaula: zinthu zili bwino ngati chizolowezi chazing'ono. Mukabaya kulimba mtima muubwenzi wanu, muzigwedeza pang'ono pang'ono ndi zotsatira zabwino. Kodi timatanthauza chiyani tikamati, "Limbani Mtima"?
Kulimba mtima kumatha kukhala ndi mitundu ingapo: mungaganize zakuchita masewera omwe amakutulutsani m'malo anu abwino ndikukutsutsani: m'malo mochita masewera othamanga kumapeto kwa sabata, yesani kalasi ya Crossfit. Kapena bwanji pokonzekera tchuthi chomwe chimaphatikizapo ntchito zothandiza m'dziko lomwe simunapiteko? Uwu ndi mwayi wabwino kwambiri kuti mutambasule nokha ndikupereka chithandizo kwa iwo omwe akusowa thandizo. Nanga bwanji za aliyense wa inu akulemba mndandanda wazowopa 10 zapamwamba ndikubwera ndi malingaliro olimba mtima kuzisamalira?
Kodi kulimba mtima pamodzi kungathandize bwanji kuti banja lanu likhale logwirizana? Kungoti mukadzakumana ndi zovuta, mumakulitsa kulumikizana wina ndi mnzake. Ndizofanana ndi mgwirizano wolimba womwe umakhalapo pakati pa asirikali omenyera limodzi (ngakhale oopsa kwambiri, mwamwayi). Yesetsani kukhala olimba mtima ndikuwona zomwe zimachitika. Muzikonda zotsatira.
2. Kukondana mchipinda chogona: Kunena zowona, nenani mosapita m'mbali
Ngati mukufuna kuwonjezera chibwenzi chanu, lankhulanani ndi mnzanu momasuka komanso gwiritsani ntchito zina. Zambiri zitha kupezeka pakuchezera bwino, kotsimikizika, m'malo mongolankhulana modandaula kapena modandaula mukamagona limodzi. Kumbukirani, palibe aliyense wa inu amene amawerenga malingaliro, chifukwa chake ngati mukufuna kupanga chibwenzi chowonjezera kuti mupangitse kupanga kwanu chikondi, mudzafunika kugawana ndi mawu anu zomwe zimakusangalatsani. Zokambiranazi zitha kuchitika mkati kapena kunja kwa chipinda chogona, bola ngati zichitidwe kuchokera pamalo achikondi osati mlandu. Chifukwa chake china chonga, "Ndimakonda mukamagwiritsa ntchito zofewa, ndikuzitenga pang'onopang'ono", kapena "Kodi mungakhale ndi nthawi yochulukirapo kuchita izi?". Ndipo bwanji osagawana nawo zozizwitsa? Nthawi zanu zopanga chikondi zimatha kukhala zatsopano mukakhala ndi malingaliro olakwika omwe nonse mumakhala nawo.
3. Lumikizani potsegula
Pali njira yosavuta komanso yosavuta yochitira kukondana kwanu: Chotsani zida zanu zamagetsi kwa mphindi 10 patsiku. Ndizosavuta bwanji? Dziperekeni mphindi 10 patsiku kuti mutseke foni yanu, piritsi, pc ndi zida zina zamagetsi zomwe zingakusokonezeni kuti musayanjane ndi mnzanu. Ndipo gwiritsani mphindi 10zo pokambirana. Khalani limodzi. Tembenuzanani wina ndi mnzake pamene mukulankhula. Yang'anani wina ndi mnzake m'maso pamene mukumverana. Oo. Mwangopereka ndalama zambiri mu akaunti yakubanki yakukondana yaukwati wanu.
4. Sungani ma neuron anu kukhala olimba, ndikugawana zomwe mukuphunzira
Maanja atha kunyalanyaza mbali yanzeru yaubwenzi wawo. Koma palibe chomwe chimasangalatsa kuposa kusinthana kwabwino, mwanzeru ndi mnzanu. Onetsetsani kuti maselo anu aubongo akugwira ntchito powerenga mabuku, nyuzipepala ndi zina zambiri zomwe zimakulitsa malingaliro anu ndikuwonjezera pachikhalidwe ndi nzeru zanu. Gawanani ndi mnzanu zomwe mukuphunzira kuti mukambirane momasuka. Mudzadabwitsidwa ndi momwe izi zimathandizira kuti banja lanu likhale logwirizana, komanso momwe kukambirana kosakhudzana ndi zosowa za ana kapena mavuto akuntchito kwanu kungakhale kosangalatsa.
5. Kugonana kosagonana
Wonjezerani kukondana kwanu paukwati pochita zosakhudzana ndi kugonana. Uwu ndiye mtundu wokhudza kukhudzana komwe sikutanthauza kusangalatsa kapena kulimbikitsa chidwi cha mnzanu (koma ngati izi zichitika, ndibwino kwambiri!) Izi ndizofunikira makamaka kwa amayi omwe nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti amangokhala nthawi yomwe amuna awo awakhudza ndi nthawi yogonana. Mundikumbatire kwambiri - kukhitchini, panjira yopita kulikonse komwe mungakhale. Gwiranani manja mukamatuluka komanso pafupi. Tembenuzani nkhope ya mnzanuyo yanu ndikuyang'ana pamilomo yawo. Cholinga ndikulumikiza thupi nthawi zonse masana, osati mukamagona limodzi.
6. Kuyanjana kopatulika komanso kwauzimu
Ngati inu ndi mnzanu muli ndi zikhulupiriro zachipembedzo, kukondana kwanu kungalimbikitsidwe potenga nawo mbali mnyumba zopembedzeramo ndikuchita. Pempherani limodzi. Werengani malemba limodzi. Lankhulani zomwe chipembedzo chanu chimatanthauza kwa inu. Patulani nthawi yoti muzitumikira m'nyumba yanu yolambirira. Mwa kuthandiza anthu ena mdera lanu lauzimu, mumalimbitsa ubale wanu wapamtima.
Ngati mulibe chipembedzo chovomerezeka, yesani kukhala opatulika m'njira zina. Simukuyenera kulembetsa ku chiphunzitso chovomerezeka chachipembedzo kuti mumve kukhala opatulika kwambiri m'banja lanu. Chilichonse chomwe chimakutulutsani pakati panu chitha kuthandizira ubale wanu. Khalani ndi nthawi tsiku lililonse posinkhasinkha, kukhala chete pafupi. Kapena yambani m'mawa uliwonse ndi ma yoga ochepa, ndikukhalanso chete ndikuwunikira limodzi. Kukhala pachibwenzi sikutanthauza kulankhula nthawi zonse; kukondana kumatha kukhalanso munthawi zachete pomwe mumatseka mphekesera zakumizinda. Nthawi zina zabwino kwambiri zakumverera zolumikizidwa ndi mnzanu ndi zomwe mumakhala chete ndikuwunika, bola ngati mukuchita limodzi.