Zamkati
- 1. Pitani limodzi usiku uliwonse
- 2. Yambirani kuchitira limodzi zinthu
- 3. Yamikani mwamuna wanu
- 4. Musachite manyazi kukambirana nkhani zovuta
Momwe mungapangire ubale wapamtima ndi amuna anu? Musanapite nazo patsogolo, khalani mmbuyo ndikuganizira tanthauzo la "kukondana" mu banja lanu? Lingaliro loyamba lomwe lingakhale m'malingaliro ndi "kugonana", sichoncho? Ndipo imeneyo ndi njira yofunika kwambiri yaubwenzi komanso yomwe imapatsa kuya kwakuya komanso chisangalalo kuubwenzi wanu wapabanja. Koma tiyeni tipite patsogolo pang'ono ndi lingaliro la kukondana, kuwunika mawonekedwe achiwiri: kukondana kwamalingaliro.
Muyenera kuti muli ndi zochulukira muukwati wanu kale-kukhulupirirana, chikondi, chitetezo ndi kuyandikana komwe kumakhalapo pamene anthu awiri ali okwatirana. Koma monga momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito kukulitsa kugonana kwanu komanso chisangalalo chomwe chimadza ndi izi, mutha kugwiranso ntchito kukulitsa ubale wanu wamamuna ndi mwamuna wanu. Ndipo chinthu chabwino kwambiri pankhaniyi? Sikuti ndi "ntchito" kwenikweni, koma imalipira phindu lalikulu lomwe limapititsa patsogolo ubale wanu. Tiyeni tiwone njira zinayi zomwe mungapangire ubale wapamtima ndi amuna anu.
1. Pitani limodzi usiku uliwonse
Nonse muli otanganidwa, ndipo nthawi yanu yamadzulo imakhala yotangwanika monga masiku anu okhala muofesi. Kudya chakudya patebulo, kuthandiza ana homuweki, kusamba kwawo komanso miyambo yawo yogona kumatha kukusiyani ndi chidwi chongotopa pamaso pa pc yanu kapena kanema wawayilesi mukamaliza zonse zomwe simunakwatirane nazo. Mochulukirachulukira, mumadzipeza nokha mukuti "goodnight" kwa amuna anu akamapita kokagona, kenako ndikubwerera ku kuwerenga kwanu pa intaneti kapena kuwonera mndandanda wanu, ndikungolowa nawo amuna anu pomwe maso anu sangayang'anenso pazenera. Izi sizikuthandizani kukulitsa ubale ndi mwamuna wanu.
Yesetsani kugona nthawi yofanana ndi mwamuna wanu. Dziperekeni kuchita izi kwa mwezi umodzi ndikuwona zomwe zikukula muubwenzi wanu. Simusowa kuti mugone naye ndi cholinga chogonana (ngakhale zitachitika, ndibwino!) Koma kuti mudzakomane kumapeto kwa madzulo. Matsenga ambiri atha kuchitika mukamadzipereka kuti mugone nthawi yofananira: kulumikizana kwanu kudzayenda nonse mukamasuka ndi mapilo, chisangalalo chanu chidzawonjezeka mukamakopana ndi khungu, ndipo mumatseguka kuti mugonane chifukwa nonse muli awiri pamenepo, pano ndi ophatikizidwa. Simupeza izi ngati m'modzi wa inu atagona pansi madzulo ndipo winayo atakhala pampando wawo akupeza imelo kapena kupyola pama feed awo a Facebook.
2. Yambirani kuchitira limodzi zinthu
Mukukumbukira pomwe mudali pachibwenzi ndipo mudakonza madzulo anu komanso kumapeto kwa sabata kuti mukhale ndi mnyamata wanu? Momwe mudakondana, mudasanthula zochitika zomwe zingakupatseni nthawi yocheza wina ndi mnzake: kukwera mapiri, kuvina, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kuphunzira kalasi yophika. Ndiye ukwati unachitika, ndipo chifukwa chakuti tsopano mumakhala pansi pa denga limodzi, sizinkawoneka ngati zofunika kukonzekera zochitika zatsiku ndi tsiku kapena sabata zomwe inu nonse mungachite limodzi.
Kuti mupange ubale wapamtima ndi amuna anu, bwererani ku malingaliro a "chibwenzi" aja ndikuphatikizana ndi zomwe mungachite nonse limodzi tsiku lililonse kapena kumapeto kwa sabata. Dziperekeni kuti mukhale banja lomwe limakonza phwando lapachaka. Dziperekeni kuti mukhale oyang'anira kholo pakuvina kwa ana anu pasukulu.
Madeti a tsiku ndi tsiku amatha kukumana madzulo aliwonse ku malo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi kuti muchite limodzi, kapena kusambira limodzi. Malingaliro a sabata limodzi nthawi zonse atha kuphatikizira kulembetsa nawo kalasi yovina ya Salsa, kapena kalasi yachilendo, kapena kalasi lachifalansa cha ku France. Onetsetsani kuti chibwenzi chanu chikukula pamene nonse muphunzira luso latsopano ndikukambirana zomwe mukukwaniritsa limodzi.
3. Yamikani mwamuna wanu
Nthawi zambiri timaiwala kuwonetsa kuyamikira kwathu kwa okwatirana takhala limodzi zaka zambiri. Ntchito zomwe amagwira pakhomo, kapena momwe amathandizira kukulitsa ana. Zochita izi zimakhala zachilendo ndipo timaiwala kuvomereza iye. Onetsetsani kuti muyamikire amuna anu kamodzi patsiku. Pochita izi, sikuti amangomva kutsimikizika komanso kusefukira ndi chisangalalo ndi kunyada, koma mudzakhala mukukumbutsa nokha za munthu wamkulu yemwe wakwatiwa naye. Ndipo izi zidzawonjezera kukondana kwanu mukamabwerera m'mbuyo ndikunena kuti "Inde, mwamunayo ndiyedi theka langa labwino!"
4. Musachite manyazi kukambirana nkhani zovuta
Zikuwoneka ngati zopanda pake kuganiza kuti kukambirana mwamphamvu ndi amuna anu kungawonjezere kukondana kwanu ndi iye, koma ndizowona. Kusayankhula kanthu, kuisunga mumtima mwako, kumangopangitsa kukwiya- ndipo kuipidwa ndiko kusiyana ndi kukondana.
Chifukwa chake khalani omasuka kulankhula za zovuta-kaya zokhudzana ndi banja, kugonana, zosowa zam'mutu-zilizonse, pezani nthawi yabwino kuti mukhale pansi ndikuyamba kukambirana. Mudzawona kuti mukamayesetsa kudutsa zovuta, nonse mudzakhala oyandikira chifukwa mwadzipangitsa kukhala osatetezeka ndipo mumamasukirana.
Chikondi ndichinthu chochita
Chibwenzi muukwati wathu sichidalira tchuthi chachikulu chomwe timakhala nacho kapena usiku wamtengo wapatali womwe tili nawo. Ubwenzi wapamtima umamangidwa pazosankha zomwe timapanga tsiku lililonse. Chifukwa chake yesani zina mwa malangizowa ndikuwona mtundu waubwenzi womwe mungapange ndi mwamuna wanu.