Zamkati
- Kukhululuka ndi chiyani?
- Ubale wabwino ndi womwe umakhala ndi malo okhululukirana
- Kodi kukhululuka kumatanthauza kuiwala?
"Ndakukhululukira." Ndiwo mawu omwe taphunzitsidwa kuyambira tili achichepere koma lingaliro lomwe sitimamvetsetsa kufikira atakula. Ndi zomwe tidakonzedwa kudzera pakukula kwachitukuko kuti tizinena poyankha kupepesa. Koma zimatanthauzanji kukhululuka, ndipo zimasintha bwanji tikakhala mbali ya chibwenzi?
Kukhululuka ndi chiyani?
Kukhululuka ndi njira yodzifunira yomwe munthu amafunitsitsa kusiya kukhumudwa kapena kukhumudwa ndi malingaliro okhudzana ndi zomwe wina wachita. Kuyanjanitsa pakati pa anthu awiri ndi komwe kumawalola kuti abwerere kukhazikika ndi mgwirizano pakati pawo.
Koma kukhululuka sikophweka nthawi zonse momwe kumamveka. Mgwirizano, chinthu chokhumudwitsa chimatha kuwononga kwambiri ndipo nthawi zina kumawonongeka kwamuyaya. Kodi banja lingagwiritse bwanji ntchito njira yokhululukirana ngati njira yolimbikitsira kulumikizana kwabwino komanso kopindulitsa?
Ubale wabwino ndi womwe umakhala ndi malo okhululukirana
Choyamba, payenera kukhala kumvetsetsa kufunika kwa kukhululuka. Ubale wabwino sungakhalepo popanda kufunitsitsa kuvomereza kupepesa kwa munthu winayo. Ngati kukhululuka kumakanidwa, kupwetekedwa mtima ndi mkwiyo sizimalizidwa. Kusagwirizana kumatha kubweretsa mkwiyo ndipo kungalepheretse kukula ndikusintha. Chachiwiri, payenera kukhala chizolowezi chazomwe mnzanu amalankhulira popepesa. Monga ndi chikondi ndi chikondi, pali "zilankhulo zopepesa" zisanu zomwe mnzake angagwiritse ntchito popempha kukhululukidwa. Ngakhale chilankhulo chilichonse ndichapadera, lirilonse lili ndi cholinga chofananira - kupereka chizindikiro chamtendere ndikudandaula ngati njira yothetsera. Tiyeni tiwone bwino ...
1. Kusonyeza kudandaula
Wina amene amagwiritsa ntchito chinenerochi angavomereze pakamwa kuti walakwitsa ndipo angafune kubwezera. Ndi chisonyezero chamumtima chakumva chisoni ndikukhumba kubweza zomwe zachitika kapena zanenedwa zomwe zimamupweteketsa mnzanuyo. Munthu amene akupepesa pogwiritsa ntchito chinenerochi ayenera kuti amagwiritsa ntchito mawu oti “Pepani” posonyeza kuti walakwa.
2. Kuvomereza udindo
Munthu amene amagwiritsa ntchito njira iyi yoyanjanirana atha kugwiritsa ntchito mawu apakamwa kuti agawane ndi wozunzidwayo kuti akumvetsetsa kuti kupwetekako kunalumikizidwa ndi zochita zawo. Amazindikira ndikuvomereza cholakwacho potenga udindo pazomwe mawu kapena zochita zawo zikadachita kwa mnzake kapena kuubwenzi. Wina amene amagwiritsa ntchito chinenerochi amakhala wofunitsitsa kunena kuti "ndimalakwitsa" kuposa omwe amapepesa.
3. Kubwezera
Mabwenzi awa sangapepese ndi mawu; kawirikawiri, iwo amene amapepesa motere adzatero chitani china choti apangire cholakwacho. Atha kukonza cholakwika chenichenicho, kapena ngati mwayiwo palibe, atha kupitilirabe pochita zina zofunikira. Chiyembekezo ndikuti kudzera mu izi, wokondedwa yemwe wapwetekedwa adzawona kufunitsitsa kwa mnzake kuti awonetse chikondi, chikondi, ndikudzimvera chisoni.
4. Kulapa moona mtima
Kulapa moona mtima ndiko kunena kuti pepani ndikuchitapo kanthu kuti musinthe momwe amalankhulira kapena zochita kuti akonze zomwe zawonongeka ndikupewa kuwonongeka kwina. Ziyenera kukhala zoyesayesa kuti mukhale olimbikira ndikupanga njira yosinthira zomwe zidakhumudwitseni poyamba. Wina wopepesa mwa fomu iyi atha kulephera kamodzi kapena kawiri asanamamirire pamalingaliro ndikusintha momwe amalankhulira kapena momwe amachitira. Koma pamapeto pake, pali kufunitsitsa kutsimikizira wokondedwa kuti pali kulapa kwenikweni komanso kufunitsitsa kuchita zinthu mosiyana.
5. Kupempha chikhululukiro
Ngakhale kunena kuti pepani kapena kuchita zinazake kuti mubwezere cholakwacho kungasonyeze kudzimvera chisoni komanso chisoni, mwina sikokwanira. Nthawi zina, ndi a Yehova akamva mawu oti, "Kodi undikhululukira?" kuti mnzake amamvetsetsa chisoni ndi chisoni chomwe munthu amakhala nacho chifukwa chovulaza munthu amene amamukonda. Sikuti kuvomereza kulakwa kokha ndi kufunitsitsa kusintha zomwe zidachitidwa, komanso kuvomereza malingaliro amnzanuyo ndikulakalaka kumuika munthuyo pamwamba pa wina aliyense kapena china chilichonse.
Kodi kukhululuka kumatanthauza kuiwala?
Koma - kodi kukhululuka mnzako ndi chimodzimodzi kuiwala zomwe zachitika? Kunena mwachidule, yankho ndi lakuti ayi. Ndinu munthu wokhalapo; mtima wanu udzawonongeka ndipo kuthekera kwanu kukhulupirira ndi kudalira munthu wina kuyesedwa. Sizovuta kutero kuyiwala china chomwe chachitika kwa inu. Pamene mudagwa pa njinga yanu mudakali mwana ndikupukuta mawondo anu, mosakayikira mukukumbukira kuwawa kwake. Mwinanso mungakhale ndi zipsera zokukumbutsani za zomwe zidachitikazi. Simunatero kuyiwalika momwe mphindi izi zidamverera, koma simutaya njinga kapena simukwereranso. Mumaphunzira zowawa, zokumbukira, zipsera - simulola zolakwa zakale kulepheretsa kukula kwamtsogolo muno komanso mtsogolo. Momwemonso, kukhululuka kwa mnzanu kapena mnzanu sizitanthauza kuti mwaiwala zowawa, manyazi, kukhumudwa, kapena manyazi. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ndinu wokonzeka kuyika pachiwopsezo munthu amene akukuvulazaninso kuti mupeze malo ochira.
Ngati muli okonzeka kukhululuka, zikutanthauza kuti kuchitapo kanthu sikulandilidwa ngati zipolopolo. Koma sizitanthauza kuti mudzayiwala. M'malo mwake, mumaphunzira zambiri za inu nokha ndi mnzanu pazochitikazo.