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Tikayang'ana pozungulira ndikuwona ena, timapeza mabanja ena ali osangalala, ndipo ena sali. Ndikosavuta kuweruza ena akuyang'ana kunja kwa bokosi kuposa kuzindikira zomwe zikuchitika pansi pa mphuno zathu.
Nanga bwanji ubale wathu?
Kodi ndi chinthu chomwe timasamala tsiku ndi tsiku, kapena kodi tikukhala moyo wathu ngati kuti ndi phokoso lakumbuyo?
Tikakhala omasuka ndi wokondedwa wathu, anthu ambiri amakhulupirira kuti ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro za ubale wabwino. Ndizowona, koma osati kwathunthu. Zingatanthauzenso kuti tikuwanyalanyaza.
Wokonda akanyalanyaza mnzake, nthawi zambiri, sizimachitika chifukwa cha nkhanza.
Amakhulupirira kuti chikondi chawo ndi chosagwedezeka, ndipo zinthu zazing'ono sizingawawononge. Alakwitsa.
Kodi ubale wanga ndiwotani?
Kodi mudamvapo mawu akuti, "Kuchuluka kwa chinthu chabwino n'koipa?"
Izi zikugwiranso ntchito pakudalira maubale. Ngakhale maziko olimba amang'ambika kwakanthawi osasamalira. Ndiye akatswiri amawunika bwanji ngati maziko ali bwino? Ndizosavuta, amayesa mayeso.
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Mukuganiza kale njira yoyeserera ngati chibwenzi chanu chikuyenda bwino kapena ayi. Ngati mukuyang'ana pozungulira popanda wokondedwa wanu pambali panu, munayamba njira yolakwika.
Pokhapokha mutakhala wamatsenga kapena muli pachibwenzi ndi kapolo, kuyesa, "Kodi ubale wanga uli wathanzi" popanda mnzanuyo ndi wopanda pake.
Kukhala ndi magoli abwino kumapeto kwanu ndi magiredi olephera pomwe mnzanu akuyesa mayeso ndiye kuti ubale wanu suli wathanzi monga mukuganizira.
Chifukwa chake ndi nthawi yoti muime ndi malingaliro anu ndikuyamba kuwona mtima. Anthu amadzinamiza, nthawi zina amachita mosazindikira, makamaka ngati akukhulupirirana kwambiri.
Choyamba, musanayese mayeso amtundu uliwonse, chotsani lingaliro loti mukudziwa zomwe mnzanu amadziwa. Mumamva zomwe mnzanu akumva, ndipo mumakhulupirira zomwe amakhulupirira.
Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe ubale umakhala wabwino ndi kulumikizana.
Akatswiri achikondi nthawi zonse amalembera izi chifukwa amadziwa kuti simumatsenga kapena chibwenzi ndi kapolo. Kuyankhulana makamaka ndikugawana zambiri.Kudziwa zomwe mnzanu amadziwa kuchokera pakamwa pawo m'malo moyerekeza kumangotengera kulosera.
Sizolakwa anthu akhoza kunama, ndichifukwa chake kuwona mtima ndi njira yabwino kwambiri. Kuwona mtima kumathandizanso kuti mupeze, "Kodi ubale wanga uli wathanzi"
Ngati mnzanu akunamizani, ndiye kuti palibenso chifukwa choyesera. Chibwenzi chanu sichili bwino. Inde, ndizofanana ngati mumawanama.
Onaninso:
Zizindikiro za ubale wabwino
Kutengera kuyesa komwe mumatenga, imafufuza ngati pali zibwenzi, zizindikiro za ubale woopsa, kapena zonse ziwiri. Nazi zinthu zomwe akuyembekezera;
- Kudalira
- Kulankhulana
- Kukhulupirika
Takambirana kale zitatu zoyambirira. Nazi ena;
- Kulemekezana - Tonsefe tili ndi timatumba tathu ting'onoting'ono. Tiyenera kuzipeza tokha kuti tikhale nawo.
- Thandizo - Chibwenzi chathu ndi gawo lalikulu m'miyoyo yathu, makamaka ngati tili ndi ana. Koma sizitanthauza kuti ndi chinthu chokha chomwe tili nacho. Omwe ali ndiubwenzi wabwino amathandizana wina ndi mnzake.
- Chilungamo / kufanana - Pali kusiyana kwa chikhalidwe ndi maudindo omwe amuna ndi akazi angagwiritse ntchito pamoyo wawo. Koma, zonsezi zidakhazikitsidwa motengera miyezo yachilungamo komanso kufanana. Mwanjira ina, onse awiri akuyenera kunyamula zolemerera zawo mgululi. Wowukira, zigoli, woteteza, komanso osewera pakati atha kukhala ndi ntchito zosiyanasiyana, koma aliyense ayenera kuchita kuti timu igwire ntchito.
- Zizindikiro zosiyana - Zingamveke zachilendo, koma pakubwera mfundo muubwenzi kuti mutha kumaliza ziganizo za wina ndi mnzake. Koma kodi ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro za ubale wabwino, kapena ayi? Ndizosokoneza chifukwa sichoncho. Kukhala m'modzi ndi wokondedwa wanu sizitanthauza kuti mwadzisiya nokha.
- Kupitiliza kukondana - Chimodzi mwazifukwa zazikulu zakuti maubwenzi amalephera ndichifukwa maanja amaiwala kusunga ndalama "kukhala mchikondi". Pali chifukwa chomwe inu ndi mnzanu muliri okwatirana; nonse muyenera kukumbutsidwa za izi, tsiku lililonse, osati m'mawu okha.
- Chiwawa chakuthupi - Ngati ichi ndi gawo la ubale wanu, ndiye kuti sichabwino.
- Mkhalidwe woipa - Ziwawa zenizeni sizofunikira, kuwopseza nthawi zonse ndikokwanira kudziwa kuti chibwenzi chanu sichili bwino.
- Chiweruzo chokhazikika - Kulumikizana kuti musinthe ndikusintha ubale wanu ndipo monga chinthu chilichonse ndichabwino, koma monga zinthu zonse zabwino, zitha kupitilira. Zikafika povuta kuti wina asinthe mosinthana kuti akwaniritse mnzakeyo, chibwenzicho chimakhala chowopsa.
- Kupsinjika - Ngati nthawi zonse mumapanikizika pazifukwa zina chifukwa cha chibwenzi chanu, ndiye kuti simusowa kuti muziganizirepo. Muli pachibwenzi choopsa.
Kodi ubale wanga uli bwino? Anthu ena akudziwa kale kuti sichoncho.
Akungodzinamiza, akuyembekeza kuti akulakwitsa. Ngati munthu ameneyo ndi inu, ndiye kuti mufunika kusinkhasinkha ndikuyankhula nokha.
Ngati mukufuna thandizo lakunja, pitani kuchipatala. Ambiri a iwo amapereka kufunsa kwaulere. Ubale uli ngati munthu wamoyo; ngati mukufuna zizindikiro kuti chibwenzi changa chili bwino, koma osanyalanyaza magawo odwala, ndiye sichoncho. Muyenera kukhala ndi vuto ndi gawo limodzi laubwenzi wanu kuti lithe kukhudza chibwenzi chonse.
Koma mwachita chimodzi mwanjira yoyenera. Kuyang'ana ndi mnzanu kudzakuthandizani kuti muzindikire ngati inu ndi mnzanu mungakhale owona mtima za izi.