Zamkati
Chilichonse chikuyenda bwino ndipo mwadzidzidzi moto kulibenso. Pakhala pali nthawi, pamene inu nonse mumangoyang'anizana ndipo mumatha kupirira magetsi omwe amapyola mitsempha yanu. Mumagwirizana pazonse. Nthawi iliyonse mukakhala pafupi ndi ena, zomwe mumapanga zimayatsa chipinda. Mumaganizirana tsiku lonse. Koma kudula mpaka pano, mumangoyang'ana foni yanu ndipo sikulira pafupipafupi. Chinachitika ndi chiyani?
Pansipa pali zinthu zisanu zomwe zimawononga kukondana mwa amuna.
1. Palibe zokopa zakuthupi
Matupi athu amasintha momwe moyo wathu umasinthira. Ngati moyo wanu wakhala pansi, ndiye kuti mwina mwapeza mapaundi ochepa. Okwatirana ena samawona kuti ndi nkhani yayikulu pomwe ena amaganiza kuti ndiwosokonekera. Lankhulani za izi ndi mnzanu osadzitchinjiriza. Mkazi adafunsa mwamuna wake, "Tidakumana koyamba, ndi chiyani chomwe chidakusangalatsani kwambiri, mawonekedwe anga kapena luntha langa?" Mwamunayo anayankha, “Ndinakuona ukuyenda kudutsa nyanja. Munali otentha. Nditakudziwani, ndiye kuti ndinayamba kukonda ubongo wanu. Sindinawone ubongo wanu pagombe. ” Ndikuganiza kuti sizabwino kunena kuti, payenera kukhala malo ena oti azikopa kuti azisungulumwa. Ndikumverera kofunikira kwa mitundu ya anthu.
2. Osati mwadzidzidzi
Mu chibwenzi, kuvomereza kumatenga gawo lalikulu. Kusinthasintha kumasiyira nonse awiri zolakwa ndikuzisintha zokha, zothandizira, zolimbikitsa komanso zosangalatsa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mnzanu afika posakongoletsa chipinda, m'malo modandaula momwe chikuwonekera. Lowani ndi kupopera utoto, muusokoneze kwambiri, ndi mitundu yopenga kenako ndikutsitsirana. Kuseketsa kwadzidzidzi kumalola mnzanu kudziwa, si nkhani yayikulu. Pakhoza kukhala nyansi kuti utsuke pambuyo pake koma awiri atha kuchita izi mwachangu. Sewerani limodzi. Kukhala mokhazikika kumatha kununkhira zinthu. Payenera kukhala malo muubwenzi wokondedwa wanu kuti azilakwitsa. Pamafunika kusinthasintha kuti onse azilakwitsa. Pomwe palibe kusinthasintha kapena zochitika zongobwera mbanja, pamakhala kusowa chikondi muukwati.
3. Kupsinjika maganizo
Thupi la munthu limatulutsa timadzi ta cortisol poyankha kupsinjika. Kupsinjika kwakanthawi kumayambitsa kukhumudwa ndipo pamapeto pake matenda amisala. Kupsinjika kumapangitsa anthu kutopa komanso kutsutsana. Ngati mukuvutika maganizo ndiye kuti simungamve bwino. Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti nkhawa imatha. Dziwani zomwe zimayambitsa mavuto m'miyoyo yanu ndikuthana nawo mwachindunji. Ngati ndizochitika zingapo, phunzirani kusinkhasinkha, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kumvetsera nyimbo zabwino, kapena kuwerenga. Chitani zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala omasuka. Kupsinjika kwakanthawi kumatha kuyambitsa chiwerewere. Onetsetsani kuti kupumula sikuyenera kumangokhalira kusintha malingaliro monga mowa. Zitha kubweretsa mavuto azaumoyo osati kuubwenzi wapamtima.
4. Mavuto azaumoyo
Aliyense amakhala ndi masiku osamvanso bwino nthawi ndi nthawi koma pakagwa mavuto akulu azaumoyo monga matenda ashuga, lupus, khansa, mtima kapena kuthamanga kwa magazi. Mavutowa akhoza kuwononga banja lanu. Pakhoza kukhala maopaleshoni, kutsatira maimidwe oyenera azadokotala, kumwa mankhwala monga amafotokozera ndikuwunika thanzi lanu kumatha kupweteketsa aliyense. Ndizovuta kuwona mnzanu akuvutika ndi izi. Chosangalatsa ndichakuti anthu ambiri amalimbana ndi matenda a mnzawo komanso ali ndi banja losangalala. Ndikofunika kuti pazifukwa izi athandizidwe ndi akatswiri chifukwa mavuto azaumoyo, ngati sangasinthidwe, amatha kuyambitsa chibwenzi.
5. Kusamvana
Mikangano yambiri ndi kusagwirizana zimatsutsana ndi chiyambi chaukwati. Phunzirani "kuzisiya". Padzakhala nthawi pamene maanja sangagwirizane pa mfundo imodzi. Ingovomerezani kutsutsana ndikupitilira ku chinthu chotsatira. Nthawi zonse padzakhala chinthu chotsatira chifukwa ndinu okwatirana ndipo mukugawana moyo wanu limodzi. Nthawi zina pakakhala kukangana, mawu amatha kuyankhulidwa omwe sangabwererenso. Awa ndi mtundu wa mikangano yomwe imapangitsa kutayika kwachikondi.
Zikuwoneka zotetezeka kunena kuti kupanda chidwi kwa amuna muukwati kumatha kuyambitsidwa ndi kusowa kwa zokopa zakuthupi, kusangokhala kosangalala kochitika, kupsinjika kwakanthawi, mavuto azaumoyo, komanso kusamvana komanso zokhumudwitsa zambiri. Zinthu zonsezi zitha kukonzedwa kuti zibwezeretse ubalewo kukhala wokhutiritsa. Pali akatswiri ambiri omwe ali ndi zilolezo kuti athandizire pamavutowa.