Zamkati
- Mabanja athanzi amaphunzira kuchita zomwe akuyembekezera
- Tonsefe tili ndi ufulu monga anthu wofunira ndi kuyembekezera zinthu ndipo ndi anthu kutero.
Ngati muli ngati ine, ndiye kuti mwakwaniritsa zoyembekezera zanu zabwino. Zinthu "ziyenera" kukhala motere. Moyo "uyenera" kukhala wachilungamo, ndi zina zotero. Ukwati ukhoza kukhala malo osinthira ziyembekezo ndipo ndi njira ina yofunikira. Zowonadi, ziyembekezo zimakhala zazikulu zikakwaniritsidwa. Vuto la moyo wamoyo ndi banja lanu mwakuyembekezera ndikuti posachedwa sangakumane ndiyeno muli pamavuto. Mabanja ambiri amavutika kwambiri zikafika polephera pakuyembekezera zomwe zingachitike.
Ndikumva tsopano, "ukwati suyenera kukhala wovuta chonchi", "mnzanga ayenera kundidziwa pano", "azingokopeka ndi ine!". Inde, zabwino zonse.
Mabanja athanzi amaphunzira kuchita zomwe akuyembekezera
Ndikumvetsetsa kuti tonse tili ndi zomwe timakonda pamoyo wathu ndipo tikukhulupirira kuti anzathu ali patsamba lomwelo, koma ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi kukhala kwathu kopanda tanthauzo. Chowonadi banja ndilovuta. Ndi njira yovuta kuphatikiza moyo wanu ndi munthu wina ndikukumana moyo limodzi mosasamala kanthu zomwe zingabweretse njira yanu. Maukwati abwinobwino amakhala ndi zinthu zingapo zofanana; Amakonda kukhala ndi zokonda momwe ukwati umayendetsera (mwachitsanzo, bwenzi langa ndi munthu chabe ndipo amatha kulakwitsa). Amakhala olimba mtima chifukwa amapewa kukakamira pazosakwaniritsidwa. Nthawi zambiri amayenda ndi nkhonya ndikuwona zovuta m'banja ngati chovuta kuthana nazo m'malo mongokhala cholephera. Maukwati abwinobwino amachita zomwe amayembekezera.
Tsopano, sizopusa kwambiri kuyembekezera kuti wokondedwa wanu akhale ndi mkazi mmodzi. Komabe, chifukwa mukuyembekeza sizitanthauza kuti zichitika. Maanja akafuna kupulumutsa banja lawo atachita chibwenzi, chinthu chimodzi chofunikira ndikuvomereza kuti mnzakeyo wabera. Pewani chiyembekezo chanu kapena kuyitanitsa kuti "sayenera" kuti achite zachinyengo, ndipo lolani mphamvu yanu kuti "mukulakalaka" kuti asakhale nawo ndi chisoni choyenera chomwe chimatsatira kuvomereza koteroko. Nthawi yachisoniyo imatha kuchitika ndipo awiriwo atha kuyesetsa kukonza ubalewo.
Tonsefe tili ndi ufulu monga anthu wofunira ndi kuyembekezera zinthu ndipo ndi anthu kutero.
Vuto limakhala chifukwa chokhala ndi ziyembekezo kenako osakwaniritsidwa. Dissonance imatha kukhala yosangalatsa ndipo nthawi zambiri imatenga nthawi kuti ichiritsidwe. Ngati tiwona maukwati athu mwanjira yololera, kusiya zofuna zathu zolimba ndi ziyembekezo zosatheka, timakhazikitsa maziko okula ndi kuvomerezedwa.
Njira ina yopezera zofuna zovuta ndizofunikira mikhalidwe. Zofunikira pamakhalidwe ndizabwino kwambiri ndipo zimangoyang'ana pazotsatira. Chitsanzo chikhoza kukhala, "NGATI simukhalabe ndi mkazi m'modzi, NDIPO sindidzakwatirana nanu". Zofunikira pamikhalidwe zivomerezani kuti mnzake akhoza kusankha zomwe akufuna koma zotsatirapo zake zidzatsatira. Ena a inu mwina mukuganiza kuti izi ndi nkhani yamaphunziro. Mukunena zowona!
Chilankhulo ndichizindikiro choyimira mkhalidwe wathu wamkati, kapena momwe timamvera. Zomwe timadziuza tokha m'mutu mwathu komanso zomwe timauza ena ndi malingaliro athu. Zolankhula zomwe zili m'mutu mwathu zitha kutitsogolera kumalingaliro omwe timakumana nawo komanso zomwe timatsatira. Ndikamagwira ntchito ndi maanja omwe ali ndi zofuna zambiri ndimayamba kuwathandiza kuti asinthe chilankhulo chawo, kwa iwo eni komanso kwa wokondedwa wawo. Mukazindikira chilankhulo chanu ndikuyesetsa kuti musinthe, mumayesetsa kusintha momwe mumamvera.
Ukwati ungakhale wovuta ndipo ungakhale wotere makamaka mukamayembekezera zosayembekezereka / zofuna mu zosakaniza. Dzipatseni nokha ndi mnzanuyo mpumulo ndikulola wina ndi mnzake kukhala anthu. Musaope kufotokoza zomwe mukufuna komanso zomwe mukufuna kupeza kuchokera pachibwenzi.