Zamkati
Kukhala ndi winawake ndichinthu choyenera kuyembekezereka pamene anthu awiri amamanga mfundo. Komabe, nthawi zina, izi sizimayendera limodzi. Kukambirana za maubwino ndi zovuta za kukhalira limodzi ngati anthu okwatirana kapena kukhala moyo wosalira zambiri ndi mutu womwe maanja ambiri amakumana nawo. Kaya chimodzi mwazisankho ziwirizi ndi njira yothetsera mavuto ambiri omwe awiri akukumana nawo m'njira ikadali pano.
Kuwonanso mayanjano amoyo
Kukhala pamodzi popanda kukwatirana mwalamulo kumatha kukhala kolimbikitsa pankhani yodziyimira pawokha komanso, kudzipereka. Ngakhale anthu ambiri samakonda kukondana komanso kutonthoza kuposa kukhala okwatirana ndi anzawo, zimatsimikizira kuti anthu ali ndi malingaliro olimba akafika pazomwe amazindikira zopinga.
Malinga ndi lingaliro limodzi, anthu awiri omwe asankha kuti akufuna kugawana moyo wawo limodzi ndikukhala pansi padenga limodzi atha kuzichita mwachangu poyamba, koma osati pamapeto pake. Mabanja ambiri atha atakhala m'banja. Ngakhale izi zingawoneke ngati zosavuta kuchita kapena zosapindulitsa potengera kudzipereka, koma kwa iwo omwe asankha kupirira ndikukhalabe limodzi popanda ubale uliwonse walamulo akutsimikiziridwa. Nthawi zambiri anthu omwe sanakwatirane amakhala ndi mantha monga kugawa katundu, kusintha maudindo abanja komanso momwe izi zingakhudzire chithunzi chawo, zikhale zamunthu kapena akatswiri. Mosiyana ndi izi, anthu okwatirana nthawi zambiri amakhala m'mabanja opanda chikondi komanso osasangalala chifukwa cha izi. Mwanjira ina, munthu amene adzipereka kukhala nanu amatsimikizira zambiri pakudzipereka komanso chidwi kuposa munthu amene amatero chifukwa cha pepala lomwe adasaina ku holoyo. Komabe, izi sizimawonedwa kapena kuyamikiridwa ndipo anthu ambiri amakhala ndi nkhawa chifukwa chokhala pachibwenzi chautali osakwatirana ndi anzawo.
Kubwereza ukwati
Kupatula zofuna zanu kapena zokonda zanu, pali vuto lomwe amakhulupirira kuti limabweretsa mavuto obwera chifukwa cha ana obadwa kunja kwa banja. Ngakhale kuti ikhoza kukhala nkhani yayikulu kwa makolo, mwanayo atha kuvutika mosafunikira kutengera dziko komanso chikhalidwe chomwe adabadwiramo. Nkhani yakukhala ndi kulera mwana kunja kwa banja sichinthu chodziwika bwino m'malo ambiri padziko lapansi. Maganizo a anthu pankhaniyi amakhudza kwambiri momwe anthu ena amazindikirira ndikuchita izi. Ngakhale m'maiko omwe amalimbikitsa ufulu pamlingo waukulu, mutha kupezabe milandu yokhudza ana ndi achinyamata kuzunzidwa chifukwa chobadwa "kunja kwaukwati".
Chifukwa chake, vuto lidalipo: Kodi zingakhale zabwino kuti wina akhale osakwatira ndikukhalabe ndi ana?
Yankho liyenera kukhala "mosakayika inde", komabe mwina sizingakhale choncho kutengera komwe mumakhala!
“Kugonana mwaufulu pakati pa munthu wapabanja ndi munthu amene si mkazi kapena mwamuna wake” - ndilo tanthauzo la chigololo. Koma iwe umati chani chinthu chongoperekera mnzako pomwe simunakwatirane mwalamulo? Kodi pali chilichonse choyenera kuchitidwa kuchokera pamalamulo? Kodi ndi njira ziti zomwe zingatengere ngati zili choncho? Ichi ndichinthu chomwe chimadalira kwambiri malingaliro ndi tsankho ngati wina sanakwatirane ndi mnzake wapamtima. Ngati zili bwino kapena zoyipa kwambiri kudalira chikhalidwe m'malo mokhazikitsa malamulo, zimangodalira lingaliro la munthu komanso momwe zinthu zilili.
Wina akaganiza zopatukana ndi mnzake chifukwa cha chigololo ku mbali ya mnzake ndikulimbikitsidwa kukhala ndi boma kumbali yanu. Kulipira kwakung'ono momwe kungakhalire, ndiye kulipidwa komabe. Koma masiku ano mapangano aukwati sawonedwa ngati machitidwe aukwati wopanda pake komanso wopanda chikondi, kotero ngakhale chigololo sichilinso ndi zotsatirapo zake - inde, mwalamulo, osalankhula mwamalingaliro. Chifukwa chake, pamapeto pake, maubwino omwe munthu angakhale nawo pamavuto ngati awa nthawi zambiri samaposa omwe ali pabanja. Komabe, kunena kuti "Ndikwabwino kuposa kukhala ndi chisoni." amakhalabe mfundo imodzi yomwe ambiri amatsogola ubale wawo.
Zosemphana momwe zingakhalire kusankha njira imodzi, malo omwe chisankhochi chiyenera kudalira zomwe mukufuna komanso momwe mungakwaniritsire. Musanapange chisankho mwachangu pankhaniyi, kambiranani ndi mnzanu za:
Kodi ndi zifukwa ziti zokhalira limodzi kapena kukwatirana?
- Mukuyembekezera chiyani chokhudzana ndi banja lathu?
- Kodi zolinga zanu zamtsogolo ndi ziti ndipo mukukonzekera bwanji kuzikwaniritsa?
- Kodi mungatani ngati zonse zikalakwika?
Mukakhazikitsa izi zidzakhala zosavuta kusankha ngati banja kapena kukhala pachibwenzi ndizomwe zikukuyenderani bwino.