Zamkati
- Chibwenzi chimafuna khama
- 1. Chibwenzi chimayenda mbali zonse ziwiri
- 2. Kuwona mtima ndikofunikira
- 3. Dziwani kuti pali zinthu zina zimene simungakwanitse kuchita
- 4. Kutengeka mtima motsutsana ndi kuchitapo kanthu
- 5. Kudalira
Kukhala ndi thanzi labwino ndikovuta. Kupanga ubale wodalirika, wathanzi ndi kovuta. Kusamalira ziwiri nthawi imodzi? Pafupi zosatheka.
Osachepera, ndizomwe ndimakhulupirira kale.
Chowonadi ndi chakuti thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe limakhudza ubale wanu, ndipo mosemphanitsa. Osakwatira, mumakhala ndi chizolowezi chodzikayikira chomwe chimakulitsidwa ndi nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa. Kusakhazikika komanso kusadzidalira kumatha kubweretsa kutsika.
Ndikosavuta kugwa munjira yodzipatula chifukwa chodziona ngati wopanda pake.
Chibwenzi chimafuna khama
Simukuwona chilichonse mwa inu chofunikira kukhala ndi chibwenzi, chifukwa chake simuyesa kukhala pachibwenzi. Komanso, kukhala pachibwenzi kumafuna khama. Kuyankhula, kudziwana ndi wina, kudzipereka panokha m'maganizo ndi mwathupi kumatha kutipweteka kwambiri. Zonse zomwe zimamenya nkhondo ngati kukhumudwa, nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kwambiri.
Ndili kusekondale, ndinali nditazindikira kuti ndifa ndekha. Zodabwitsa pang'ono, koma zimawoneka ngati lingaliro loyenera panthawiyo. Sindinkawona chilichonse mwa ine kukhala chofunikira, chifukwa chake ndimaganiza kuti wina sangatero. Izi ndichinthu chogawana ndi anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi mavuto ofanana. Komabe, ndidakhudzidwa ndi mwayi.
Ndinakumana ndi munthu yemwe amamvetsetsa. Osati chifukwa chakuti iye mwini anali kupyola mu izo, koma chifukwa anali ndi banja lapafupi lomwe linali.
Kwa ine, zinali zosamvetsetseka. Wina yemwe amamvetsa mavuto anga? Wina yemwe ndingalankhule naye moona mtima, yemwe samangomvetsetsa komanso kumumvera chisoni? Zosatheka!
Ubwenzi wathu unakula pamaziko a kuwona mtima ndi kumasuka. Pokumbukira zakale, panali maphunziro ofunikira omwe angaphunzire:
1. Chibwenzi chimayenda mbali zonse ziwiri
Zowona, zitha kukhala kuti zidamuthandiza kuti iyemwini analibe matenda aliwonse am'mutu omwe amalankhula. Ndinkatha kudzisamalira ndekha popanda kuika anthu ena patsogolo. Izi zidadzetsa vuto pambuyo pake; kuganiza kuti chifukwa analibe nkhawa kapena nkhawa, ayenera kukhala bwino.
Ndinali wodwalayo. Ngakhale ndinali munthu womvera chisoni, sindinazindikire mpaka mochedwa kuti thanzi langa limamukhudza. Ngakhale kukhala wathanzi, kusamalira munthu amene akuvutika kumatha kukupangitsani kuti muvutike. Muubwenzi, ndikofunikira kuzindikira izi mwa mnzanu.
Atha kukhala akuyika nkhope yolimba mtima kuti asakulemetseni, koma izi sizabwino kwa iwo. Kumuwona akulimbana pamapeto pake kunandikakamiza kufunafuna chithandizo cha akatswiri. Ndikakhala ndekha, ndimadzimvera chisoni chifukwa munthu yekhayo amene ndimakhulupirira kuti ndimamupweteka anali inemwini. Muubwenzi, panali ntchito yachilendo yosamalira.
Linali phunziro lofunika, zizolowezi zanu zapoizoni zimatha kuvulaza anthu okuzungulirani. Samalani kuti simukuvulaza anthu omwe mumawakonda.
2. Kuwona mtima ndikofunikira
Nthawi zonse ndakhala ndikugwira ntchito kwambiri, ndikukankhira pansi mavuto anga ndikuyesera kuwanyalanyaza.
Chenjezo la Spoiler: izi sizinathe bwino.
Monga ubale umafunikira kuti ndimudziwe bwino wina, ndinazindikira mwachangu kuti ndikhoza kunama ndekha, koma osati kwa iye. Amatha kunyamula zochepa zomwe sindinachite bwino. Tonse tili ndi masiku osapumira, ndipo ndidazindikira kuti ndibwino, kunena zowona za iwo kuposa kuyesera kubisala.
Ndimakonda kufananiza matenda amthupi komanso amisala. Mutha kuyesa kunyalanyaza mwendo wanu wosweka, koma sungachiritse, ndipo pamapeto pake mudzakhala woyipitsitsa.
3. Dziwani kuti pali zinthu zina zimene simungakwanitse kuchita
Zochitika muubwenzi zitha kukhala zopanikiza. Kukumana ndi abale ndi abwenzi kumakhala kokwanira, popanda kuwonjezera nkhawa zomwe zimandigwera nthawi yonseyi. Kuphatikiza apo, panali FOMO. Kuopa kuphonya.
Iye ndi abwenzi ake adzakhala ndi malingaliro, ndipo ndidzaitanidwa. Nthawi zambiri ma alarm amayamba kuda nkhawa, makamaka ngati "akadandida?" nanga "ndingatani ndikadzichititsa manyazi?" Njira yakuchira ndiyovuta, ndipo imodzi mwanjira zoyambirira ndidaphunzira kunyalanyaza mawu ndi malingaliro awa. Amayimira chinthu choyenera kuchiganizira - kodi izi zandikulira?
Ngati sindingathe kupita kukakumana ndi abwenzi kapena abale, sikuti ndikungophonya, koma kodi ichi ndi chizindikiro chofooka? Posawonekera, ndipo ndilekerera tonse awiri? M'mutu mwanga, kunalibe chikaiko chilichonse. 'Inde' yayikulu idayaka mu neon kudutsa ubongo wanga. Ndikanakhala wolephera ngati bwenzi. Chodabwitsa, adatenga malingaliro ena.
Palibe vuto kukhala ndi malire. Palibe vuto kunena "ayi". Simuli olephera. Mukuyenda pa mayendedwe anu ndikukhala nokha.
Kubwezeretsa ndikuwongolera thanzi lamisala ndi mpikisano wothamanga, osati kuthamanga.
4. Kutengeka mtima motsutsana ndi kuchitapo kanthu
China chake ine ndi mnzanga tidazindikira ndikuti sindimamufuna kuti andithandizire kuti ndichiritse. Adadzipereka kundithandiza kukhazikitsa zolinga, kukhazikitsa ntchito zing'onozing'ono ndikundilimbikitsa kuti ndizikwaniritse. Pomwe izi zitha kukhala zosangalatsa ndipo zitha kugwira ntchito kwa anthu ena, kwa ine iyi inali ayi yayikulu.
Gawo la kuchira ndikuphunzira kumvetsetsa nokha.
Kuti mumvetsetse zenizeni zenizeni, osati malingaliro amdimawo ndi mantha. Akadandithandizira kukhazikitsa zolinga, ntchito yosavuta komanso zochitika zazikulu zoti ndichite. Izi zimabweretsa chiopsezo cholephera; ngati ndikanalephera kukwaniritsa zolinga izi ndikanamukhumudwitsanso. Kukhulupirira kuti wadzikhumudwitsa ndikokwanira.
Zonsezi zimatsikira ku chinthu chimodzi; mitundu iwiri ikuluikulu yothandizira. Nthawi zina timafunikira chithandizo. Vuto langa nali, ndingalithetse bwanji? Nthawi zina, timafunikira kulimbikitsidwa. Ndikumva kuwawa, ndikumbatire.
Ndikofunika kudziwa ndi kulumikizana ndi mtundu wanji wa chithandizo chomwe mukufuna. Thanzi labwino kwambiri makamaka chifukwa nthawi zambiri kumakhala kosavuta.
Kwa ine, ndimafuna kulimbikitsidwa. Poyamba, panali kuthana ndi malingaliro pazinthu. Kodi mungalankhule ndi ndani kuti mupeze thandizo? Koma popita nthawi ndikuphatikana, ndinazindikira kuti ndimangofunika kukumbatiridwa, ndikudziwa kuti analipo.
5. Kudalira
Ubale wambiri umakumana ndi mavuto chifukwa chosakhulupirika. Ndikudziwa abwenzi ambiri omwe amakhala ndi nkhawa kuti mnzake sangakhale wosakhulupirika, koma ndazindikira kuti ndilibe mphamvu yakuchita izi.
Kwa ine, kudalira kumabwera m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Kuda nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa kwanga kumandipangitsa kukhulupirira kuti sindili woyenera iye, kuti amandida mwachinsinsi ndikufuna kuchoka.
Ndimapempha chilimbikitso pankhaniyi nthawi zambiri kuposa momwe ndimavomerezera. Potero, ndimatsegula njira yofunika yolumikizirana. Wokondedwa wanga amadziwa momwe ndimamvera ndipo anganditsimikizire kuti mantha awa, ndi katundu wonyansa.
Ngakhale kuti siili yathanzi, ndakhala ndikuvutika kuti ndizidzidalira. Ndimakonda kunyalanyaza maluso anga ndi maluso anga, ndikudziwonetsa ndekha kuti sindine woyenera kukhala pachibwenzi ndikusangalala. Koma ndikuchita zochepa kuti ndikhulupirire ndekha, ndipo izi ndi zomwe ndikuchira.
Pakadali pano, ndimadalira mnzanga.
Zochitika zanga sizachilendo. Kulimbana ndi matenda anga amisala kunali kovuta chifukwa ndimakhulupirira kuti ndili ndekha. Nditadziika ndekha panja, ndazindikira kuti pali anthu ambiri omwe amamva chimodzimodzi.
Chofunika kwambiri chomwe ndaphunzira ndikuti chibwenzi sichitha. Palibe kuchuluka kwa chikondi chakunja komwe kungakukakamizeni kuti muzidzikonda nokha. Chofunika ndikukhala ndi netiweki yothandizira, ndipo ndi momwe ubale uyenera kukhalira.