Zamkati
Pafupifupi ma 50% maukwati onse amathetsa banja. 41% ya maukwati oyamba akuyembekezeka kukumana ndi tsoka lomwelo. Mwayi wokhala ndi ana paukwati woyamba ndiwokwera kwambiri chifukwa cha msinkhu wachinyamata pomwe anthu amakwatirana koyamba.
Ngati 41% ya iwo atha pamapeto pa chisudzulo, ndiye kuti maanja ambiri amakhala makolo okha. Chimodzi mwamagawo ovuta kwambiri a chisudzulo ndi pomwe onse awiri sanafune kusiya ana awo. Kusudzulana ndipo ana agawanika chimodzimodzi pakati pa anzawo sizomveka.
Ndalama ndi Katundu atha kugulitsidwa kapena kugawidwa. Komabe, zomwezo sizotheka ndi ana monga zatsimikiziridwa ndi nzeru ya Mfumu Solomo.
Kusudzulana ndi kusunga ana sikuyanjidwanso ndi anthu. Kuchuluka kwake kwakachulukidwe pakati pa anthu kudawasintha kukhala chinthu chachilendo pakati pa anthu.
Ana aang'ono ndi chisudzulo
Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti nkhondo zolera ana zithe mwa njira imodzi.
Kukhoza kwachuma, chifukwa cha kusudzulana, kuzunzidwa, komanso kukonda ana ndi zina mwazifukwa zomwe Woweruza adzaweruzira kapena kutsutsana ndi kholo.
Chinthu chimodzi chofunikira chomwe nthawi zambiri chimanyalanyazidwa panthawi yankhondo zakulera ndikofunikira kokhazikitsira kukula kwa mwana. Ayenera kukhala ndi mizu kwinakwake, ngakhale atakhala ndi kholo limodzi.
Ayenera kukhala zaka 12 kusukulu, ndipo anzawo abwenzi ndiofunikira pakukula kwawo.
Palibe kukayika kuti pali makolo olera ana ali okha omwe amatha kutenga udindo wa onse bambo ndi mayi. Zambiri mwazomveka zimalephera. Sitinganene kuti munthu m'modzi walephera kugwira ntchito ya anthu awiri. M'malo mwake, sitingathe kuwaimba mlandu konse.
Kupatula apo, sizimasintha mfundo yoti ana aang'ono amavutika ndi zovuta kwambiri. Ana aang'ono ndi chisudzulo sizimangosakanikirana. Makolo osakwatira akuyesera kuti azipeza zofunika pamoyo wawo, mwatsoka, amanyalanyaza nthawi yabwino ndi ana awo kuti akule ndikukula.
Makolo olera okha ana ayenera kufunafuna thandizo, makamaka kwa anzawo ndi abale awo. Aliyense amene ali pafupi nanu ayenera kukhala wofunitsitsa kuthandiza, ngakhale zitakhala kuti sizofunikira kwenikweni monga kuwonera ana kwa maola ochepa.
Abale achikulire ayeneranso kunyamula ulesi. Kupatula apo, palibe chomwe chidachitika ndi vuto lawo (mwachiyembekezo). Koma zochitika monga chisudzulo komanso momwe zimakhudzira ana, pomwe magazi ndi mabanja zimawerengedwa koposa, zitha kukhala zowopsa.
Alimony ndi mwayi wina wothandizira ana ndiopatulika. Gwiritsani ntchito ndalama zonsezo kuthandizira tsogolo la ana, atangoyamba kukhala anthu odziyimira pawokha, aliyense amakhala womasuka ku zolemetsazo.
Koma, kumaliza Sukulu Yapamwamba kapena kufikira zaka zovomerezeka kuti muyambe moyo wodziyimira pawokha sicholinga. Anthu ambiri omwe adakwanitsa kuchita zazikuluzi sangathe kudzisamalira.
Koma, chithandizo chambiri cha ana chimathera panthawiyi. Chifukwa chake, onetsetsani kuti mwasunga ndalama kuchokera pamenepo ndi ndalama zanu kuti mupitilize, makamaka ngati mwanayo amapita ku College.
Khalani oleza mtima ndikuyembekezerani nyengoyo, ana amakula ndipo chaka chilichonse akamadutsa, amatha kuthandiza kwambiri banja. Onetsetsani kuti simukuwabisira. Ngakhale achichepere, ana amamvetsetsa ndipo ali ofunitsitsa kuthandiza mabanja awo.
Kusudzulana ndi ana akuluakulu
Kusudzulana nthawi zambiri kumasandutsa ana achikulire kapena achikulire m'magulu awiri osiyana, mtundu wadyera komanso wosadzikonda.
Mtima wodziperekawu amachita zomwe angathe kuti asamalire banja m'malo mwa kholo lomwe kulibe. Monga kholo lawo lokha, saganiziranso za moyo wawo komanso tsogolo lawo. Moyo wawo wonse watanganidwa ndikuyesera kulera abale awo ang'onoang'ono akuyembekeza kuti adzakula monga anthu olimba mtima komanso mamembala odziwika pagulu.
Abale achikulire osadzipereka amathanso kugwira ntchito yanthawi yochepa kuti athandizire ngongole (Ayenera kudzipereka, osawafunsa). Ndichinthu chabwino kwa iwo kuti akhale achikulire odalirika. Makolo olera ana ali okha ayenera kuyamikira abale awo achikulire osadzipereka ndikuwalimbikitsa mosalekeza. Ndi zachilendo kuti makolo omwe akulera okha ana ayambe kudalira chopereka cha mwana wachikulire wopanda kudzipereka, ndipo amakhumudwa akalephera.
Kholo lokhalokha liyenera kukumbukira nthawi zonse kuti si vuto la ana. Ngati akuthandiza, koma akulephera, thokozani khama lawo. Aphunzitseni moleza mtima kuti adzapindule kwambiri nthawi ina.
Kudzikonda sikungowononga.
Ndi zonse zomwe zitha kunenedwa za izi.
Ana okulirapo amakhala opweteka kapena otumizidwa ndi Mulungu munthawi ngati ino. Lumikizanani nawo ndipo siyani kuwachitira monga ana, onani pomwe ayimilira ndikugwira nawo ntchito. Ngati amakwiya chifukwa cha chisudzulocho, ndichabwinobwino, ndipo kumbukirani kuti musawadzudzule, ndiye kuti mumakhala nawo.
Osapereka udindo wanu kwa iwo. Komabe, sikulakwa kuwafunsa thandizo, ngati mungathe kuyankhula nawo ndikuwapangitsa kuwona chithunzi chachikulu.
Kusudzulana ndi ana ndi maubale atsopano
Popita nthawi, sizosadabwitsa kuti osudzulana ambiri amakumana ndi wina watsopano. Atha kukhala makolo okha, ndipo mumalankhula zodzapanga banja limodzi. Kudutsa pogaya tsiku ndi tsiku kungosamalira ana sikupita patsogolo. Ndi bwalo lathunthu mukapeza wina watsopano yemwe mumamukonda kwambiri kapena kuposa yemwe munakwatirana naye.
Ana, aang'ono ndi achikulire, sangakhale omasuka kukhala ndi makolo atsopano ndi abale awo opeza. Malingaliro awo ndi ofunika popeza azikhala limodzi ndipo njira yabwino ndiyo kuzengereza. Ana opulupudza komanso ovuta amatha kupezerera abale awo atsopano ndipo zochulukirapo ndizofunikira kuti zigwire ntchito. Musaganize kuti kuziika zonse padenga limodzi ziziwapangitsa kukondana nthawi yomweyo.
Phunzirani kuwerenga pakati pa mizere.
Ana kaŵirikaŵiri samakhala owona mtima ndi malingaliro awo pambuyo pa chisudzulo. Zomwezo zimagwiranso ntchito mukamakhala ndi kholo latsopano kapena abale anu.
Onse inu ndi mnzanu muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti kusudzulana ndi ana amapangidwa kuti azigawana miyoyo yawo ndi alendo sikungakhale ulendo wabwino kwa inu nonse. M'malo mwake, ndi njira yayitali, ndipo ngati alibe ana awo, zimakhala zovuta kuti asinthe.
Maukwati onse sanapangidwe kumwamba, ndipo chisudzulo chilichonse sichovomerezeka
Chisudzulo ndi ana zimaumitsa miyoyo yathu, koma zonsezi ndi zotsatira zachilengedwe zathu.
Titha kuimba mlandu banja lathu lakale, koma sitingadzudzule ana pachilichonse. Ndi ulemu wathu ndiudindo wathu kulera ana olimba ndi amakhalidwe abwino, ngakhale kuvuta kwake. Kusudzulana komanso ana atha kusintha miyoyo yathu.
Sikuti maukwati onse amapangidwa kumwamba.
Chifukwa chake, kudula khansa ndichinthu chabwino. Koma, kulera ana nthawi zonse ndichinthu chabwino, ngakhale pali nthawi zina timafuna kuwapinimbiritsa.