Zamkati
- 1. Dziwani kuti mnzanu ndi wokonda zachinyengo
- 2. Dzipezere woweruza milandu wosudzulana wodziwa zambiri
- 3. Khalani kutali ndi mnzanu wakale wa narcissist
- 4. Lembani zonse zomwe mungathe
- 5. Dziwani zonse zomwe zingachitike
- 6. Muzizungulira ndi makina othandizira
Chisudzulo chokha chimasokoneza chokha. Koma ikakhala yokhudzana ndi wokonda zachiwerewere, imayamba kukhala yoyipa. Narcissists ndi anthu omwe amadzipangira okha, odzikonda, odzikuza ndipo ali ndi chidziwitso chokwanira chokwanira.
Mukusudzulana, nthawi zambiri m'modzi mwa omwe ali mgululi ndi wankhanza pomwe winayo amakhala wololera. Ndi mnzake wa narcissist yemwe angayambitse mikangano yayikulu limodzi ndi kukulitsa mavuto. Ndianthu ena ankhanza komanso osaganizira omwe angathe ndipo adzafuna ngati zingafunike, kuwapweteketsa mtima owazungulira. Amakonda kusamatsutsa komanso kukanidwa bwino, motero, zimapangitsa kuti chisudzulo chikhale chotalikirapo komanso chotopetsa.
Chifukwa chake, ndibwino kunena kuti ochita zachiwerewere ndi chisudzulo, pamodzi, ndi zinthu ziwiri zomwe munthu ayenera kupewa zivute zitani.
Zomwe zatchulidwa pansipa ndi maupangiri angapo othandiza amomwe mungapambanitsire mukasudzulana ndi wankhanza.
1. Dziwani kuti mnzanu ndi wokonda zachinyengo
Kudzikuza komanso kudzikuza sizimamupangitsa kukhala wankhanza. Chomwe chimasiyanitsa anthu ochita zachiwerewere ndi tonsefe ndikusowa kwawo chisoni ndikukana kuvomera udindo uliwonse.
Nthawi zonse amadziona ngati olondola ndipo amaimba mlandu china chilichonse cholakwika kwa ena.
Malinga ndi iwo, palibe chomwe chimakhaladi cholakwika chifukwa ali angwiro!
Chachiwiri, amadziona kuti ndiabwino kuposa ena ndipo amadzimva kuti amafunika kuwongolera ena podzudzula komanso kuwongolera aliyense ndi chilichonse. Anthu oterewa nthawi zambiri amasilira kuchita bwino kwa anzawo ndipo samapezeka m'maganizo.
Komabe, amatha kupezerera ena kudzera pa chisamaliro ndi kumvetsetsa. Ngati mupeza izi zonse mwa mnzanu, ndiye kuti pakufunika kuthawa.
2. Dzipezere woweruza milandu wosudzulana wodziwa zambiri
Osatsata njirayi popanda loya. Muyenera loya kuti akutsogolereni pa nthawi yothetsera banja lomwe ndi losadabwitsa, likhala lolimba. Kachiwiri, mumafunikira loya yemwe amadziwa zomwe akuchita mwachitsanzo, loya wodziwa zambiri.
Sikuti maloya onse ndi ofanana; ena ndiokambirana bwino pomwe ena siabwino.
Onetsetsani kuti mwasankha loya woyenera, apo ayi sangachite chilichonse koma apange sewero losangalatsa kwa yemwe anali wokwatirana naye, zomwe azisangalala nazo, ndikulipirani ndalama zambiri nthawi yomweyo.
Pangani lingaliro ndi loya wanu kuti muthane ndi maukadaulo a narcissists kuti akuthandizeni kuyenda motsatira malamulo.
3. Khalani kutali ndi mnzanu wakale wa narcissist
Tulukani mwachangu momwe mungathere! Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akangodziwa kuti mukufuna kusudzulana amadziwa kuti akulephera kukulamulirani.
Kuwongolera uku ndi mphamvu ndizomwe zimayendetsa ma narcissist ambiri motero, sangadzipereke mosavuta.
Kuphatikiza apo, ngati mungasankhe kukhala nawo kapena kuwawona pafupipafupi, mwina atha kukupusitsani kapena kukulowetsani mumsampha wawo. Dziwani zamachitidwe awo ndi kuwongolera malingaliro ndipo musawakope.
4. Lembani zonse zomwe mungathe
Anarcissist amavutika kuti aname. Adzanena zinthu zomwe sizowona ngakhale atalumbira kuti angodyetsa malingaliro awo ndikuwona kuti mugonjetsedwa. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kuti musunge zikalata zonse ndi umboni.
Sungani zowonera zonse, mameseji, mameseji, maimelo, ndi chilichonse chomwe mukukhulupirira kuti chitha kusokonezedwa ndi zina.
Ndizosangalatsanso ngati mutha kutenga zolemba zonse zoyambirira ndikuzisunga pena pabwino, pomwe sangathe kuzipeza.
5. Dziwani zonse zomwe zingachitike
Khalani tcheru nthawi zonse, khalani maso ndi makutu. Pali mwayi waukulu woti woweruzayo asadzaone wopondereza mnzanu wakale ngati momwe inu mumawonera. Monga akunenedwa kuti munthu amayenera kuyembekeza zabwino nthawi zonse koma kukonzekera zoipa!
Muyenera kusamalira gawo lililonse lomwe mungatenge posudzulana makamaka ngati muli ndi ana.
Onetsetsani kuti woweruzayo akudziwa kuti ndinu kholo labwino kwambiri lomwe ana angakhale nalo!
6. Muzizungulira ndi makina othandizira
Mukamakumana ndi wamtopola ndi chisudzulo, nthawi zina mudzakhala otopa ndikufuna wina yemwe mungalankhule naye.
Chifukwa chake, onetsetsani kuti mwazunguliridwa ndi anthu omwe amakukondani komanso amakusamalirani komanso omwe angakhale nanu kukuthandizani nthawi iliyonse yomwe mungafune.
Kusudzulana ndi njira yovuta, kuyiphatikiza ndi wamwano kumangowonjezereka. Kusagwirizana pamalamulo, ndalama komanso malingaliro kudzakhalanso kovuta kwa inu koma ndikofunikira kuti muzisamalira zonse ndikukhala olimba!