Zamkati
- Makhalidwe azamayi a Narcissistic pamtunduwu
- 1. Amafuna ukwati wapamwamba komanso wapamwamba
- 2. Aitanitsa ma VIP
- Momwe mungachitire ndi apongozi amisili
- 1. Kambiranani mosamala vutolo ndi wokondedwa wanu
- 2. Limbani ndi namondwe ndipo pewani mikangano
- 3. Ikani phazi lanu pochita ndi ana
Nthawi zambiri, mukakwatira wina, mumakwatirana ndi banja lawo lonse. Makolo a mkwatibwi amasamala kwambiri za mtundu wa mwamuna amene mwana wawo akwatiwa. Pali mitundu yamanja yomwe imafuna kulowerera muzochitika za ana awo kuphatikiza maukwati awo. Mkwatibwi wolowerera ndi wovuta mokwanira, koma wamwano amangomva kuwawa kawiri.
Makhalidwe azamayi a Narcissistic pamtunduwu
Apongozi a Narcissistic ndiosavuta kuwona. Mudzawona mukamakhala pachibwenzi, ndipo zimawonekera makamaka panthawi yopanga chibwenzi. Nayi mndandanda wachidule wamanenedwe am'mayi omwe amatha kuwonekera mukamachita chibwenzi. Tiona ngati chenjezo la zinthu zomwe zikubwera.
1. Amafuna ukwati wapamwamba komanso wapamwamba
Narcissists akufuna kukhala malo owonekera pokhala opambana pazonse, kuphatikiza ukwati wa mwana wawo wamkazi. Ukwati wa anthu asanu ndi mmodzi pagombe sadzadula.
Zilibe kanthu kuti agwiritsa ntchito ndalama zochuluka bwanji paukwati, bola zikakwanira kuitanira anzawo ndi abale awo onse kuti adzawawonetse momwe ukwati wa mwana wawo wamkazi uliri wabwino kuposa wina aliyense.
Ngati mukuganiza kuti ndani adzawononga pa zonsezi, akuyenera kukhala inu. Akamawononga ndalama zambiri, zimakulirakulira. Ngakhale akufuna ukwati wachifumu wachifumu, samafuna kutsatira miyambo yoti banja la mkwatibwi lipereka chilichonse ndikupereka mafumu. Ngati alibe chisankho, azichita izi kuti azisunga mawonekedwe awo.
2. Aitanitsa ma VIP
Zilibe kanthu kuti ndi msuwani wa mnansi wawo wa anzawo akusukulu yasekondale. Malingana ngati munthu ameneyo ndi wotchuka, wogwira ntchito zapamwamba, kapena wopambana mwanjira iliyonse angafune kuti munthuyo akhalepo paukwatiwo.
Amafuna kuwonetsa anthu ena kuti amadziwa bwino "anthu olemera" ndipo amanyadira kulumikizana kwawo.
Amachita zachiwawa zinthu zikavuta - Ambiri mwa ma VIP sadzafika paukwati, kuchepa kwa nthawi, bajeti, ndi zifukwa zina zomwe zimapangitsa ukwatiwo kukhala wosakwanira. Anthu ochita zachiwerewere amakhala ndi EQ yotsika ndipo samadzisamalira pomwe zinthu sizikuyenda monga momwe adapangira. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro za apongozi ochita zachiwerewere mukalandira mtundu wina wankhanza zikachitika.
Narcissists ali ndi lingaliro ili kuti ulemu ndi kuchita bwino nthawi zonse zimakhala chifukwa chothandizira ndi zolephera zawo ndizolakwa za wina. Nthawi zonse mudzakhala winawake.
Momwe mungachitire ndi apongozi amisili
Nthawi zonse zimakhala zovuta kuchita ndi munthu wamwano kapena abale a mkazi wanu. Ngati zingadzakhale munthu yemweyo, ndiye kuti mufunika kukonzekera momwe mungachitire, kapena zingawononge banja lanu tsiku lina.
1. Kambiranani mosamala vutolo ndi wokondedwa wanu
Ngakhale mumakhala ndi shuga wochuluka motani, kudandaula za amayi a wina wake ikhala nkhani yovuta. Onetsetsani kuti mukusamala ndi mawu anu mukakhala owona mtima.
Ngati mawu anu ali okhumudwitsa komanso osalankhula, mutha kumangokhalira kukangana ndipo sizithetsa chilichonse.
Ngati mubisa zambiri, komanso osamvetsetsa za momwe mumamvera, zitha kukhala ndi zotsatira zomwezo. Yesetsani kukambirana konse m'mutu mwanu ndipo onetsetsani kuti mwakambirana madandaulo anu modekha.
Mvetsetsani kuti mkazi wanu amawadziwa amayi ake atakhala nawo zaka zambiri zoyambirira, ngati amakhulupirira kuti amayi ake amangopanga zomwe zingathandize aliyense, ndiye kuti mwina mkazi wanu ndiwoseketsa kapena wankhanza.
2. Limbani ndi namondwe ndipo pewani mikangano
Kukangana kapena kukambirana ndi munthu yemwe ndi wankhanza ndikungotaya nthawi. Zimakhala zoyipa kwambiri ngati wina amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi ukalamba. Njira yokhayo yamtendere yolimbana ndi vutoli ndikupewa kupanga imodzi.
Ngati simungapewe kukumana ndi apongozi anu achiwerewere, ingochitani zomwe akunena mwaulemu.
Osalankhulanso kapena kunena chilichonse chosemphana ndi zomwe amakhulupirira. Ndi dona wokalamba komanso wokhwima, osati mwana, komanso wokonda kuyambitsa ziboda, sangatenge mokoma mtima wina akawatsutsa.
Narcissists nawonso abwezera. Ndibwino kuti muchepetse mavuto paubwenzi wanu popeza apongozi anu a narcissist kuti akuwoneni ngati mdani.
3. Ikani phazi lanu pochita ndi ana
Mayi wamwamuna wankhanza ndi adzukulu ake ndiwosakanikirana. Ngati angapeze chilichonse cholakwika ndi zidzukulu zanu, vuto lanu lidzakhala lanu, chifukwa iye ndi mwana wake wamkazi, ali wangwiro. Ngati adzukulu ali angwiro, azinyadira nawo ndipo adzawaphunzitsa momwe angakhalire a narcissist iwowo.
Mwina mulibe ufulu wouza apongozi anu okonda zachiwerewere momwe angakhalire moyo wawo, koma mumakhala nawo mukakhala ndi ana anu.
Osadandaula kuti mudziteteze mukamayimba mlandu ana anu, koma zikafika kwa apongozi anu achiwerewere omwe amawaphunzitsa mfundozo, ndipamene mumakhazikitsa mzere. Vuto lodzikongoletsa ndimakhalidwe ophunzirira, ndi phunziro lomwe simukufuna kuti mwana wanu aphunzire.
Kumbukirani kuti musakwiyitse apongozi anu a narcissistic pamaso pa adzukulu awo, ingokonzani zonse zomwe wanena ndikuonetsetsa kuti ana akumasulira maphunziro mosiyana.
Amayi a Narcissistic malamulo azichita zomwe angathe kuti apange ulamuliro pa inu ndi banja lanu. Ndi chikhalidwe cha aliyense amene ali ndi NPD. Ngati ndinu munthu wopambana mwa malingaliro anu omwe ngakhale wamankhwala amavomereza, ndiye kuti adzafikira vutolo mwanjira ina. Ndiwo umunthu wawo, ndipo sangathe kudzithandiza okha. Sadzatha kugona usiku podziwa kuti winawake ndi wamkulu kuposa iwo.
Apongozi abisalira azichita zonse zomwe angathe kuti athe kukhazikitsa ulamuliro wawo pomwe simukuyang'ana. Sazengereza kugwiritsa ntchito mkazi wanu, ana anu, ndi wina aliyense kuti akulamulireni. Samalani nthawi zonse.
Kupambana kwanu ndikosavuta. Ndikuti mupange apongozi anu okonda zachiwerewere kuti akuwoneni ngati nyerere yosayenera kuwasamalira nthawi yayitali yoti banja lanu, makamaka ana anu azikhala ndi moyo wautali, wathanzi, komanso wopindulitsa.