Zamkati
- Ubale ndi anthu okonda zachiwerewere
- Mitundu yamaubale azikhalidwe
- 2. Anthu ochita zachiwerewere amawongolera komanso kuwanyengerera
- 3. Anthu ochita zachiwerewere ndi oopsa
- 4. A Narcissist adzachepetsa Ex wawo
Nthawi yomwe munthu amakopeka ndi mnyamata kapena mtsikana (nthawi zina amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, koma imeneyo ndi nkhani ina), amalota za chikondi, kukondana, komanso maubale.
Monga michira ya nthano yogulitsidwa kwa ana, Kalonga ndi Mfumukazi amakumana, amakondana, ndikukhala mosangalala mpaka kalekale. Tsoka ilo, moyo uli kutali ndi izi. Nthawi zina chikondi sichimafunsidwanso, ndipo pamakhala nthawi yoti kalonga ndi mfumukazi, samakumana konse.
Palinso nthawi zina pamene m'modzi amatha kukwatira chilombocho.
Ubale ndi anthu okonda zachiwerewere
1% ya anthu ali ndi Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) malinga ndi kuyerekezera kwina. Chiwerengerocho chitha kumveka ngati nambala yaying'ono, koma ngati mungaganizire, ndi m'modzi mwa anthu 100. M'dziko la 300 miliyoni, amenewo ndi anthu 3 miliyoni.
Helpguide imazindikira zizindikilo za NPD. Kuzindikira kupezeka kwawo pachibwenzi, ndichinthu choyamba chodziwikiratu kuzindikira munthu yemwe ali ndi NPD.
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- Ponderezani ndi kuchitira nkhanza ena
Narcissists ali ndi mawonekedwe owonjezera a kudzidalira kwawo.
Popeza anthu ambiri opambana mozama monga rockstars, mabilionea, komanso othamanga nyenyezi amachitanso chimodzimodzi, zimapanga zomwe munthu wopambana ayenera kuchita pagulu. Kusiyanaku ndikuti anthu opambana ali ndi zenizeni komanso zodalirika zomwe zakwaniritsidwa pomwe ma narcissists amangobweza anzawo.
Anthu ambiri amanyengedwa ndi izi.
Narcissists ndi abodza am'magulu amtundu wanji, ndikupitilizabe kupanga umboni wowonekera kuti athandizire malingaliro awo. Mwakutero, amakopa anzawo omwe amakhulupirira kuti ndi "nsomba zabwino" zabwino.
Mitundu yamaubale azikhalidwe
Anthu omwe ali ndi NPD amapyola maubwenzi momwemo, amapita kutentha mpaka kutentha kwambiri, mpaka kuzama kozama kwa helo otentha.
1. Akatswiri achiNarcissis amakondana kwambiri
Zachikondi iwo kapena, pachiyambi cha chibwenzi. Narcissists amatsata zomwe akufuna ndi chidwi. Malingaliro awo oyenerera sangawalole kuti atenge zomwe akuwona ngati katundu wawo (ngakhale sizili choncho).
Ngati mukulandira izi, zitha kuwoneka zokopa kwambiri.
Ndilo loto la aliyense kukumana ndi mnzake yemwe ndi wamkulu kuposa moyo (kapena amakhala ngati choncho), ndikuwapatsa chidwi chonse ngati palibe china chofunikira kwambiri padziko lapansi. Izi ndichifukwa choti pali vuto mdziko la zodabwitsa padziko lapansi la narcissist.
Vuto ndikukhulupirira kuti ali nanu, koma amadziwa mkatikati mwawo kuti alibe. Kenako adzagwiritsa ntchito zidule zawo zonse kuti akupezeni ngati kuti ndinu mphotho yopambana.
2. Anthu ochita zachiwerewere amawongolera komanso kuwanyengerera
Mukadzipereka kwa iwo, zinthu zimasintha. Pamenepo, sakuwonaninso ngati phiri loti ligonjetsedwe, koma kapolo ali nawo. Amadziwa kuti si inu angwiro, ndipo adzayamba kukuumbani kuti mukhale “kapolo” wawo wangwiro.
Mitundu yonse yachikondi cha narcissistic imatsata template iyi ngati kuti adaiphunzira m'buku kwinakwake.
Idzayamba ndi kupempha mochenjera kuti anzawo azitsatira posintha kavalidwe, kavalidwe, kalankhulidwe, ndi zina zotero. Ali ndi kuleza mtima kwakanthawi, chifukwa chake gawo ili limakhalanso lalifupi ngati simulitsatira nthawi yomweyo.
Othandizana nawo ambiri ali okonzeka kusintha pang'ono chabe kuti awasangalatse ndi kuteteza kuti chibwenzicho chisathe.
Pambuyo pa gawoli, ayamba kukulekanitsani ndi anzanu, abale anu, ndi chilichonse chomwe mumakonda, kuphatikiza zomwe mumakonda. Amakhulupirira kuti ndiwe wawo ndipo atha kukugwiritsa ntchito / kukuwumba momwe angafunire. Amadziwanso kuti mphamvu zakunja zitha kusokoneza "ntchito yawo yopukutira anzawo" ndipo monyinyirika adzanyoza wina aliyense pang'onopang'ono, koma mwamphamvu.
Monga othandizana nawo, ubale wamtunduwu wamankhwala umayamba kupanga ming'alu mu mgwirizano wawo monga zenizeni zotsutsana ndi malingaliro awo. Okwatirana ena omwe ali ndiumunthu wamphamvu amakhalanso ndi mankhwala amtunduwu. Ndewu zimayamba nthawi zonse pomwe wankhanza amayesa kulimbana nawo.
Wokondedwa wawo akamakana, narcissist, yemwe ndi wotayika kwambiri, amalimbana.
Njira yolumikizirana ya narcissistic iyi ilowa gawo latsopano komanso lowopsa.
3. Anthu ochita zachiwerewere ndi oopsa
Ayamba kugwiritsa ntchito njira zobisika kuti abwezeretse momwe zinthu ziliri. Idzayamba ndikuopseza, kusokoneza, ndikukakamiza. Ngati vutoli silinathetsedwe pamenepo, wolemba narcissist adzakumana ndi ziwopsezozi ndipo atha kumangokhalira kukangana kapena mikangano ina.
Ndibwino kudziwitsa abwenzi ndi abale odalirika momwe zinthu ziliri kuti mutetezeke.
Ndizomvetsa chisoni ngati mudula ubale kapena kudana ndi anzanu ndi abale anu m'mbuyomu. Komabe, ambiri a iwo omwe amakukondanidi adzakutengerani kumbuyo ndikukutetezani.
Musaiwale kupepesa.
Narcissist akudziwa kuti pakadali pano, chibwenzicho chatha ndipo achitapo kanthu kuti achepetse kuwonongeka kumapeto kwawo ndikuchulukitsa kwa wokondedwa wawo. Musadabwe ngati akuchita zachinyengo ndi munthu wina, kuphatikiza anthu omwe muli nawo pano. Ngati alipo, muwafunire zabwino zonse.
Adzakhalanso ndi ubale womwewo pakapita nthawi.
4. A Narcissist adzachepetsa Ex wawo
Nthawi yomwe chibwenzicho chimatha ngakhale sichinathe, Narcissist adzakutengani ngati zinyalala.
Musadabwe ngati zinsinsi zanu zakuda kwambiri zafalikira pa intaneti kuti aliyense aziwona. Adzayesa kuwononga umunthu wanu wonse. Adzaukira katundu wanu, ntchito yanu, ubale wanu ndi abwenzi komanso abale.
Njira zimasiyanasiyana malinga ndi munthu, koma zonsezi ziyesa kukunyozetsani, kuti athe kukuimbani mlandu mukadzatha. Osachita chigololo musanathetse ukwati ndi mnzanu wamiseche.
Adzagwiritsa ntchito izi ndi zotsatira zabwino.
M'dziko labwino, ubalewo ukadatha ndipo wamisalayo akadapeza chandamale chatsopano ndipo mawonekedwe omwewo azoyanjana ayambanso.
Momwe amisala amathandizira okalamba awo atha kufananizidwa ndi momwe munthu amathandizira kondomu yomwe wagwiritsidwa ntchito. Iwo angaganize kuti ndizosangalatsa pomwe idakhalapo, koma tsopano ndi chidutswa chabe.
Pali kusiyanasiyana komwe ma narcissist samachepetsa okondedwa awo, koma m'malo mwake, akwezeni ngati njira yosafikirika yomwe okondedwa wawo angatsatire, mosasamala kanthu za momwe zimathera kwa mnzake.
Ndi mwayi kuti zatha. Kuchotsa kwabwino.