Zamkati
Tili achangu kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula mmoyo umodzi komanso makamaka maubale.
Kugonana Kwachiwerewere ndi Chizolowezi chogonana zikuyamba kukhala zazokhudza zilembo. Ngakhale sizowopsa (zomwe tiwone pambuyo pake), kodi zolaula zitha kupereka nsanja yomwe anthu ambiri amafunika kuti asunge gawo lawo lomaliza lomwe lakhala logawidwa komanso lachilendo?
35% yamawebusayiti onse ndi masamba azolaula. Izi ndizoposa Amazon, Netflix ndi Twitter kuphatikiza. Kusaka kwamtundu umodzi mwa zolaula zisanu ndi imodzi yolaula. Ngati izi ndi zowona pachikhalidwe chathu masiku ano, kodi titha kuyesa kumvetsetsa bwino? M'malo mongonena kuti ndizolakwika, kodi titha kuwona zifukwa zina zowerengera izi?
Chinsinsi
Monga othandizira maanja, ndimawona mawonetseredwe opeza mnzake ndi "zolaula". Ngakhale malingaliro osiyanasiyana pankhaniyi ndi osiyana kwa banja lililonse, mitu yodziwika bwino imawonekera. Chosokoneza kwambiri ndikumverera koperekedwa chifukwa chachinsinsi. Mgwirizano womwe umalengezedwa kuti ndi gawo logawana, lingaliro lokhalo lofufuza ndikusangalala ndilokayikitsa, ngati siloletsedwa! Kusiyidwa komwe mzanu amamva kudziko lina lachinsinsi nthawi zambiri kumakhala kosavomerezeka.
Khalani momwe zingathere, kusungitsa zina mwazokha kwathandiza kwambiri m'moyo wonse. Inde, tikuyenera kusintha izi pang'ono tsopano tikadzakula, koma tiyeni timvetsetse koyamba za chinsinsi. Tiyenera kungochitira umboni ana achichepere akusewera kuti awone kubisala kwachinsinsi komanso anzawo ongoganiza. Chofunikira pakukula ndi kudzisankhira tokha, timalola ana athu kutengera izi. Zachidziwikire kuti tonsefe timakumbukira ngati achichepere achichepere chisangalalo chakusiyidwa tokha m'nyumba masana onse, omasuka kuyesera momwe timafunira. Nthawi ndi nthawi ndimamva kuchokera kwa makasitomala kuti amakumbukira zakumva izi ngati achikulire, mabanja awo akapita kunja ndipo amangosiyidwa ndi zida zawo. Kufunika koti "tichite choyipa" kumatulukabe! Ndimati "zoipa" mwachisawawa, koma ndikuchita chinthu chosazolowereka; china chosaloledwa ndi makolo kapena gulu.
Chifukwa chiyani? Kufunitsitsa kumeneku kuti mufufuze ndikupeza china chake chokhudza inu chomwe sichofunika kuti anthu aziwunika. Kuthekera kolola gawo lina la ife kutuluka, popanda kuweruzidwa. Oo. Zimakopa bwanji. Kukula, pakokha, kumakhala malo otseguka. Timasankha momwe tingafunire moyo wathu, ndikukhazikitsa malamulo ndi malamulo malinga ndi momwe ife tikufunira. Timasaina maudindo akuluakulu ndipo timayesetsa kutsatira malangizowo. Tidakulirako pang'ono ndi pang'ono kuchokera pa zomwe Carl Jung adatcha Anima yathu. Ntchito yofunika kwambiri ya psyche ndikulumikizanso nkhani yathu yoyambirira. Aliyense ali ndi nkhani yapadera ya momwe alili. Zambiri zantchito yanga yazachipatala ndikufikira izi. Mukukula, timasiya kulumikizana ndi zikhumbo zathu zobadwa nazo. Zosowa zoyambirira zimaphwanyidwa molawirira ndikusinthidwa malinga ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu. Pokhapokha kudzera muumisiri titha kubwerera ku zosowa zathu zenizeni. Zinthu zokongola kwambiri, ndipo sindikutanthauza kunena kuti tizigwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuti tithandizenso tokha, koma sindingachitire mwina koma kuzindikira kuyendetsa kuchokera kuzowona mpaka kuzopeka. Ndipo ndikudabwa kuti, kupatula zoonekeratu, ndi chiyani m'malingaliro?
Ndili ndi mafunso ambiri kwa maanja omwe amabwera ndi nkhani yolaula ngati kusakhulupirika. Choyamba ndikufunitsitsa kumvetsetsa.
- Zomwe zimachitika ndikamaonera zolaula?
- Kodi pali mutu wankhanza wokonda zachiwerewere?
- Kodi muli ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa zomwe zingakhalepo komanso kufunikira kwa wokondedwa wanu?
Ngakhale ndizosavuta komanso zoyesera kuponyera chopukutira ndi kuzilemba kuti zisokonezeke, kodi si gawo lodzipereka ili kumvetsetsa zamkati mwa mnzanu? Ndipo, kodi wokhumudwitsayo ndi wofunitsitsa kuyankhula za izi, kulolera kulowa mdzikoli, manyazi? Sintchito yovuta, popeza pali manyazi ambiri omwe akukhudzidwa ndi ambiri.
Ndiyenera kufunsa banjali kuti liyimitse izi pang'ono. M'malo otetezeka osaganiza bwino, titha kuwona mayankho amafunso okhumudwitsa a bwalo lachiwerewere lachinsinsi.
Lingaliro lina lofala ndilo mutu wakuti "Sindiri wokwanira". Lingaliro loti wokondedwa wanu wakuwonani kuti ndi osakhutiritsa ndipo akusowa bwino. Ngati ndingamuthandize mnzathu yemwe wapwetekedwayo kuti athetse lingaliro loletsa komanso losocheretsali, tili paulendo wopita patali. Ngakhale sizachilendo kumva motere, pali zambiri zambiri zomwe zimayambitsa izi. Ichi ndiye chovuta kwambiri kusintha, ndipo chimakhudzana kwambiri ndi malire ndi malingaliro. Mmodzi sangakhale ndiudindo wathunthu pazovuta za mnzake.
Monga momwe ndimanenera nthawi zambiri, mumangopeza 50% koposa! Tiyeni tiwone zopitirira 50% ya enawo.
Chifukwa chake nayi chenjezo. Ngakhale kukhala kwachinsinsi kumatha kusungitsa kudzipatula, maubale okwatirana okhaokha samalola chinsinsi. Pabwino. Kupeza njira zina zosungira kufunika kwake ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino, chifukwa chake palibe amene akumva kuti akulowa mchombo chimodzi.
Maanja amafunika, ndipo ayenera, kukhala ndi zokonda zosiyana. Patulani osati chinsinsi. Kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti zolaula ziyenera kutayidwa? Ayi sichoncho. Izi, komabe, ziyenera kufotokozedwa, kapena zabwinoko, kuti zigawidwe. Mabanja omwe amakhala otseguka pazolaula komanso maliseche, samapanikizika. Ngakhale chibwenzicho chidayamba bwanji, pamabwera nthawi yomwe timakhazikika. Kugonana ndi zina. Izi zimabweretsa chitetezo komanso chitetezo chomwe timayendetsedwa. Ah, mphatso ndi temberero! Ngakhale ambiri amaika pachiwopsezo cha mphatso yamtengo wapatali yomwe adalima popita kukalimbikitsa kunja, kapena molunjika, mwina pangakhale njira yophimbira mphatso iyi, mochita zachiwerewere? Pogwiritsa ntchito nkhani zomwe munagawana za zosowa zoyambirira komanso mthunzi, maanja atha kupanga mndandanda watsopano wogonana. Nthawi yobweretsa zolaula mumithunzi; lipangeni kukhala gawo la malo atsopano ogonana.
Ndi liti pamene ndizochuluka ndipo misampha yake ndi iti?
Zomwe timakonza m'maganizo zimakhala ndi zotsatirapo zake. Onetsetsani kuti musintha njira! Ndife neuroplastic. Ubongo wathu umaphunzitsa mwachangu kuwunikira munjira inayake ndipo kubwereza kumalimbitsa mphamvu yake. Ndikofunikira kukhala ndi njira zina zodzutsira, komanso ziwonetsero. Chifukwa cha zolaula, anthu akuchita maliseche ndikukondana kwambiri ndikukhala nkhondo kwa ambiri. Achinyamata akudabwitsa modabwitsa nkhani za ED panthawi yogonana. Inde, izi zitha kukhala zokhudzana ndi zolaula zambiri komanso maliseche. Kukhazikitsidwa pamiyeso yayikulu yamachitidwe a maliseche kumachepetsa kuthekera kolimbikitsana panthawi yogonana. Ndikumva mavuto osiyanasiyana, kuyambira polephera kufika pachimake panthawi yogonana, mpaka ED yonse yopanda pakamwa kapena yopatsa chidwi, kudalira zazitona, ndikupitilira. Gulu latsopanoli la matendawa lili pafupi. Malire ozungulira zolaula ndizofunikira, chifukwa chake sititaya luso lopanga zachikondi mdera loganizira lomwe limalumikiza mgwirizano wathu. Tiyenera kukhala okhoza kusungitsa chidwi chathu chakusangalala m'thupi m'malo ozindikira, osati zododometsa.
Ngakhale zolaula zimapanga nkhokwe zachidziwitso, kuchuluka kwake kumayambitsa zosokoneza, kutayika, komanso kulephera pachimake. Kugwiritsa ntchito mwanzeru komanso moyenera, itha kuyambitsa kulumikizana ndi dziko lanu lachiwerewere, ndipo kugawana izi ndi mnzanu ndikulumikizana. Pamafunika kukhulupirirana komanso kusatetezeka, zomwe zimapangitsanso kuti mukhale pachibwenzi! Kugwiritsa ntchito mopanda nzeru, zitha kukhala zovuta.