Zamkati
- Mfundo yoti mukhale pachibwenzi # 1: Sinthani zomwe mukuyembekezera
- Mfundo yoti mukhale pachibwenzi # 2: Khazikitsani zolinga zanu
- Mfundo ya chibwenzi # 3: Gwirizanitsani zochita zanu ndi zolinga zanu
- Mfundo yoti mukhale pachibwenzi # 4: Musamachepetse malire
- Mfundo ya chibwenzi # 5: Khalani ndi chiyembekezo
- Mfundo ya chibwenzi # 6: Kuthokoza ndi msuzi wachinsinsi
- Mfundo ya chibwenzi # 7: Yendani ndi mantha
Mukayang'ana tanthauzo la 'mfundo,' limatanthauza "chowonadi chofunikira kapena lingaliro lomwe limakhala ngati maziko azikhulupiriro kapena machitidwe - kapena pamalingaliro angapo." Ndi lamulo, kapena muyezo wogwiritsira ntchito.
Ndi chinthu chachilendo chiti chomwe anthu ambiri amaganiza pankhani yokhudza chibwenzi, makamaka pamene ambiri aife tidakakamizidwa kudana ndi malamulo?
Koma ngati tikadakhala ndi mfundo zathu za Chibwenzi zomwe tidagwiritsa ntchito ngati chitsogozo chazomwe timachita pachibwenzi, sitifunikira kungokhala pachibwenzi kwinaku tikuyembekeza kuti titha kufika pomwepo kuti tipeze bwenzi labwino komanso langwiro pakati pathu la nyanja anthu nthawi zonse.
M'malo mwake, titha kupanga zisankho zabwino pazomwe timagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yathu yamtengo wapatali ndikuwonetsetsa, ndipo titha kudziphatikiza ndi anthu abwino.
Tsopano ndizomveka, sichoncho?
Taphatikizanso mfundo 7 za chibwenzi pomwe pano zomwe mungafune kugwiritsa ntchito ngati chitsogozo cha moyo wanu wa chibwenzi, kapena zomwe zingakulimbikitseni kupanga luso lanu (ndikuyimilira) mtundu wanu.
Mfundo yoti mukhale pachibwenzi # 1: Sinthani zomwe mukuyembekezera
Pazifukwa zina zachilendo, nthawi zambiri timakhala ndi malingaliro osokonekera komanso kuyembekezera zosatheka pankhani ya chibwenzi, kusankha bwenzi komanso momwe timaonera ubale wosangalala komanso wathanzi.
Inen zenizeni, chikondi ndiukwati sizingafanane ndi Disney.
Ndipo mnyamatayo kapena msungwana yemwe simumangogwedeza naye akhoza kukuphulitsani ndi kupsompsonana koyamba, kapena nthawi yochulukirapo.
M'malo molola kutengeka ndi kutitsogolera titha kusiya kuganizira zomwe timayembekezera kuchokera pachibwenzi ndi mnzathu ndikuyamba kuyang'ana pakupeza kuti m'malo mongododometsedwa ndi zonyezimira zazodzikongoletsera, zovala zabwino kapena ntchito masewera olimbitsa thupi!
Kutenga nthawi kuganizira za mtundu wa ubale womwe tikufuna komanso chifukwa chake timafuna. Komanso kafukufuku kuti mumvetsetse ngati ubale wathu wosankhidwawo ndiwotheka zidzakuthandizani kuzindikira kusiyana pakati pazomwe mukuganiza kuti mukufuna, ndi zomwe mukufunadi. Izi zikuthandizani kuyang'ana pamikhalidwe yofunikira mwa mnzanu m'malo mofunafuna chilakolako, kapena kukopeka mukangomuwona koyamba.
Yakwana nthawi yogwiritsidwa ntchito bwino komanso mfundo zoyambira pachibwenzi - zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti mupite ku tsiku lolota.
Mfundo yoti mukhale pachibwenzi # 2: Khazikitsani zolinga zanu
Simupita ulendo wamagalimoto kwinakwake osadziwa komwe mukupita, ndipo mukatero, mudzakhala mukuzisiya nokha kuti mutsegule zilizonse zomwe zingakugwereni (ndipo mutha kuphonya malo olimbikitsa panjira).
Ndi chimodzimodzi ndi chibwenzi.
Yambani kulemba zomwe mukufuna, amene mukufuna, ndi mikhalidwe yanji ali nayo, mudzatani wina ndi mnzake, ndi moyo wamtundu wanji womwe mukufuna ndipo mudzayamba kukoka munthuyo kuti abwere kwa inu.
Onetsani momveka bwino momwe mungakhalire zolinga ndikupitilizabe kuziwona momwe zikusinthira ndikukula.
Koma musamangire pa nthano, pangani zenizeni ndikukhala owona.
Posakhalitsa, mudzakhala omveka pazomwe mukufuna komanso omwe mukufuna, ndipo mudzatumiza uthenga womveka bwino kwa Mulungu kapena Mlengi pazomwe mukufuna kuti akuthandizeni kukonza njira yanu ndikudziyanjanitsa zolinga zanu. Zomwe zimatitsogolera kukhala pachibwenzi # 3!
Mfundo ya chibwenzi # 3: Gwirizanitsani zochita zanu ndi zolinga zanu
Anthu ambiri amakhala ndi mawonekedwe osatetezeka ndipo zokumana nazo zathu m'moyo zimakhudza momwe timakhalira ndi ena - zabwino kapena zoyipa.
Nthawi zambiri si anzathu omwe ali ndi mlandu pazomwe tili pachibwenzi ndizo tokha.
Tikadakhala kuti timadziwa zomwe timafuna (onani mfundo ya chibwenzi # 1) kenako nkuyamba kuyanjana ndi zokhumba zathu ndikupeza zomwe tikufuna ndiye kuti tili pakati. Vuto lotsatira lomwe tingapeze ndi momwe tingapezere njira yathu pankhani yopeza bwenzi langwiro.
Chifukwa chake, apa ndi pomwe mumayamba kuyang'ana pazifukwa zomwe simukutsata msewu wazomwe mukufuna. Chifukwa chomwe mumakopa anthu olakwika (kapena tidzanena chifukwa chomwe mumakopeka ndi anthu olakwika) ndi momwe mungakonzere izi.
Kugwira ntchito iyi pamapeto pake kudzakupangitsani kukhala m'malo abwino m'maganizo, mwakuthupi komanso mwakuthupi kuti mukope ndikukhala ndi mnzanu woyenera.
Palibe nthano pano ndikuwopa chabe, kusakhazikika komanso, kudzizindikira, chonde!
Mfundo yoti mukhale pachibwenzi # 4: Musamachepetse malire
Anthu sawulula chilichonse chokhudza iwo nthawi yomweyo. Simudziulula nokha kwa anthu nthawi yomweyo.
Ngati mwakhala pachibwenzi ndi winawake, ndipo mumawakonda koma simukutsimikizika kukhala owona mtima, auzeni, ndipo afunseni ngati mungayang'anebe kuti mudziwe zambiri za wina ndi mnzake. Kupanda kutero, mutha kuphonya kuya kwawo kobisika komwe kungangofanana ndi kwanu.
Simudziwa ngati mutachita izi mwina simusowa kuti muwoneke molimbika kuti mupeze munthu wangwiro ndipo simukufuna kutumiza mauthenga kapena mapemphero kuti mupeze munthu wangwiro kuti angakane mphatso zomwe zikubweretserani nthawi yomweyo inu?
Kumbukiraninso, kupeza bwenzi ndi sewero lamanambala, muyenera kutuluka ndikukakumana ndi zibwenzi kuti mupeze wina - mwina sangabwere kudzakugogodani kuti adzakufunseni.
Chifukwa chake ngati simutuluka kwambiri, yambani kudziwa momwe mungafikire pamaso pa anthu ambiri ndikukulitsa netiweki yolumikizana.
Mfundo ya chibwenzi # 5: Khalani ndi chiyembekezo
Osataya mtima, pitilizani kuwunikiranso ndikukonzanso zolinga zanu ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera, ganizirani zomwe mwakumana nazo mogwirizana ndi zolinga zanu ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera, ndikuwonetsa zosinthazo.
Unikani chifukwa chomwe mumaganizira zomwe mumachita, mwachitsanzo, ndinu wamkazi amene mukuyembekezera kuti munthu wina adzakufunseni. Kodi muloleza winawake yemwe angakhale wangwiro kwa inu kuti adutse pamalingaliro osafunikira ngati awa? Amatha kuchita mantha, kufunsa koma sizitanthauza kuti ndiwofooka.
Mungafunike kusintha zolinga zanu, ndi zoyembekeza zanu kapena mungafunike kudzikonza kuti mugwirizane ndi mnzanu wangwiro ndipo ndibwino kuti mutero.
Chibwenzi chingakhale chosangalatsa komanso masewera muunyamata wanu koma panthawi ina, chimakhala chachikulu. Izi ndizopindulitsa pamoyo wanu ngati mukufuna kukwatira. Chifukwa chake mutha kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi ino kuti mupeze mtundu wanu wabwino.
Mudzalandira mphotho zazikulu ngati mutatero!
Mfundo ya chibwenzi # 6: Kuthokoza ndi msuzi wachinsinsi
Anthu ena amalipira pakamwa poyamikira, koma kwa ine, zili ngati switch ya 'on'.
Ngati mwadalitsika ndi zokumana nazo (ngakhale sizomwe mukukumana nazo), pomwe mukuyesera kukwaniritsa china chake m'moyo, zikukuthandizani kuti muzilemba njira yanu yopambana.
Kudzakhala kukuwunikira njira yanu ndikukuphunzitsani zomwe muyenera kuphunzira kuti mukwaniritse zolinga zanu.
Yamikirani mwayi uliwonse, kuzindikira, ndikukumana ndi zabwino kapena zoyipa. Ngakhale mwaphonya chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pazolinga zanu kapena zoyembekezera zanu, ngakhale mutakhala kuti mwaphunzira zovuta muziyamikira.
Koma kumbukirani kuti simuyenera kutsatira zomwe mudalandira ngati simukuzikonda, mumangophunzira ndikukula kuchokera pamenepo moyamikira.
Ngati mukukumana ndi zovuta musangokhala osayamika - tulukani ndikuthokoza mulungu chifukwa wakuwonetsani zomwe simuyenera kuchita ndikuyamba kufunsa malangizo pakukonza chilichonse chomwe chidakukhudzani.
Mfundo ya chibwenzi # 7: Yendani ndi mantha
Kukhala pachibwenzi kumatha kukhala kowopsa, kudziyika wekha panokha ndikuwonetsa kusatetezeka kwako kwa mlendo kungakhale kovuta, koma pali mawu akuti mantha ndi mphunzitsi wako wamkulu.
Mantha amakuwonetsani khomo lomwe muyenera kuyenda ndikukutsegulirani ku dziko latsopano, mukadangodutsamo.
Chifukwa chake musalole mantha kukulepheretsani kulanda mwamuna kapena mkazi wabwino wamtsogolo.
Pitani kunja uko ndikuyenda pazitseko zomwe zimakuwopetsani!