Zamkati
- 1. Dziwani mfundo zazikuluzikulu zomwe mukufuna kukonza
- 2. Kumbukirani: Kuthetsa kusamvana kumayamba ndi inu
- 3. Lankhulani kuchokera pamalo abwino, odekha komanso aulemu
- 4. Uzani wophunzitsayo kuti akuphunzitseni njira zabwino zolankhulirana
- 5.Nazi njira zina zokhazikitsira maphunziro osakhwima osakonzekera nkhondo:
- 6. Fufuzani wina ndi mnzake
- 7. Nenani zikomo
Kodi ndi banja liti lomwe silimakumana ndi mavuto ake? Ochepa. M'malo mwake, maanja omwe akuti alibe mavuto amakhala akukana kwambiri kapena osalankhulana. Kwa tonsefe, tiyenera kuzindikira kuti mavuto am'banja amatha, ndipo tiyenera kuwongolera, osawanyalanyaza, kuti ubale wathu ulimbe.
Chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri zaukwati zomwe mungaphunzire ndi ichi: ngati inu ndi mnzanu mukukumana kuti simungathe kupita patsogolo kuti mukonze mavuto anu, itanani mfuti zazikulu.
Funsani thandizo ndi ukatswiri waukwati wokhala ndi zilolezo komanso wothandizira mabanja.
Palibe manyazi kufunsa wina yemwe waphunzitsidwa kuti akuthandizeni kudzithandiza nokha, ndipo maukwati mamiliyoni ambiri monga anu sanapulumutsidwe koma apangitsidwa olimba, atakhala nthawi yayitali ndi wothandizira.
Kodi mungakonzekere bwanji magawidwe anu?
1. Dziwani mfundo zazikuluzikulu zomwe mukufuna kukonza
Musanayambe chithandizo chokwatirana, ndikofunikira kukhala pansi ndikulemba mndandanda wamavuto onse omwe mungakonde kuthana nawo. Lembani izi kuyambira zofunika kwambiri mpaka zazing'ono. Inu ndi amuna anu mungafune kupanga mindandanda yanu nokha, chifukwa mungakhale ndi zinthu zina zomwe simukufuna kugawana nawo amuna anu momasuka.
Uwu ndiye mwayi wabwino kwambiri wogwira ntchito ndi wothandizira, chifukwa zimakupatsani mwayi wofotokozera zinthu mosamala kuofesi yake zomwe mwina simunayankhe kukambirana ndi mnzanu kunyumba.
2. Kumbukirani: Kuthetsa kusamvana kumayamba ndi inu
Uphungu wina wofunikira pabanja ndikuti muzikumbukira kuti simungasinthe wina aliyense. Mutha kusintha momwe inu onani ndikuchita ndi mavuto am'banja mwanu. Chifukwa chake mukamagwira ntchito pamaukwati awa, kaya muofesi ya othandizira kapena kunyumba ndi mnzanu, kumbukirani kuti mukufuna kuti muziyang'ana kwambiri za inu.
Kodi mungatani kuti mupite patsogolo moyenera ndi zomwe zikukusungani munjira yoyipa? Kodi mungasinthe bwanji zomwe zikuyambitsa nkhawa komanso nkhawa? Ngati zinthu sizikusintha, mumadziona kuti muzaka zisanu, khumi? Kodi mutha kukhala ndi izi? Ngati sichoncho, ndi masitepe ati omwe angathe inu kutenga kusintha zinthu?
3. Lankhulani kuchokera pamalo abwino, odekha komanso aulemu
Anthu okwatirana akamakambirana mavuto awo a m'banja, zimakhala zosavuta kuti mawu awonjezeke ndikudzudzulidwa.
Khazikitsani malamulo musanakambirane.
Tidzakondana wina ndi mnzake. Tilankhula ndi mawu odekha. Timalemekezana ndipo sitidzachitirana chipongwe kapena kutukwana.
Ndipo onetsetsani kuti pali zotulukapo ngati lamuloli silisungidwa. Tipumako pazokambiranazi ndikudzipatula kuzipinda zosiyana mpaka tonse titakhazikika ndikumverera kuti ndife okonzeka kupitiliza.
4. Uzani wophunzitsayo kuti akuphunzitseni njira zabwino zolankhulirana
Cholinga sikuti ndi kuthetsa mavuto onse m'banja mwanu. Cholinga ndikuphunzira zida zabwino, zoyenera kugwiritsa ntchito mavuto m'banja. Chimodzi mwa zida zabwino kwambiri zomwe mungakhale nacho m'buku lanu lazamalonda ndi luso loyankhulana.
5.Nazi njira zina zokhazikitsira maphunziro osakhwima osakonzekera nkhondo:
"Ndikumva ......" ndibwino kuposa "Mumandipangitsa kumva ......"
"Ndikudandaula za ...." Bwino kuposa "Mumandidetsa nkhawa za ....."
"Ndikufuna ....." ndibwino kuposa "Ndikufuna kuti ..."
"Ndikumvetsa chifukwa chake mumaona choncho" ndibwino kuti "Mukulakwitsa ndipo simukumvetsetsa zomwe zikuchitika pano."
Onani momwe mawu oyambawo aliri osawopseza? Amatsegula zokambiranazo m'malo mongotseka wokondedwa wanu.
6. Fufuzani wina ndi mnzake
Vuto lofala muukwati ndilo kukhala wotanganidwa. Mabanja onse awiriwa akugwira ntchito, pali ana oti aziwasamalira, nyumba yosungika bwino, komanso ntchito zina zonse zomwe zimakopa chidwi chanu. Nzosadabwitsa kuti okwatirana angamve kuti anyalanyazidwa. Nthawi zina, kungopanga mfundo yoti muwerenge madzulo aliwonse ndi mnzanu ndikokwanira kuti vuto laling'ono lisakhale lalikulu.
Pomwe zimakhala zokopa kuti muwoneke pamaso pa TV mukasamalira maudindo ena onse okhudzana ndi banja, khalani ndi nthawi yokhala ndi mnzanu ndikuwona momwe akuchitira.
Tembenukira kwa iwo, uwagwire, ndipo uwafunse kuti tsiku lawo linali bwanji.
Tsatirani yankho lawo, ndipo tengani pamenepo. Palibe chomwe chimathandiza banja kukhala lolimba ngati kumvanso wina ndi mnzake, kuwonana ndikuwonetsa kuti tsiku / moyo wawo ndi wofunika kwa inu.
7. Nenani zikomo
Vuto lofala lomwe maanja akuti ndikuti amadzimva kuti awapezerera kapena zoyesayesa zawo sizizindikirika. Izi ndizofala makamaka m'maukwati okhalitsa, komwe kuli kosavuta kuyiwala kuthokoza mnzanu chifukwa cha zinthu zomwe mwalandira kale: chakudya chabwino, kapena nyumba yoyera, kapena kusintha mafuta pagalimoto yanu.
Kunyalanyaza kuyamikira kumabweretsa malingaliro olakwika m'banjamo, onetsetsani kuti mukuti zikomo kamodzi patsiku. Aliyense amakonda kumva kuti amamuwona komanso kumuyamika, ndipo mudzamva bwino ndikupereka kuyamika kwa munthu wofunikira kwambiri m'moyo wanu.