Zamkati
- 1. Kulankhulana ndichinsinsi
- 2. Kukhulupirirana ndi chilichonse
- 3. Upangiri waubwenzi paulemu
- 4. Chikondi chimasunga moto
- 5. Muzidzikonda
- 6. Muzipatsana malo
- 7. Mupambane wina ndi mnzake
- 8. Tiyeni tikambirane zogonana
- 9. Khululuka ndi kusiya
- 10. Khalani achifundo
Banja lililonse limafuna upangiri waubwenzi.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake amafunidwa kwambiri. Ambiri amapita kwa abwenzi ndi abale koma nthawi zambiri, upangiri wothandiza kwambiri umakhala wochokera kwina. Zimakhala zabwinopo pomwe upangiriwo umakhudza mbali zazikulu za chibwenzi zomwe zimaphatikizapo kulumikizana, kukhulupirirana, ulemu ndi kukondana.
Nawa maupangiri 10 othandizira maubwenzi kuti mupambane pachibwenzi chanu.
1. Kulankhulana ndichinsinsi
Kusintha kwa kulumikizana ndiupangiri wabwino kwambiri komanso wofala kwambiri paubwenzi womwe mungalandirepo. Banja lomwe silingathe kulankhulana bwino limakumana ndi mavuto kumapeto kwa banja.
Kaya mukungolankhula za tsiku lanu kapena mukukambirana chinthu chachikulu, chinsinsi ndikumvetsera, kukonza zomwe winayo akunena ndikugawana zomwe mukuganiza. Kukhala wokhoza kuchita izi kumakhazikitsa maziko olimba kwambiri pachibwenzi.
2. Kukhulupirirana ndi chilichonse
Kukhazikitsa chidaliro ndikofunikanso.
Ngati mukuyenera kuda nkhawa ndi zomwe mnzanu akuchita kapena mosemphanitsa, limenelo ndi vuto.
Mwamwayi kukhala munthu wodalirika ndikosavuta kuposa kukhala wosadalirika. Kuti akhazikitse chidaliro onse omwe akukhudzidwa ayenera kukhala oyamba, odalirika, komanso owona. Kuphatikiza apo, onse omwe akutenga nawo mbali ayenera kukhala ndi chikhulupiriro mwa anzawo. Nayi njira zolimbikitsira mabanja zomwe mabanja onse ayenera kudziwa.
Pazifukwa zomwe kudalirana kudalirana, kufunitsitsa kuvomereza zolakwitsa ndiye gawo loyamba kuti mubwezeretse.
Chomwe chimapangitsa ubale kukhala wolimba ndi kukhulupirirana. Ngati muwona kuti chibwenzi chanu chiyenera kupulumutsidwa ngakhale ataperekedwa ndi wokondedwa wanu, pali njira zingapo zomwe mungachite kuti mubwezeretse kukhulupirirana.
Izi ndi zomwe mumachita muubwenzi womwe chidaliro chathyoledwa.
3. Upangiri waubwenzi paulemu
Chimodzi mwamaupangiri abwinobwino za chiyanjano ndi kulemekezana m'mabanja.
Ulemu ndi wofunikira kwambiri!
Kukoma mtima ndi kulingalira kumapangitsa kuti chikondi chikule bwino komanso kukhala ndi ulemu kwa mnzanu ndikosavuta. Kupanda ulemu kwina kumatha kubweretsa mkwiyo pakati pazinthu zina. Ingokumbukirani kuti ulemu ndi njira ziwiri.
Muyenera kuchitira wokondedwa wanu momwe mukufuna kuchitira.
4. Chikondi chimasunga moto
Pomaliza, osanyalanyaza chikondi ngati upangiri wofunikira womwe ungabweretse chisangalalo chosatha komanso kukwaniritsidwa muubwenzi.
Zosawonetsera zosakondana monga kupsompsonana, kukumbatirana, kugwirana manja komanso kugwirana modekha pokambirana zili ndi njira yolumikizira anthu awiri ndikusungabe kwapadera.
Ngakhale mawonetsedwe achikondi awa siosangalatsa koma amalimbitsa kugonana polimbikitsa kuyandikana.
5. Muzidzikonda
Ndiye, mukuyang'ana chiyani muubwenzi? Mphamvu, zosangalala komanso zaulemu pakati panu ndi mnzanu. Kulondola?
Koma, mungalimbitse bwanji ubale wanu ngati mumalola wina kulamula magawo azisangalalo m'moyo wanu? Chowonadi ndi chakuti ndiye mlengi wachimwemwe chanu.
Mukakhala pamtendere ndi inu nokha, ndikumva bwino ndikukwanitsa nokha, mudzakhala mnzanu wosangalala muubwenzi. Munthu wokwaniritsidwa theka osadzidalira sangakulitse ubale.
Komanso, tsatirani upangiri wabwino kwambiri wamaubwenzi omwe amakulangizani motsutsana ndi ubale wokhutira, chisangalalo, kukwaniritsidwa, kutsimikizika, komanso kudzidalira.
Gwiritsani ntchito ubale kuti mumange maziko olimba, koma musanayang'ane za inu nokha, yesetsani kudzikonda komanso kudzisamalira, ndipo amenewo ndiupangiri wabwino wamaubwenzi amomwe mungakhalire ndi ubale wabwino kwambiri.
Chimodzi mwamaupangiri olimba pachibwenzi ndikuti muphunzire kudzikonda musanalowe pachibwenzi.
Malinga ndi akatswiri azamaubwenzi, chomwe chimapangitsa ubale wabwino ndi anthu awiri otetezeka, olimba mtima komanso odzidalira omwe amapereka mphamvu pazowonjezera.
6. Muzipatsana malo
Kaya mukufuna upangiri waubwenzi woyamba kapena upangiri wachikondi ndi maubwenzi mutakhala m'mabanja angapo, ndiupangiri wapaubwenzi kuti muphunzire kupatsana malo.
Zokuthandizani kukhala paubwenzi wangwiro zimaphatikizapo kuyika malire pakati pa nthawi ya banja ndikukhala ndi nthawi kutsatira zofuna zanu kapena kucheza ndi anzanu komanso abale.
7. Mupambane wina ndi mnzake
Malangizo aubwenzi wabwino ndi bwenzi lanu kapena bwenzi lanu limaphatikizapo kuwachirikiza mosasamala ndipo mnzanu akachita chinthu chachikulu kapena apambana, chachikulu kapena chaching'ono, awalimbikitseni!
Momwe mungapangire kuti ubale wanu ukhale wogwira ntchito, imodzi mwamaupangiri abwino oti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino ndi kukhala wothandizana naye bwino muukwati wanu.
Khalani otetezana wina ndi mnzake, mosasamala kanthu zakufunira kapena cholinga chake. Khalani thanthwe la wina ndi mnzake.
Onetsani momveka bwino kuti ziribe kanthu zomwe mungalimbikitsane wina ndi mnzake ndikumva iwo, osaweruza, chilichonse. Izi zimayankhanso funso, zoti tikambirane muubwenzi.
Atanena izi, chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kuthana nacho muubwenzi pano ndikuti musamakhumudwitse mnzanuyo ndi malangizo ochuluka osafunsidwa kapena thandizo. Perekani upangiri pokhapokha mukafunsidwa.
8. Tiyeni tikambirane zogonana
Kuti musangalale ndi kukondana komanso kukhutira muubwenzi wanu, ndikofunikira kukhala ndi moyo wogonana wabwino. Kulankhula momasuka komanso moona mtima za kugonana ndikofunikira kwambiri kukhala ndiubwenzi wabwino.
Pofuna kununkhira zinthu pakati pa mapepala, musaiwale kuwona zomwe mnzanu wavomereza, kutonthoza komanso chitetezo. Pokambirana zomwe zimapangitsa ubale kukhala wangwiro, kuyanjana kumakhala ngati mwala wofunikira.
Kuchotsa zogonana komanso kukondana kuchokera ku mgwirizano wanu kumakusiyani malo ogona. Ubwenzi wapamtima umakhazikitsa ndi kulimbitsa chomangira cha chikondi ndichifukwa chake muyenera kuyika chidwi kwambiri paubwenzi wogonana.
9. Khululuka ndi kusiya
Maupangiri aubwenzi wabanja wapabanja sikuti amatuluka thukuta muukwati kapena pachibwenzi.
Khalani okonzeka kulakwitsa zomwe mwalakwitsa ndikupepesa kwa okondedwa anu ndikukhala achisomo mowakhululukira chifukwa cha kuyang'anira kwawo.
Ndizopereka zomwe simukuziwona muukwati wathanzi mukamatsata lamulo labwino losiya zinthu zazing'ono ndikusankha kuseka pazinthu zazing'ono zomwe zitha kubweretsa mkangano.
Lankhulani bwino ndipo musalole kuti zigawenga zazing'ono zizikukhumudwitsani.
10. Khalani achifundo
Kumvera ena chisoni n’kofunika kuti banja liziyenda bwino. Mphamvu yakumvera chisoni m'mabwenzi siyingakonzedwe mokwanira.
Ndi mchitidwe womvetsetsa malingaliro a mnzanu momwe amaonera.
Chisoni muukwati chimatha kusintha masewera. Zimalimbikitsa chifundo, kumvetsetsa ndi mgwirizano mu maubwenzi.
Zimapangitsa mnzanu kumva kuti akumvetsetsa, ndikupanga kulumikizana kwamphamvu pakati pa awiriwa.
Banja lirilonse lingapindule ndi upangiri waubwenzi pamwambapa. Chinsinsi cha ubale wabwino ndikutsatira upangiri waubwenzi ndikukwaniritsa zofunikira.
Chikondi chosatha chimafunikira maziko olimba.