Zamkati
- Dziwani ndikudziyesa nokha
- Sankhani mnzanu pazifukwa zomveka
- Onetsetsani kuti chibwenzi chimakupatsani chiyani
- Chikondi ndi verebu; ndichisankho mwadala
- Kulankhulana bwino ndikofunika
- Sankhani munthu amene mumamulemekeza ndi kumusirira
- Sankhani munthu amene mungamukhulupirire kwathunthu
- Pitani pang'onopang'ono
- Dziwani kusiyana pakati pa kunyengerera ndi kudzipereka
- Anthu sasintha
- Muzilemekeza aliyense payekha
- Kugonana ndichotchingira ubale
Mukufuna chibwenzi chachikulu? Muubwenzi wabwino kwambiri ndikufuna kuti izikhala choncho (kapena kukhala bwino)? Nawa maupangiri aubwenzi woyesererana wokuthandizirani kuyenda m'njira zosintha zachikondi.
Dziwani ndikudziyesa nokha
Musanayambe kufuna masewera abwino, onetsetsani kuti mukudziwa omwe muli. Kodi mphamvu ndi zofooka zanu ndi ziti? Kodi zilakolako zanu ndi ziti? Ndi zovuta ziti zomwe mwakumana nazo kuti muchite bwino? Nanga bwanji za maloto — a kanthawi kochepa komanso a nthawi yayitali? Kudzidziwa nokha kumakuthandizani kusankha mtundu wa anthu omwe mungakhale nawo bwino; wina amene amakukwaniritsani m'njira yomwe imabweretsa zabwino mwa inu.
Mufunanso kukhala pamtendere ndi omwe muli. Mukufuna kukhala otetezeka mukuyenerera kwanu, osadalira mnzanu kuti akupatseni ulemu. Ndi ntchito yambiri kuti mufike poti mumadzikonda nokha, koma ndichofunika chifukwa mudzakopa anthu ena abwino, athanzi labwino.
Sankhani mnzanu pazifukwa zomveka
Kusimidwa kumabweretsa zisankho zoyipa. Palibe amene amapanga zisankho zabwino zachikondi ngati akumva kukhala osatetezeka, osungulumwa, kapena osakondedwa. Onetsetsani kuti mumadziphatikizira ndi anthu omwe amakupangitsani kumva kuti mumakondedwa, oyenera komanso olemekezedwa. Ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti muli ndi thanzi labwino kuti mukope anthu ena athanzi.
Onetsetsani kuti chibwenzi chimakupatsani chiyani
Anthu ambiri amalumphira m'mabwenzi akuganiza kuti chikondi chitha mavuto awo onse. Kapenanso amayembekezera mosayembekezereka momwe chibwenzi chiyenera kuwonekera, kutengera mabuku ambiri achikondi kapena makanema achikondi. M'malo mwake, khalani ndi nthawi yocheza ndi mabanja omwe ali osangalala ndipo muwafunse chinsinsi cha ubale wawo wabwino. Gwiritsani ntchito anthu awa monga zitsanzo kuti muphunzire.
Chikondi ndi verebu; ndichisankho mwadala
Ndikosavuta kumva chikondi ndi chikondi mzaka zoyambirira za chibwenzi. Aliyense ali ndi magalasi ofiira pachiyambi, akuwona mbali zabwino kwambiri za wokondedwa wawo ndikunyalanyaza zosasangalatsa. Kuwala kwamatsenga kumeneku kumayamba kuzimiririka patadutsa zaka zingapo-ndipo sizachilendo - kuwulula zenizeni za munthu yemwe ali pansi pake. Sankhani mtundu wa munthu yemwe mupitilize kumukonda mtima wanu ukayamba kuchepa. Ndipo kondani mwakhama-sonyezani mnzanu momwe alili ofunikira kwa inu m'zochita ndi m'mawu.
Onetsani kuyamikira kwanu kupezeka kwawo m'moyo wanu. Sangalalani nawo. Alemekezeni. Osazitenga mopepuka.
Kulankhulana bwino ndikofunika
Ngati simungathe kuyankhula zazovuta ndi mnzanu popanda kutseka, muyenera kukayikira kuthekera kwa chibwenzicho. Ngati anthu onse ali ndiubwenzi, akuyenera kukhala omasuka kuyankhulana za maphunziro aliwonse. Ngati mnzanu safuna kuyankhulana, dziwani za chibwenzicho ndipo pezani wina yemwe akufuna kugwira ntchito kuti apeze yankho pakakhala zovuta.
Sankhani munthu amene mumamulemekeza ndi kumusirira
Mukufuna kuyang'ana kwa mnzanu. Mukufuna kusilira zomwe amachita, momwe amachitira ndi ena, komanso momwe amayendera padziko lapansi. Sankhani munthu wabwino yemwe amathandizira osati kungokhala ndi moyo wabwino, koma akukhudzidwa ndikuthandizira kukhala wathanzi lawonso.
Sankhani munthu amene mungamukhulupirire kwathunthu
Umenewu ndi mtima wanu womwe tikukamba, kotero ngati mumvetsetsa nthawi yomwe munali pachibwenzi kuti china chake "sichabwino", mverani kamvekedwe kameneko. Mwina ndi zolondola.
Pitani pang'onopang'ono
Ngakhale mutakhala omangika mchikondi, tengani zinthu pang'onopang'ono. Osatsegula bokosilo la chokoleti ndikudya zonse nthawi imodzi. Sangalalani ndi ubale wanu watsopano. Vumbula zinthu pang'ono ndi pang'ono. Ubwenzi wabwino uyenera kuyesetsa, kuyambira pomanga maziko olimba. Tengani nthawi yanu kuti mudziwane. Osamagona limodzi tsiku loyamba. Dzipatseni nokha zomwe muyenera kuyembekezera. Kugonana kumakulirakulira pamene mgwirizano wapamtima wakhazikitsidwa.
Dziwani kusiyana pakati pa kunyengerera ndi kudzipereka
Maubale onse amafunikira kunyengerera pang'ono kuti apitilize. Koma munthu m'modzi akamva ngati akupereka china chake chomwe chili chofunikira kwa iwo kuti athetse chibwenzicho, ndi nthawi yoti mubwerere ndikuwunikiranso momwe zinthu zilili.
Anthu sasintha
O, anthu amakula ndikusintha, koma mawonekedwe ofunikira omwe mnzanu akukuwonetsani tsopano sangasinthe. Ukwati sungapangitse mnzanu mozizwitsa kukhala woyang'anira ndalama wabwino, kapena kumuletsa kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yake yonse yaulere ndi PlayStation yake. Ngati pali zinthu zomwe mnzanu akuchita pano zomwe zakukwiyitsani, dziwani kuti zinthu izi zipitilirabe kukukwiyitsani (ndipo mwina zitha kukhala zoyipa) zaka 10-15 kuchokera pano.
Muzilemekeza aliyense payekha
Aliyense amadziwa banja lomwe "lalumikizana m'chiuno." Koma ali osangalala bwanji, zowonadi? Maanja athanzi amalemekeza zokonda za wina ndi mnzake, zilakolako, kusowa kwa malo nthawi ndi nthawi. Mabanja amasangalala akamalemekezana ngati akufuna kuchita zinthu zawo. Kubwera kunyumba kwa mnzanu yemwe sakuyembekezera kukuwuzani za mpikisano womwe apambana kumene, kapena utoto womwe akugwirapo ntchito, ndichimodzi mwazosangalatsa kwambiri padziko lapansi. Kutsata chisangalalo cha iwe mwini ndikofunikira kuti ubale ukhale wabwino komanso wowoneka bwino.
Kugonana ndichotchingira ubale
Kugonana sichinthu chilichonse muubwenzi, koma ndichofunikira ndipo chimangowonetsa kukondana komwe kulipo pakati pawo. Ngati maanja akusiya kulumikizana, sangalumikizane. Chifukwa chake ngati muwona pafupipafupi chikondi chanu chikuchepa, bwererani mmbuyo ndikuwone zomwe zikuchitika ndi mkhalidwe wapamtima wanu.