Zamkati
- Onetsani ziyembekezo zobisika muubwenzi wanu
- 1. Lekani kuyembekezera kwanu kuti adzakhala angwiro
- 2. Musalole kuti muziyembekezerabe kuti amangodziwa kuwerenga
- 3. Musayembekezere kuti mudzakhala mukugwirizana nthawi zonse
- 4. Lekani kuyembekezera kuti nthawi zonse muzikhala olondola
- 5. Musalole kuti chiyembekezo chanu chikhale chosavuta
Tonsefe tili ndi ziyembekezo za ubale; ndichinthu chachilengedwe komanso chathanzi kuchita. Zimathandiza kuti ubale upite patsogolo komwe mungakonde paubwenzi wanu.
Koma muyenera kukhala patsamba limodzi ndi ziyembekezozi.
Onetsani ziyembekezo zobisika muubwenzi wanu
Tsoka ilo, anthu ambiri amakhala ndi ziyembekezo zakubadwa kwawo kapena maloto omwe samagawana ndi wokondedwa wawo kapena mnzawoyo. M'malo mwake, amangowalemba ndikuyembekezera mosazindikira kuti wokondedwa wawo kapena mnzake agwera pamzere.
Apa ndi pamene ziyembekezo zaubwenzi zitha kukhala zosayenera. Mukadakhala mukuyembekezera kenako nkuganiza kuti mnzanu kapena mnzanu ali ndi chiyembekezo chofananacho koma sanakambiranepo. Mnzanu kapena mnzanu, kumbali inayo, atha kutsutsa chiyembekezo chimenecho.
Vuto ndiloti palibe m'modzi wa inu adakambirana kuti pali chiyembekezo chomwe chilipo. Zomwe zikutanthauza kuti nthawi ina mtsogolo mwamuna kapena mkazi yemwe sanapange zomwe akuyembekezerazo komanso yemwe angatsutse izi adzakhumudwitsa mnzake.
Ndipo sangadziwe chifukwa chake kapena zomwe zidachitika komanso zomwe zimachitika ngati chimodzi mwaziyembekezerozo ndichinthu chofunikira monga tsiku lina mudzapita kudziko lakwa amayi anu, kapena mudzakhala ndi ana asanu.
Umu ndi momwe timapangira ziyembekezo zomwe zingawononge ubale wathu.
Chifukwa chake kukuthandizani kuzindikira zoyembekezereka zobisika muukwati wanu kapena ubale wanu ndi zina mwaziyembekezero zaubwenzi zomwe mungakhale nazo ndikuyenera kuzisiya ngati mukufuna kuti ubale wanu ukhale bwino (kapena kungokambirana ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu ).
1. Lekani kuyembekezera kwanu kuti adzakhala angwiro
Tiyeni tichotse pamndandandawu ndi china chake chomwe tonse tili nacho mlandu - kuyembekezera kuti anzathu azikhala angwiro.
Chiyambi cha chibwenzi changa choyamba chinali kuyenda bwino.
Ndimakukondani muli pakati pa nthawi yamasana. Madeti odabwitsa a nkhomaliro. Mawa m'mawa komanso usiku wabwino. Kudya kwamlungu uliwonse. Tonse tinali okoma wina ndi mnzake. Tinali angwiro kwambiri. Kwa ine, anali wangwiro.
Mpaka pomwe tidaganiza zokhala limodzi. Munthu wangwiro yemwe kale anali mwadzidzidzi adakhala wabwinobwino.
Madeti odabwitsa a nkhomaliro ndi 'Ndimakukondani' afupikanso. Zokwanira, ndinakhumudwa chifukwa ndimangodzifunsa ndekha, ndipo ngakhale iye nthawi zina, chasintha ndi chiyani?
Ndinazindikira kuti ndimalakwitsa kumuyembekeza kuti akhale wangwiro nthawi zonse, kukhumudwa kwanga.
Kuyembekezera kuti anthu azikhala angwiro nthawi zonse kumawaika kuyembekezera kuyembekezera.
Monga anthu, tiyenera kukumbukira kuti wokondedwa wathu ndi munthu monga ife. Adzalephera nthawi zina. Amawoneka opanda ungwiro nthawi zina, ndipo zimangokhala chifukwa ndianthu, monga inu.
2. Musalole kuti muziyembekezerabe kuti amangodziwa kuwerenga
"Zinthu ziwiri zitha kuwononga chibwenzi chilichonse: Zoyembekeza zosatheka komanso kulumikizana bwino" - Anonymous
Ndinakulira m'banja lomwe amayi anga adziwa zomwe zimachitika m'malingaliro mwanga. M'banja mwathu, timagwirizana kwambiri kotero kuti nthawi zonse amadziwa zosowa zanga ngakhale sindinatchule liwu limodzi. Ndidazindikira kuti sizigwira ntchito pachibwenzi.
Kuphunzira luso lofotokozera zosowa za mnzanu kumachepetsa nonse ku kusamvana komwe kumapeweka ndikukupulumutsani ku mikangano yambiri yopweteka.
3. Musayembekezere kuti mudzakhala mukugwirizana nthawi zonse
Ngati mukuyembekezera kuti mnzanu akhale galasi lodziona nokha munjira zonse, ubale wanu uli pachiwopsezo.
Tikadali achichepere ndipo tikadali opanda nzeru, chiyembekezo chomwe mungavomereze nthawi zambiri chimakhala chiyembekezero chachikulu cha ubale chomwe timakhala nacho. Titha kuganiza kuti maubale ayenera kukhala opanda mikangano chifukwa mumakondana kwambiri.
Popita nthawi, timaphunzira momwe chiyembekezo ichi sichiri cholondola chifukwa ndinu anthu awiri osiyana ndipo simumagwirizana nthawi zonse.
Izi zikunenedwa, ndikuganiza kuti chiyembekezo chabwino chingakhale kuyembekezera kusagwirizana.
Kukhala ndi kusamvana ndikukumbutsa kuti pali china chake choyenera kumenyera muubwenzi wanu; kuti njira yanu yolankhulirana ikugwira ntchito.
4. Lekani kuyembekezera kuti nthawi zonse muzikhala olondola
Chimodzi mwazinthu zoyambirira zomwe muyenera kusiya pakhomo musanakhale pachibwenzi ndizomwe mumakonda komanso chiyembekezo chanu choti mudzakhala olondola.
Kukhala pachibwenzi kumatenga ntchito yambiri, ndipo gawo lina la ntchito yomwe ikuyenera kuchitidwa ndikudzigwira tokha.
Kuyembekezera kuti muzikhala olondola nthawi zonse ndi kudzikonda komanso nkhanza. Mukuyiwala kuti muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu?
Simudzakhala olondola nthawi zonse, ndipo ndizabwino. Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi njira yophunzirira ndikudzipezera wekha.
5. Musalole kuti chiyembekezo chanu chikhale chosavuta
Ndikutseka mndandandawu ndikukumbutsa kuti maubale sangakhale ovuta.
Ambiri aife timayiwala kuti maubale amafunika kugwira ntchito molimbika. Ambiri aife timaiwala kuti maubale amafunikira zokolola zambiri.
Ambiri aife timaiwala kuti maubale amafunikira kunyengerera kwakukulu. Ambiri aife timayembekezera kuti maubale azikhala osavuta, koma kwenikweni, sichoncho.
Zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale sizosangalatsa momwe mudasangalalira mwezi uno kapena kuchuluka kwamadeti omwe mwapitako kapena miyala yamtengo wapatali yomwe wakupatsani; ndi kuchuluka kwa kuyesetsa komwe nonse mumapanga kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino.
Moyo ndi wosavuta, ndipo maubale nawonso siosavuta. Kukhala ndi wina wothana ndi kusakhazikika kwa moyo ndi, ndichinthu choyenera kuyamika.