Zamkati
- Ubale OCD - kuyang'ana mopanda nzeru pazokondana
- Ocd ndi ukwati
- Ocd ndi maubwenzi apamtima
- Zowopsa zina wamba
- Malingaliro olowerera amatsatiridwa ndi kukhudzidwa kwamphamvu kwamalingaliro
- Kutengeka kwamaganizidwe ndi kukakamizidwa
- ROCD imagwirizanitsidwa ndi ungwiro
- Zomverera zimasintha tsiku ndi tsiku, koma zikhalidwe zathu sizimasuntha
- Chithandizo
- Kuteteza ndi kuyankha
Sizachilendo kukhala ndi nkhawa zina zokhudzana ndi kukondana. Kukayika mnzanu kumakhala kofala, makamaka zinthu zikawoneka kuti sizikuyenda bwino komanso ndewu zimachitika pafupipafupi. Ngakhale ambiri aife timakhala ndi nkhawa tili pachibwenzi, iwo omwe ali ndi vuto la Relationship OCD (R-OCD) atha kukhala mgwirizanowu wovuta kwambiri komanso wovuta kwambiri. Ocd ndi maubale ndi intaneti yovuta kwambiri ndipo nthawi zambiri odwala samazindikira kukula kwa zowawa ndi mavuto omwe adzibweretsera.
Zotsatira za ocd m'mayanjano zimawonekera mwa malingaliro osafunikira, okhumudwitsa komanso zovuta m'moyo wachikondi. Maubwenzi a Ocd ndi achikondi ndi mutu wophatikizika womwe umabweretsa chisokonezo pakukhazikitsa komanso kusunga zibwenzi.
Ubale OCD - kuyang'ana mopanda nzeru pazokondana
Ubale OCD ndi gawo laling'ono la Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) pomwe munthu amadya mopambanitsa ndi nkhawa komanso kukayika kumangoyang'ana pazokonda zawo.
Zizindikiro za maubale okondana kwambiri (rocd) ndizofanana ndi mitu ina ya OCD momwe wodwalayo amakhala ndi malingaliro ndi zithunzi zosokoneza. Komabe, ndi ROCD nkhawa zimakhudzana makamaka ndi zina zazikulu. Ubale zisonyezo za ocd zimaphatikizapo machitidwe ena osapindulitsa monga kufunafuna chitsimikiziro kuchokera kwa anzawo kuti amakonda, kuyerekezera pakati pazopeka, abwenzi anzawo ndi anzawo.
Ocd ndi ukwati
Ngati mwakwatirana ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi ocd, amafufuza umboni wotsimikizira ngati mnzake ndiwofanana. Matenda okhudzana ndi maubwenzi amaphatikizapo omwe ali ndi vuto loumirira ubale wawo ndi wokondedwa wawo kwa nthawi yayitali. Kungakhale lingaliro labwino kupeza upangiri waubwenzi kapena kuyamba mayeso pa intaneti ocd kuti mudziwe ngati mukufuna thandizo lina.
Ocd ndi maubwenzi apamtima
Kwa anthu omwe ali ndi ubale ndi OCD, zitha kukhala zopanikiza kusangalala ndi moyo wapamtima. Amakhala ndi mantha otayidwa, mavuto amthupi, komanso nkhawa. Maluso opumulira monga kupuma mwakuya komanso zithunzi zowongoleredwa zitha kukhala njira zabwino zopumulitsira magulu anu amisempha ndikuthana ndi nkhawa komanso kusowa kolowera.
Zowopsa zina wamba
Zina mwaziwopsezo zomwe anthu amakhala nazo pachibwenzi ndi izi: Ndingatani ngati sindingakopeke ndi mnzanga? Nanga bwanji ngati sindimamukonda mnzanga ?, Kodi ndiye munthu woyenera kwa ine ?, Nanga ngati pali wina wabwino kunja uko? Chodetsa nkhawa chonse ndikuti munthu akhoza kukhala ndi mnzake wolakwika.
Ambiri aife timakhala ndi malingaliro komanso zithunzi zosokoneza tsiku ndi tsiku, koma anthu omwe savutika ndi ubale wa OCD nthawi zambiri zimawavuta kuwachotsa.
Komabe, ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi omwe ali ndiubwenzi wokonda kutengeka ndi ubale.
Malingaliro olowerera amatsatiridwa ndi kukhudzidwa kwamphamvu kwamalingaliro
Kwa iwo omwe ali ndi vuto lodzikakamiza kukhala pachibwenzi, malingaliro olowerera nthawi zambiri amatsatiridwa ndikulimbikitsa kwamphamvu. Amatha kukumana ndi zovuta zambiri (mwachitsanzo, kuda nkhawa, kudziimba mlandu) ndipo zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuwona kufunika kwa uthengawo, chifukwa chake, kuukana.
Odwala akuwona kufunika kogwirizana ndi lingalirolo, ndipo ngati ROCD, ipeza mayankho. Ndi chibadwa chopulumuka chomwe chimakankhira odwala ROCD kuti achitepo kanthu kuti athetse ngozi yomwe 'ikuwoneka'.
Ndikusatsimikizika komwe kuli kovuta kupilira. Odwala akhoza kuthetsa maubwenzi awo, osati chifukwa adapeza 'yankho', koma chifukwa sangathenso kulekerera kupsinjika ndi nkhawa za 'kusadziwa' kapena amatero chifukwa chodziimba mlandu ("Ndinganamize bwanji mnzanga ndi kuwononga moyo wawo? ”).
Kutengeka kwamaganizidwe ndi kukakamizidwa
Ndi ROCD, kutengeka komanso kukakamizidwa kumakhala kwamaganizidwe, chifukwa chake sipakhala miyambo yooneka nthawi zonse.
Kuti awonetsetse kuti chibwenzicho chili choyenera kupatula nthawi, odwalawo amayamba kupeza chilimbikitso.
Adzachita mphekesera kosatha, kuthera maola ambiri kufunafuna mayankho. Atha kufanananso zofunikira zawo ndi anzawo omwe adagwirizana nawo kale kapena kugwiritsa ntchito Google 'thandizo' (mwachitsanzo, Googling "Ndingadziwe bwanji kuti ndili ndi munthu woyenera?").
Ena omwe ali ndi vuto laukwati wokonda kukakamiza anzawo amawona mabanja ena kuti adziwe m'mene ubale 'wopambana' uyenera kuwonekera. Zimakhalanso zachizoloŵezi kuyesa kulamulira wokondedwa kapena kusamala zazing'ono (mwachitsanzo, mawonekedwe a abwenzi, khalidwe, ndi zina zotero).
Kupewanso ndichikhalidwe pakati pa odwala ROCD. Angapewe kukhala pafupi ndi wokondedwa wawo kapena kukana kuchita zachiwerewere.
ROCD imagwirizanitsidwa ndi ungwiro
ROCD nthawi zambiri imalumikizidwa ndi ungwiro. Maganizo olakwika omwe amafala kwambiri pakufuna kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa ndimalingaliro azonse kapena zopanda pake (dichotomous).
Chifukwa chake ngati zinthu sizili momwe 'ziyenera kukhalira', ndizolakwika. Zikuwoneka kuti pali chikhulupiliro pakati pa omwe ali ndiubwenzi wokonda kutengeka ndi zovuta zomwe munthu ayenera kumva mwanjira inayake (mwachitsanzo, "Munthu ayenera kumverera nthawi zonse kukhala wolumikizana ndi mnzake") kapena kuti pali zinthu zina kapena zizolowezi zomwe zingafotokozere ubale wabwino (mwachitsanzo, kugwirana manja pagulu, nthawi zonse kumverera wokonda mnzake).
Kufuna kumva m'njira inayake kumatha kubweretsa mavuto ambiri. Zitha kupanganso zovuta zakugonana pachibwenzi, chifukwa ndizovuta (kapena zosatheka) kuchita mutapanikizika.
Tikalakalaka kumva kutengeka 'mwangwiro' ndiye kuti pamapeto pake sitimva kutengeka kwenikweni.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati munali kuphwando ndipo mumangodzifunsa kuti “Kodi ndikusangalala pakali pano?”
Izi zichotsa pazomwe mwakumana nazo paphwandopo. Izi zikutanthauzanso kuti sitikuyang'ana kwambiri pano. Chifukwa chake m'malo molimbana ndi kudzimva mwanjira inayake, wina angafune kuyang'ana pakupitiliza moyo watsiku ndi tsiku ndi ntchito zomwe zimaphatikizapo. Chifukwa chake, ngati wina aganiza zotenga wokondedwa wawo kuti akadye nawo chakudya chamadzulo, ayesetse kuyesetsabe kutero ngakhale atha kukhala ndi malingaliro olakwika ndikumva kukhala osasangalala (mwachitsanzo, kuda nkhawa, kudziimba mlandu).
Kungakhale kothandiza kukumbutsa tokha kuti cholinga sikuti tisangalale ndi mwambowu (kapena kusangalala nawo), popeza titha kukhala kuti tayamba kulephera.
Pali kumvetsetsa kopanda tanthauzo pakati pa omwe ali ndi vuto la ubale womwe ungakhale woti sangakopeke ndi anthu opitilira m'modzi nthawi yomweyo, chifukwa chake, wodwalayo akayamba kukopeka ndi munthu wina amakhala ndi liwongo lalikulu ndipo nkhawa.Amayesetsa kubisa malingaliro awo posiya (mwachitsanzo, kupewa) kapena amavomereza kwa wokondedwa wawo.
Omwe ali ndi vuto la maubale omwe amangokhalira kukondera atha kuganiza kuti akuyenera kukhala 'oona mtima' ndi ena ofunika ndikugawana kapena "kuvomereza" kukayikira kwawo. Chowonadi ndichakuti sizachilendo kupeza anthu ena okongola ali pachibwenzi chodzipereka. Tikudziwa kuti mwina tidasankha munthu amene tili naye pazifukwa zazikulu osati kungotengera malingaliro omwe tidakumana nawo nthawi imodzi.
Zomverera zimasintha tsiku ndi tsiku, koma zikhalidwe zathu sizimasuntha
Ndibwino kudzikumbutsa tokha kuti malingaliro ndi zosintha zimasintha tsiku ndi tsiku, koma zomwe timayang'ana sizikusintha. Sizingatheke kumva kuti 100% yolumikizidwa ndikuwakonda anzathu nthawi zonse. Maubwenzi amasintha pakapita nthawi, chifukwa chake titha kuvutika ngati tikufuna kumverera momwe tidamvera pachibwenzi chathu. Komabe, iwo omwe atsekeredwa mu chipolopolo chaubwenzi wokonda kutengeka ndimakana kukhulupirira izi.
Chithandizo
Mankhwalawa angakhale ovuta ngati wothandizira sakudziwa izi. Ndikofunikira kuti musangophunzitsa wodwalayo komanso mnzake wa OCD ndi ROCD.
Kuteteza ndi kuyankha
Kuwonetsetsa ndikuwunika mayankho (ERP) ndiyo njira yothandizira yomwe imadziwika kuti imachita bwino kwambiri pochiza OCD. Njira za ERP zimafuna kuti amene ali ndi vuto la chibwenzicho azikhala ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa zomwe angawope (mwachitsanzo, 'Pali kuthekera koti ndili ndi mnzanga wolakwika').
Kuyeserera zochitika zowonekera mobwerezabwereza pakapita nthawi kumathandiza odwala omwe ali pachibwenzi kukhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi mwayi wophunzirira momwe angakhalire ndi kukayika ndi nkhawa zawo komanso momwe angathetsere malingaliro olakwika okhudzana ndiubwenzi ndi zina zofunika.