Zamkati
- 1. Pangani dzina lanu lapadera
- 2. Khalani ndi lingaliro lanu pazokhudza chikhalidwe cha anthu komanso padziko lonse lapansi
- 3. Lemekezani amayi ndi omwe mumawadziwa
- 4.Kumva zochitika zonse ndi zochitika zonse
- 5. Chitani zomwe mumakonda
- 6. Musachepetse kukwaniritsa zambiri
- 7. Mugone bwino ndikusinkhasinkha
- 8. Bwerezaninso tsiku lanu
- 9. Nthawizonse ndimalota zazikulu
Kodi mudayamba mwadzifunsapo kuti nchiyani chomwe chimapangitsa maginito olemera onse amalonda, ochita zisudzo zachikondi, komanso achikondi okopa kusiyanasiyana ndi anthu ena onse? Kodi zimatheka bwanji kuti amayi azilakalaka zolengedwa zoterezi?
Pali malingaliro amodzi osintha masewera omwe amapezeka mwa anthu otere, ndipo maupangiri abwenzi a amuna omwe atchulidwa pansipa atha kukuthandizani kuti muwadziwe bwino!
Tikafufuzidwa bwino, titha kupeza kuti kuthekera kwa nzeru ndi malingaliro omwe adapanga zaka zawo zonse ndizo zomwe zimapangitsa kuti achite bwino kwambiri.
Kukhala wokongola nthawi zonse sikukutanthauza kupambana. Muyeneranso kukhala 'anzeru kwambiri.' Ngakhale kuphatikiza kopenga, kuli ndi uthenga woti muyenera kukhala winawake.
Kuti muwoneke ngati Mr. Wonderful, muyenera kutsatira njira izi zotsimikizika ndikupangitsa azimayi onse kugwera inu!
Mutawerenga nkhaniyi, muphunzira kuti- 'Zili ngati kukhala anzeru koma osakhala anzeru!'
Nawa maupangiri asanu ndi anayi aubwenzi kuti amuna akhale osakanika ndikukhala omwe amakopa mitima ndi malingaliro azimayi ambiri.
1. Pangani dzina lanu lapadera
Izi zikumveka zachilendo, koma dzina loganiza limapatsa umunthu wanu kupukutira kokongola. Ambiri mwa anthu otchuka pamasewera ngati masewera, makanema, amakonda kupita kukatchulidwe.
Dzina lanu lotchedwa liyenera kukhala lotsogola komanso losiyana ndi ena. Ngati ndi kotheka, yesetsani kuzipanga pambuyo pa mbiri ya moyo wanu kapena zokumana nazo zosintha moyo wanu.
Mmodzi wa anzanga amadzitcha 'kalonga wamagazi theka'. Ndidadziwa kuti ndi dzina lomweli J. K. Rowling adapatsa khalidwe lake Pulofesa Snape. Koma zikukhudzana bwanji ndi wochita bizinesi?
Nthawi ina, ndidamufunsa nkhani yodziwika ndi dzina lake lachilendo. Yankho lomwe ndidapeza linali loyenera kuwerenga!
Adandiuza kuti amayi ake adamulera ngati kholo limodzi. Sanadziwe bambo ake omubereka, koma atafunsidwa, amayi ake adamuwuza kuti anali munthu wankhanza.
Mnyamatayo atakula, adazindikira kuti moyo ndi chiyani komanso momwe zimakhalira kukhala wopanda bambo!
Mnzanga akuganiza kuti adabadwa chifukwa chakuchita zabwino ndi zoyipa. Ananenanso kuti sangachotse gawo lolakwika la iye yekha koma amatha kudalira cholowacho.
Gawo lake labwino ndi lomwe limamulimbikitsa nthawi zonse. Umu ndi momwe dzina 'kalonga wamagazi-theka' adalowa m'moyo wake!
Ulendo wake unali wosangalatsa koma wolimbikitsa kwambiri. Wachita bwino kwambiri tsopano, ndipo nkhani ngati imeneyi imawonjezera zokometsera umunthu wake.
Ngati mutsatira 'maupangiri abwenzi awa,' zimuwonetsa kuti ndinu zotsatira za zisankho zanu osati zikhalidwe.
2. Khalani ndi lingaliro lanu pazokhudza chikhalidwe cha anthu komanso padziko lonse lapansi
Izi 'maupangiri abwenzi kwa amuna' zidzakuthandizani kukhala anzeru. Mukamacheza naye, muyenera kukambirana pazokhudza anthu komanso zochitika zapadziko lonse lapansi.
Nthawi zina, amatha kuwombera nanu mphepo pamavuto apadziko lonse monga mliri wapano, nkhani za azimayi, kudula mitengo mwachisawawa, kusankhana mitundu, ndi zina zambiri.
Kukhala ndi malingaliro anuake pamavuto otere kumatha kukupangitsani kukhala okhazikika. Komanso, dziwani kuti azimayi ena amabweretsa mwadala nkhanizi kuti aone ngati muli anzeru komanso osakhudzidwa.
Ndi chinyengo ichi, nthawi yomweyo mupambana 'mayeso ake achiweruzo'! Kuti mukhale mbali yotetezeka, muyenera kupitiliza kukulitsa chidziwitso chanu - ‘Mukamaphunzira zambiri, ndipamenenso mumapeza zambiri!
3. Lemekezani amayi ndi omwe mumawadziwa
Izi ndizofala koma zofunika kuzilemba. Nthawi iliyonse mukakhala ndi munthu, makamaka mkazi, yesetsani kumulandila.
Ngati ndi wokondedwa wanu, ulemu ndi womwe upindule kwa abambo muubwenzi. Kumbukirani kuti ulemu umabala ulemu ndipo chikondi chimabala chikondi, musaphonye mwayi uliwonse womupangitsa kuti amveke pamtambo naini.
Nthawi zonse yesetsani kukhala bambo yemwe amamuthandiza kukhulupirira kuti ndiye wabwino kwambiri padziko lapansi lino. Kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino okhudzana ndi azimayi ndi omwe mumawadziwa mosakhazikika kubzala lingaliro loti 'ndi winawake!'
4.Kumva zochitika zonse ndi zochitika zonse
Chidaliro ndi kulolerana zonse ndi mikhalidwe ya njonda yanzeru. Ngati muli ndi zonsezi, zinthu zidzakuyenderani bwino.
Koma ngati simutero, muyenera kuphunzira, popeza maubwino awiriwa ndiomwe mphamvu zanu zolimbikitsira zili nazo!
Mutha kupeza mikhalidwe iwiriyi. Nayi mabuku achinyengo - owerenga omwe amayang'ana kwambiri pa mitundu ya biography komanso zolimbikitsa. Izi zimakuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro omwe olemba ali nawo, koma simunatero.
Muphunzilanso momwe mungathetsere zovuta zina ndikukhala munthu wodalirika. Izi sizimakupangitsani inu kukhala olimba m'maganizo ndikukupatsani mphamvu zofunikira kuti mupambane zovuta!
5. Chitani zomwe mumakonda
Mnyamata wanzeru komanso wotsogola amakhala wopanda nkhawa. Chinsinsi chake ndi chiyani? Nthawi zambiri amachita zinthu zomwe amakonda kuchita.
Ali ndi zovuta zawo, zomwe zimawatsitsimula pamavuto aliwonse.
Chilichonse chomwe chimakuthandizani ndimavuto. Zimakupangitsani kukhazikika, zomwe zimalimbikitsa malingaliro anu. Posakhalitsa mumayamba kulimbikitsidwa.
Limbikirani kuchita izi mukamva - 'Simungathe!'
6. Musachepetse kukwaniritsa zambiri
Ngati itsatiridwa mokhulupirika, 'maupangiri abwenziwa' akhoza kukuthandizani kukhala 1%!
'Musachite zambiri' amangotanthauza kugwira ntchito mwanzeru, osati molimbika. Kuti timvetsetse izi, tiyeni tikambirane zamaganizidwe.
Pali mitundu iwiri yamaganizidwe yomwe munthu amatsatira - ogwira ntchito ndi mamaneja.
M'malingaliro antchito, anthu amaweruza kupambana kwawo ndi kuchuluka kwa maola omwe amagwira ntchito. Kumbali inayi, pamaganizidwe a manejala, anthu amaweruza kupambana kwawo ndi kuchuluka kwa maola opindulitsa.
Ganizirani za munthu amene amagwira ntchito maola 15 koma osapeza zomwe akufuna. Mnyamatayo amagwira ntchito maola awiri okha ndipo amapeza mosavuta zomwe akufuna.
Phunzitsani malingaliro anu kuti mutsatire malingaliro a manejala.
Muyenera kulemba cholemba ndikulemba ntchito yonse yofunikira yomwe mukufuna kuchita. Ndi izi, mudzakhala achangu ndikuphunzira kuyang'ana pazinthu zoyenera. Izi zitha kutenga miyezi kapena zaka, koma zotsatira zake ndizabwino!
Kugwiritsa ntchito njirayi nthawi zonse kumakupatsirani oyang'anira. Ndi njirayi, mutha kupeza zambiri, kuwoneka okhwima, ndikukhudzanso mtundu wa ubale wanu!
Onani nkhani yotsatirayi ya TED pomwe Bethany Butzer, wolemba, wokamba nkhani, wofufuza & mphunzitsi ku University of New York akufotokozera momwe tingakhalire moyo ndikukwaniritsa zolinga moyenera komanso moyenera popanda kuchita mopitilira muyeso.
7. Mugone bwino ndikusinkhasinkha
Munthu wathanzi labwino nthawi zonse amalimbana ndi zinthu ziwirizi.
Kugona bwino sikutanthauza kukhala waulesi kapena kudzuka mochedwa kwambiri. Zimangotanthauza kupatula nthawi yina yamaola 24 kuti mugone.
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti mumayenera kugona maola 8 - 10 patsiku. Zimakupatsirani mtima wodekha komanso wopanga, womwe mwina ndi umodzi mwamaubwino ofunikira ogona bwino zikafika paubwenzi.
Ndipo kusinkhasinkha kumatani?
Kusinkhasinkha komanso kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumathandizanso kuti mupumule mwakuthupi komanso mwamaganizidwe.
Phindu la kusinkhasinkha limaphatikizapo kutulutsa ma endorphin, omwe atha kukupangitsa kukhala osangalala!
Kupatula izi, mahomoni monga serotonin amatulutsidwanso, zomwe zimakulimbikitsani!
8. Bwerezaninso tsiku lanu
Ngati mukufuna kusangalatsa akazi ndi malingaliro anu akuthwa, izi 'maupangiri abwenzi amuna' makamaka kwa inu.
Mukakhala pachibwenzi, tsiku lanu limadzaza ndi zinthu zambiri zosaiwalika monga zokambirana zokoma, kukumbatirana mwachikondi, kudabwitsidwa kodabwitsa, kudya, kupsompsonana mwachikondi, ndi zina zambiri.
Mukaziloweza pamtima, mudzakhala osangalala, ndipo akafunsanso zomwezi, mudzagwedezeka! Koma momwe mungapangire kukumbukira kwanu?
Musanagone, tsekani maso anu ndikuyamba kuwona zinthu zonse zomwe mudachita tsiku lomwelo.
Kuchita izi mwachizolowezi kukupangitsani kukhala wopambana! Iyi ndiye njira yosavuta kwambiri yosinthira kukumbukira kwanu. Zinandithandizanso kwambiri muubwenzi wanga.
9. Nthawizonse ndimalota zazikulu
Loto ndi malo okhawo omwe mungachite chilichonse pansi pano, kaya ndi azimayi omwe mumawakonda kapena kukhala olemera kwambiri padziko lapansi!
Maloto amakhala ndi malo pachinthu chilichonse chotere. Chifukwa chake, lota chilichonse chomwe ungafune chifukwa 'ngati ungathe kulota, ukhoza kuchita!'
Loto la kukhala munthu yemwe mumafuna mutakhala. Khama lanu, chikhumbo chanu, ndi maloto anu pamodzi zingakuthandizeni kukwaniritsa gawo lililonse lomwe mukufuna!