Zamkati
- 1. Zinthu zomwe zinakukokerani kwa mnzanu ndi zomwe zimakusowetsani mtendere tsopano
- 2. Mumasungira chakukhosi mnzanu koma simulankhula
- 3. Fufuzani ndi mnzanuyo kuti muwone ngati akumvanso chimodzimodzi
- 4. Khalani owona mtima, koma osawopseza
Mwakhala ndi ubale wodekha komanso wachikondi kwa zaka zingapo. Koma posachedwapa, china chake chimakhala chikumva mosiyana. Inu ndi mnzanu simukuwoneka ngati masiku ano, mwina chifukwa cha ntchito, zokonda zakunja, kapena nonse mumagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yambiri pa intaneti. Zolankhula zanu zimangokhala pakuwongolera zochitika zapakhomo ndi ana, ndipo simukumbukira nthawi yomaliza yomwe munagonana. Chibwenzi chanu chili pamavuto. Kodi mungatani kuti mubwezeretse zinthu m'mbuyo?
Yambani ndi Kupeza malo ovuta. Nenani madera ena omwe awonongeka
1. Zinthu zomwe zinakukokerani kwa mnzanu ndi zomwe zimakusowetsani mtendere tsopano
Izi si zachilendo m'mabanja. Mumakonda kuti mnzanuyo anali "nyama ndi mbatata" weniweni wamwamuna mukakumana naye koyamba. Kuphika kwake kunali kosavuta: bola ngati inali nyama yofiira, anali wokondwa. Koma tsopano mukuyang'ana njira ina yophikira; mbale zomwe zimaphatikizapo masamba ambiri komanso zosankha zathanzi. Mnzanu sakumvetsa kusintha kwatsopano kumeneku, kapena kukakamira kwanu kuti akhale omasuka kudya zosadya nyama. Nthawi iliyonse mukatuluka ndikulamula burger, mumamva kuti mkwiyo wanu ukuwonjezeka. Izi zikukhudza ubale wanu.
Njira yothetsera mavuto amtunduwu-pomwe m'modzi mwa iwo amasintha kwambiri kuchokera pa munthu yemwe anali pachiyambi cha chibwenzi-ndikulandira kusiyana kumeneku. M'malo molimbana ndi kusakhazikika kwa munthu yemwe akufuna kupitiliza kuchita zomwe wakhala akuchita, bwanji osayesanso njira ina pakusinthaku? Sangalalani kuti mumakonda zosiyana ndikuzisiya pamenepo. Simungamupangitse munthu winayo kusintha, komanso simuyenera kutero. (Uku ndikulamulira kwachilendo.) Koma inu angathe sangalalani ndi njira yanu yatsopano yodyera nokha, popanda zokambirana kapena ndemanga zamakhalidwe zomwe mosakayikira zingayambitse kusasangalala pakati panu. Ndipo ndani akudziwa? Wokondedwa wanu akayang'ana bwino zomwe zili m'mbale yanu komanso momwe mumamvera ndi chakudya chanu chatsopano, atha kuyesedwa kuti ayike steak ndikuphatikizani. Koma iyenera kukhala chisankho chake. (Mutha kusangalala mwachinsinsi, komabe.)
2. Mumasungira chakukhosi mnzanu koma simulankhula
Izi zitha kukhala zoopsa ngati simukuchitapo kanthu. Kudzimasulira zakukhosi — nthawi zambiri kuti mupewe ndewu — kumangobweretsa kuwonongeka kwaubwenzi mukazolowera. Nonse muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungalankhulire mwaulemu, osawopa kuti angakunyozeni kapena kukukwiyitsani. Ngati mukuwona kuti mwafika pofika pachibwenzi chanu pomwe mumadziuza kuti "Sizoyenera kukambirana, palibe chomwe chimasintha," palibe ndidzatero amasintha nthawi zonse. Ngakhale zili zowona kuti maanja ambiri amabwerera ku mkangano womwewo, mobwerezabwereza, pali chiyembekezo kwa maanja omwe amafunitsitsadi kudutsa malo "okakamira" amenewa. Kuyika zinthu mkati kuti musunge mtendere sikuyenera. Yambani potsegulira mnzanu. Ngati zingafunike, chitani izi mothandizidwa ndi katswiri wodziwa zaubwenzi yemwe angatsogoze zokambiranazo m'njira zabwino. Koma musakhale chete kapena chibwenzi chanu chidzakhalabe mavuto.
3. Fufuzani ndi mnzanuyo kuti muwone ngati akumvanso chimodzimodzi
Zokambiranazi zikuyenera kuchitika nonse nkumakhala pansi ndikufotokozera zakukhosi kwanu popanda chododometsa cha ana, wailesi yakanema, kapena mafoni omwe angasokoneze nthawiyo. Khazikitsani nthawi yoti mulembe zaubwenzi wanu pamene mukudziwa kuti mutha kuthera maola angapo. Mutha kuyambitsa zokambiranazo ndi uthenga wabwino wa "Ine", monga "Ndikumva ngati kuti posachedwa sitikhala tcheru kwa wina ndi mnzake. Ndakusowa. Kodi mukuganiza kuti titha kutseka masiku ena azisangalalo kuti tizingokhala chete ndikumalumikizananso? ” Iyi ndi njira yothandiza, yopanda chodzikakamiza kuti mulimbikitse mnzanu kugawana zomwe wakumananso. Onetsetsani kuti mumamvetsera mwatcheru ku zokambirana zake kuti adziwe kuti mumayamikira zomwe awona muubwenzi wanu.
4. Khalani owona mtima, koma osawopseza
Ngati mungatchule madera ena ovuta, ikhoza kukhala njira yabwino yodziwira zomwe muyenera kuzisamalira. Koma izi ziyenera kuchitidwa mwachidwi komanso diso kuti mupeze yankho; simukufuna kuti izi zisanduke vuto. “Patha zaka kuchokera pomwe tinkasewera limodzi tenisi. Bwanji osangophunzira za maanja ena? ” zikumveka bwino kuposa "Simumasewera tenisi ndi ine panonso. Ndikuganiza kuti ndipanga maphunziro achinsinsi ndi mphunzitsi wachichepereyo ku kalabu. ” Kumbukirani, simukufuna kulengeza za nkhaniyo kenako ndikusiya m'manja mwanu kuti ikonze. Chinsinsi chobwezeretsa ubale wanu ndikufunafuna yankho m'njira zomwe nonse mumathandizana ndikufuna kudzipereka.
Ndikofunikira kuti musamangosesa mavuto am'mabanja pansi pa rug, ndikuyembekeza kuti adzatha okha. Izi sizomwe zimachitika momwe zinthu zimagwirira ntchito. Mkwiyo wodekha ungamange, monga kupanikizika mumphika wokutidwa, mpaka tsiku lina zonse zidzatuluka mkwiyo waukulu. Kuopsa kolola zinthu kumangika chotere ndikuti tikachita mokwiya, titha kunena kapena kuchita zinthu zovuta kuzikonzanso. Pomwe ngati mavuto amgwirizano amayamba msanga zinthu zisanakule, ndikosavuta kupeza njira zothetsera ndi kumanganso zosowa zilizonse. Ichi ndiye chizindikiro cha ubale wabwino: kutha kulankhulana nkhani mwaulemu kuti mavuto ang'onoang'ono atha kukonzedwa asanakhale mavuto owononga ubale.