Zamkati
- Kusudzulana: Inde kapena Ayi?
- Zifukwa zosasudzulana
- 1. Mphamvu zoyipa kwa ana.
- Kumanga banja lokhalitsa
Kusankha kosudzulana kwakhala kwachilendo pachikhalidwe chamakono. Ngakhale mabanja omwe ali osangalala kwambiri nthawi ina adamenya nkhondo kwambiri mpaka adaganiza zothetsa banja.
Izi ndizosiyana ndi agogo athu, omwe ankakumana ndi zovuta nthawi yankhondo, osataya mtima chifukwa cha masiku amenewo, chisudzulo chinali chosowa komanso chosalongosoka.
Ngati panali zovuta muubwenzi wa agogo athu - ndipo zowonadi zilipo - mwina adazigwiritsa ntchito kapena amakhala nawo.
Koma sanathamangire kukhothi losudzulana chifukwa choti panali nthawi zovuta muukwati wawo.
Kusudzulana: Inde kapena Ayi?
Ngati inu ndi mnzanu mukuganiza zothetsa banja, koma simunapange chisankho cholimba, werengani.
Tipanga zifukwa zambiri zosasudzulira banja. Koma dziwani kuti nthawi zina chisudzulo ndichinthu choyenera kuchita.
Izi ndi zina mwazomwe chisudzulo ndichofunikira:
- Osakhulupirika, wofuna kuponderezana, kapena kukhala ndi zibwenzi pa intaneti kumbuyo kwanu
- Kulimbana ndi nkhanza
- Kuthana ndi nkhanza
- Wosuta. Izi zitha kukhala chizolowezi chomwa mowa, kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kutchova juga, kugonana, kapena zizolowezi zina zilizonse zomwe zingaike thanzi lanu, chitetezo, komanso thanzi lanu pachiwopsezo.
Nthawi zambiri, mumakhala ndi mwayi wosudzula kapena kusudzulana.
Tisanayambe kunena zakusudzulana, tiyeni tikambirane zomwe zimapangitsa mabanja ambiri kusudzulana.
Zosayembekezereka muukwati.
Zambiri mwa izi ndizolakwika pazofalitsa. Ma feed a Instagram, akutiwonetsa okha amuna ndi akazi osangalala kwambiri, m'malo okongola, okhala ndi ana awiri okongola.
Timafanizira miyoyo yathu yosokonekera ndi zomwe timawonetsedwa pazenera zathu, ndipo timaganiza "ndikadakhala ndi mkazi wina ... ndikutsimikiza moyo wanga ukadakhala choncho!" Izi ndizovulaza kwambiri.
Tiyenera kusintha malingaliro athu pa zomwe ukwati uli: mgwirizano womwe udzakhale ndi masiku ake abwino komanso masiku oyipa, koma timadzipereka kwa iwo chifukwa tidapangana lumbiro kuti tidzasungirana chitetezo ndi kukondana.
Kuyang'ana kwa mnzanu kukhala chilichonse chanu.
Ili ndi lingaliro lina labodza loti banja ndi chiyani. Palibe munthu m'modzi yemwe angakhale chilichonse pa inu ... mnzanu wamoyo, wosewera munyumba, dokotala wanu, wophunzitsa masewera.
Inde, mnzanu sangathe kuchita zonsezi. Ichi si chifukwa chosudzulana!
Mukasintha zomwe mumayembekezera kuti banja likhale chonchi — ubale wokhalitsa womwe siwongopeka nthawi zonse — kunena kuti ayi chisudzulo ndizomveka.
Zifukwa zosasudzulana
1. Mphamvu zoyipa kwa ana.
Akuluakulu omwe banja lawo latha atha kukuwuzani kuti "ana amasangalala nazo." Koma funsani aliyense amene adawona makolo awo akusudzulana, ndipo akuwuzani kuti zowawa komanso kusamvana komwe adakumana nako makolo awo atagawanika ndi komwe kulipo, ngakhale banja litatha.
Ana a makolo osudzulana nthawi zambiri samakhulupirira ena ndipo amatero zovuta ndi maubale. Mukamaganizira mavuto omwe angabwere chifukwa cha kusudzulana kwa ana anu, kumakhala kosavuta kukana kusudzulana.
2. Kusudzulana kumawononga kwambiri.
Palibe, ngakhale amene amayambitsa chisudzulo, amene amatuluka m'banja osavulala. Zotsatira zakumapeto kwa moyo womwe munagawana nawo ndizokhalitsa, osakhulupilira, kudzidalira, kumva chitetezo, komanso chitetezo.
Kuphatikiza apo, malingaliro osasinthidwa atha kulowa m'mabanja awo otsatira chifukwa amaopa kuti zomwezo zitha kuchitikanso.
M'malo mwake, mutha kufotokoza za momwe mumamvera ndi mnzanuyo ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yovuta muukwati wanu kuti mudzipangiranso wina ndi mnzake osataya mtima banja lanu.
Mukapambana, zitha kukhala zokuthandizani kulumikizana bwino, ndikupangitsa mgwirizano wanu kukhala wolimba.
3. Ndinu yani ngati simukuti Mr kapena Akazi?
Mukamaganiza zosudzulana kapena kusudzulana, dzifunseni kuti mukadakhala osakwatira mukadakhala ndani?
Chifukwa china chosasudzulana ndikutaya dzina lako. Mwakhala Mr kapena Akazi akuti-ndi-akuti kwanthawi yayitali. Kodi mungakhale ndani ngati simuli wokwatirana naye?
Makamaka m'mabanja okhalitsa. Kusudzulana kumakupangitsani kuti muzikayikira, kukupangitsani kukhala opanda cholinga komanso opanda ntchito.
M'malo mwake, yesetsani banja lanu ndikuyesetsa kuchepetsa kudalirana muubwenzi wanu. Izi zidzakupangitsani kukhala banja lokhazikika komanso kukuthandizani kumvetsetsa zomwe inu muli panokha.
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4. Si banja lanu lokha lomwe limasiyana.
Kutha kwa banja sikungokukhudzani inu, mnzanu, komanso ana anu. Kutha kwa banja kumachitika, nthawi zambiri banja lanu limatha.
Apongozi omwe adakhala ngati mayi wachiwiri kwa inu. Mlongo wa mnzanu, mlamu wanu, yemwe mumacheza naye zinsinsi komanso zinsinsi. Zonsezi amachotsa ndi chisudzulo.
Nthawi zina maubalewa amakhalabe, makamaka kwa ana, koma zinthu zimakhala zosasangalatsa pamene okwatirana atsopano alowa m'banja ndipo kukhulupirika kuyesedwa.
Kuyanjanitsa banja loyambirira ndi chifukwa chabwino chokana kuti banja lithe. Zimapereka kukhazikika komanso kudzimva kuti ndife ofunika zomwe ndizofunika kuti tikhale ndi moyo wabwino.
Kumanga banja lokhalitsa
Amuna omwe amayandikira m'mphepete koma amabwerera kukakana kusudzulana ndikudzipereka kuukwati wokhalitsa onse adanena kuti zinali zoyenera. Amawona kulimba kwatsopano kwa chikondi chawo ngati mutu wachiwiri m'mbiri yaukwati wawo.
Atatsala pang'ono kulekana, kenako ndikuwongolera zinthu, amawathandiza kukumbukira kufunika kwa banja, komanso kuyamikira kukhala ndi wina ndi mnzake. Malangizo awo?
- Funsani thandizo kwa mlangizi wazokwatirana yemwe akutsatira ukwati ndipo ali ndi ukadaulo wokuthandizani kuwona zifukwa zosasudzulana.
- Siyani ziyembekezo zosatheka. Mnzanuyo sangakhale yekhayo amene angaike chidwi pamoyo wanu.
- Chitirani zinthu limodzi ngati banja komanso muzilemekeza kufunika kokhala nokha.
- Monga mukuti ayi kusudzulana, nenani kuti ndimakukondani tsiku ndi tsiku, ngakhale simukumva 100%.
- Khalani ndi moyo wogonana wokangalika, wophatikiza malingaliro ndi maluso atsopano. Musalole kuti moyo wanu wachikondi usokoneze.
- Khalani otakataka kuti mukhale oyenera nokha ndi mnzanu. Mukukumbukira masiku omwe munali pachibwenzi, mumatha nthawi yayitali bwanji mumavala bwino madzulo? Osanyalanyaza mawonekedwe anu ngakhale mutakhala m'banja kwazaka zambiri. Zikuwonetsa mnzanu kuti mumawakonda ndipo mukufuna kuwoneka bwino. (Zithandizanso kuti mumve bwino, inunso!)