Zamkati
- Kodi "chizolowezi chogonana komanso chikondi" ndi chiyani?
- Zizindikiro zakugonana komanso kusuta
- Makhalidwe achikondi komanso chizolowezi chogonana
- Kugonana ndi chikondi mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi kuchira
- Chithandizo cha mankhwala
- Chithandizo
- Mapulogalamu odwala
- Magulu ena othandizira
Ngati mwakhala mukutsatira nkhani iliyonse yotchuka mzaka zaposachedwa, makamaka anthu otchuka omwe agwidwa akunyengana ndi akazi awo, mwamvadi mawu akuti "kugonana komanso kukondana."
Mwina mukuganiza kuti ichi chinali chowiringula chomwe anthu otchukawo amagwiritsa ntchito pofotokozera kusakhulupirika kwawo, koma ofufuza ena amati chizolowezi chogonana komanso chikondi ndichosokonekera.
Tiyeni tiwone mseri pazomwe zimatanthawuza pamene wina anena kuti ndi ogonana komanso amakonda zosokoneza.
Kodi "chizolowezi chogonana komanso chikondi" ndi chiyani?
Nthawi zambiri, tikamaganiza zosokoneza bongo, mawu oyamba kubwera m'maganizo mwathu ndikusuta, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, mowa, juga ndipo mwina chakudya ndi kugula.
Koma kugonana ndi chikondi? Kodi madera osangalatsa awiriwa angaganiziridwe bwanji ngati osokoneza bongo?
Mawu oti “pano” ndi “osangalatsa”
Ndiye, kodi mikhalidwe yokhudzana ndi chiwerewere ndi chiwerewere ndi chiyani?
Kwa munthu amene amakhala ndi vuto losokoneza bongo, sizosangalatsa. Monga momwe wosuta yemwe "amalumbirira" iyi ikhala ndudu yake yomaliza, kapena womwa yemwe auza banja lawo kuti awa adzakhala omaliza ndi soda, kugonana ndi okonda kumadzipeza akubwerera mobwerezabwereza ku gwero lawo, nthawi yonseyi khalidweli limawononga miyoyo yawo komanso ya iwo owazungulira.
Mosiyana ndi omwe siamisala omwe amatha kusangalala ndi chikondi komanso kugonana, munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto logonana komanso amakonda zachinyengo, amalimbana ndi chilakolako chofuna kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo ngakhale atakhala ndi zotsatirapo zotani.
Ndipo zotsatira zake nthawi zonse zimakhala zoyipa.
Monga momwe Linda Hudson, LSW, wolemba nawo mnzake wa Making Advances: A Comprehensive Guide for Therap Women's Sex Addiction: zotsatira zake. ”
Zizindikiro zakugonana komanso kusuta
Kodi mungamudziwe bwanji munthu amene ali ndi chizolowezi chogonana komanso wachikondi, ndipo ndi chiyani chosiyana ndi munthu amene amangokonda kusangalala ndi kugonana? Nazi zambiri pazizindikiro zakugonana komanso kusuta.
Wokonda zachikondi achita izi
- Khalani pachibwenzi, mukuwona ngati "chabwino" kapena "chabwino mokwanira", ngakhale zenizeni zake ndizosiyana kwambiri. Satha kusiya ubale woopsa.
- Khalani kapena kubwereranso mobwerezabwereza ku chibwenzi chozunza, kuti osokoneza bongo sayenera kukhala okha.
- Kukana kutenga nawo mbali pazabwino zawo, thanzi lawo lam'mutu, komanso chisangalalo. Kutulutsa izi nthawi zonse kuchinthu chachikondi, ngakhale chikondi chomwe chingakhale chankhanza chotani.
- Chosowa chokhazikitsa ubale wachikondi nthawi zonse; Kulephera kukhalabe paubwenzi wolimba.
- Ali ndi mawonekedwe akumverera kutengera wokondedwa wawo.
Wokonda chiwerewere
- Onetsani zachiwerewere; ayambe kugonana ndi zibwenzi zosiyanasiyana, zoyenera kapena zosayenera
- Kuchita maliseche mopitirira muyeso
- Funsani ogonana nawo, monga mahule, achiwembu, kapena operekeza
- Gwiritsani ntchito zolaula mopitirira muyeso
- Kuthana ndi mavuto amoyo kudzera mukugonana
- Khazikitsani kuti ndi ndani kudzera mukugonana
- Amapeza "okwera" kuchokera pakugonana, koma sikukhalitsa ndipo kumafunika kukonzedwa mosalekeza
- Akumva kuti ayenera kubisala pogonana
Makhalidwe achikondi komanso chizolowezi chogonana
Makhalidwe awiri akulu achikondi ndi chizolowezi chogonana ndi omwe amakakamizidwa ndi machitidwe omwe amawononga thanzi la munthuyo.
Monga momwe zilili ndi chizolowezi chilichonse, chizolowezicho chimakopeka ndi chilichonse chomwe amagwiritsa ntchito kuti achepetse ululu wamoyo, koma kukhutira kumakhala kwakanthawi ndipo sikukhalitsa. Sangathenso kuwongolera chilakolako chogonana, ngakhale atakhala ndi zotsatirapo zake.
Makhalidwe ena achikondi komanso chizolowezi chogonana ndi monga
- Chikhumbo chosiya khalidweli koma ndikudzimva wopanda chochita.
- Kukhala otanganidwa ndi kufunafuna chikondi ndi kugonana, koposa zonse, ndikunyalanyaza mbali zina za moyo (maudindo antchito, kudzipereka pabanja, ndi zina zambiri)
- Makhalidwewa amakula, kukhala owopsa komanso owopsa
- Kulephera kukwaniritsa udindo wosagonana. Ntchito yomwe ikusowa chifukwa chamalumikizidwe azakugonana, mwachitsanzo, kapena osalipira ngongole chifukwa cha ndalama zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito kwa omwe amagonana kapena kulembetsa zolaula
- Zizindikiro zosiya. Wogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo akayesera kuletsa kapena kulepheretsedwa kuchita sewero, amatha kukwiya, kupsa mtima, kupumula, komanso kukhumudwa kwambiri.
Kugonana ndi chikondi mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi kuchira
Chimodzi mwazinthu zoyambirira zomwe mungachite mukamaganizira zamankhwala ogonana komanso achikondi ndikuwunika ndikuwunika zamankhwala.
Kuchita zachiwerewere, makamaka mwachangu, kumatha kubisa vuto lalikulu lathanzi, monga chotupa chaubongo, matenda amisala kapena psychosis. Ngati dokotala wanena kuti ali ndi vuto lotere, Nazi njira zina zakugonana ndikukonda omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwalawa kuti apeze chithandizo.
Chithandizo cha mankhwala
Naltrexone ya antidepressant yawonetsa zotsatira zabwino pakuchepetsa zizolowezi zomwe zimawonetsedwa mwa kugonana komanso okonda omwe amakonda.
Chithandizo
Chidziwitso cha Khalidwe Lothandiza ndi chothandiza pakuthandizira chizolowezicho kuzindikira zomwe zimayambitsa zizolowezi ndikuziletsa pothandiza oledzera kuyang'ana njira zina zathanzi.
Mapulogalamu odwala
Yembekezerani kuti mukakhale kuchipatala kwa nthawi yokonzedweratu, nthawi zambiri masiku 30.
Phindu pamapulogalamu okhalamo ndikuti wamisalayo amaphunzira kuti sali yekha pakukakamiza kwake. Magawo amathandizidwe am'magulu komanso amathandizidwe ena ndi gawo latsikulo, kuthandiza anthu kuti azidzimva kuti ali okhaokha ndikulola anthu kukumana ndi njira zawo "zosweka" zamaganizidwe ndi machitidwe. Maluso atsopano olimbana ndi kulumikizana amapezeka.
Magulu ena othandizira
- Okonda Kugonana Osadziwika: Kwa iwo omwe akufuna kuchepetsa kapena kusiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, maliseche, komanso / kapena zosayenera zogonana.
- Kugonana ndi Chikondi Kumayendetsa Osadziwika: Zofanana ndi zomwe tatchulazi.
- Sexaholics Anonymous: Kwa iwo omwe akufuna kusiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, kuseweretsa maliseche, kugonana kosayenera, komanso / kapena kugonana kunja kwa banja. Ali ndi tanthauzo lokhazikika lazogonana kuposa omwe amapikisana nawo.
- Kubwezeretsa kwa SMART ndi bungwe lapadziko lonse lapansi lopanda phindu lomwe limapereka chithandizo kwa anthu omwe akufuna kudziletsa.