Zamkati
Kugonana patsiku loyambilira ndi mutu wankhani wa ambiri aife. Chikhalidwe chathu chimaonabe kuti kugonana ndi chinthu choyenera kuchitika pakati pa anthu omwe adadziwana bwino ndikukondana.
Komabe, chinthu chimodzi ndichonso - ambiri a ife tidazichita. Chifukwa chake, tiyeni tiswe chochita ndikulankhula zachinsinsi chachikulu ichi.
Nkhaniyi ikufotokoza zenizeni zakugonana patsiku loyamba, momwe zingakhalire zabwino, komanso chifukwa chake zingakhale zoyipa.
Zambiri
Dziko lamasiku ano likukhala malo ochulukirapo pomwe anthu ali ndi ufulu woyesa malire awo. Kwa ena, zikutanthauza kuti atha kusangalala ndi mwayi wopulumutsidwa pakugonana. Tsopano atha kuchita zachiwerewere tsiku loyamba popanda kuvala kalata yofiira, mwachidule. Anthu ena amasangalala ndi ufulu wawo wogonana ndipo amamva ngati nsomba m'madzi.
Tsoka ilo, nthawi zina ufulu watsopanowu si kapu ya munthu. Koma, kukakamizidwa komwe atolankhani amaika pamalingaliro otukuka atha kupangitsa munthu kukhulupirira kuti nawonso angasangalale ndi moyo wokhala ndi 'American Pie'. Kwa anthuwa, kugonana patsiku loyamba kumatha kukhala chinthu chodzidetsa nkhawa komanso chowopsa.
Zikafika pa ziwerengero, kwinakwake pafupifupi theka la amunawo akuti adagonana patsiku lawo loyamba, pomwe azimayi atatu mwa amayi okha ndi omwe adavomereza zomwezo.
Amayi akuyembekezeka kuti sakufuna kunena pano akudikirira tsiku lawo lachiwiri kuti agwire thumba. Ndipo amuna akhoza kukokomeza pang'ono. Komabe, ziwerengerozi zikuwonetsa kuti kugona ndi munthu amene mwangokumana naye sikusowa konse.
Zabwino
Kugonana patsiku loyamba sikuyenera kukhala koipa konse. Ndi chifukwa chake anthu ambiri akuchita izi. Zifukwa zake ndi ziwiri. Mukaziyang'ana motengera momwe anthu amagonana, ngati mungafike nthawi yomweyo, payenera kuti panali chinthu china chachikulu chomwe chimachitika. Chifukwa chake, kugonana kumatha kukhala kodabwitsa!
Kuphatikiza apo, mukamagonana ndi munthu amene mwangokumana naye, mosaganizira ena, pakhoza kukhala zovuta zochepa kuposa kuti mumudziwe bwino munthuyo. Mwanjira ina, mukamadikirira kuti mugone ndi munthu wina, ziyembekezo ndi kukakamizidwa kumakula. Izi zingakhudze chisangalalo chanu ndi magwiridwe antchito.
Njira ina yogonana patsiku lanu loyamba ndi - palibe amene akuti iyenera kukhala yoyima usiku umodzi. Inde, zidachitika kale kuti anthu amagonana patsiku loyamba ndikukhala mosangalala zaka zambiri.
Ubwino wokhudzidwa ndikuti mumatsegula njira yoti zinthu zabwino zambiri zikuchitikireni popanda kumangidwa ndi tsankho.
Zoipa
Zachidziwikire, kugonana patsiku loyamba kumakhala ndi mbiri yoyipa pazifukwa. Kungakhale chokumana nacho choyipa kwambiri. Zowopsa ziwiriziwiri. Zimakhala ndi zoopsa zakuthupi ndi zamaganizidwe. Chodziwikiratu ndi chiopsezo cha matenda opatsirana pogonana.
Muthanso kukhala pamavuto chifukwa mumalola mlendo wangwiro m'moyo wanu, mukuulula komwe mumakhala, komwe mumagwira ntchito, kapena komwe mumakasangalala. Izi zikhoza kukhala chinthu choopsa kuchita.
Osati nkhani zonse zakugonana patsiku loyamba ndizogwirizana. Ngakhale nthawi zonse zikagwirizana, mwina pakhoza kukhala kusiyana pakati pakupanga chisankho. Zomwe zikutanthauza kuti winayo atha kukhala pachiwopsezo chachikulu chodzidalira komanso kudzilemekeza.
Pali mitundu ingapo ya zipsinjo, kuphatikiza zobisika, monga kukopa kapena kunama, ndi zina zobisika, monga mowa kapena mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Ndipo ngakhale atakhala kuti alibe chidwi chofuna kulowa nawo mgulu lapanikizika, atha kudzimvera chisoni pambuyo pake ndikupeza zovuta zam'mutu.
Oipa
Apa tikubwerera ku ziwerengero. Theka la (owongoka) amuna amagonana patsiku lawo loyamba, pomwe azimayi atatu mwa akazi onse amachita. Munthu sayenera kukhala katswiri wa masamu kuti awone china chake chikuchotsedwa pano. Mwanjira ina, azimayi samachita chilichonse akafika poulula zazomwe akufotokozazi. Ena apita kutali kuti abise kuti adakumana ndi zotere.
Anthu akamakwatirana ndi anzawo omwe adagonana nawo nthawi yomweyo, zinthu zitha kukhala zoyipa.
Kusunga zinsinsi si lingaliro labwino konse, ndipo maimidwe oyenda usiku umodzi ali ndi njira yolumikizira pomwe simukuwafuna.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake muyenera kukhala owona mtima nthawi zonse pazomwe mukuchita. Makamaka ndi mnzanu yemwe akuyenera kuti mukhale omasuka komanso owona mtima.