Zamkati
- Moyo pambuyo pa chiwerewere
- Kupulumuka ku zowawa zakugonana ndi kuzunzidwa
- Osakakamiza kutulutsa
- Khalani omasuka kukambirana nkhaniyi
- Sungani chinsinsi
- Kulemba ntchito wothandizira
Chiwerewere ndi nkhanza zakugonana ndizofala kuposa momwe tonse timakhulupirira.
Malinga ndi US National Sexual Violence Resource Center, azimayi m'modzi mwa akazi asanu adagwiriridwa nthawi ina m'miyoyo yawo. Zikukulirakulira, kafukufuku wa FBI akuwonetsa kuti ndi milandu inayi yokha mwa milandu khumi yomwe imagwiridwa. Ndiwo chithunzi chosangalatsa polingalira kuti muwonjezere, muyenera kudziwa kuti ndi milandu ingati yogwiriridwa yomwe imachitikadi.
Ngati sananene, ndiye kuti palibe amene alipo.
Iyenera kukhala nkhani yachikale kwambiri yoti simukudziwa zomwe simukudziwa, koma manambala amatsenga a FBI pambali, zomwe tikudziwa ndikuti zimachitika kwa anthu ambiri, ndipo ozunzidwa ambiri ndi akazi.
Moyo pambuyo pa chiwerewere
Omwe adachitiridwa zachipongwe ndi kuzunzidwa amakhala ndimavuto okhalitsa amisala.
Ndizowona makamaka ngati wolakwayo ndi munthu amene wovulalayo amakhulupirira. Amakhala ndi vuto lodzidalira, genophobia, erotophobia, ndipo nthawi zina amanyoza matupi awo. Zonsezi ndizolepheretsa ubale wabwino komanso wapamtima.
Zovuta zakugonedwa zitha kukhala moyo wonse, zitha kuletsa omwe akuchitiridwa nkhanza kuti akhale ndiubwenzi wabwino kapena kuwononga omwe ali nawo. Kuopa kwawo kugonana, kukondana, komanso kukhulupirirana kudzawapangitsa kukhala ozizira komanso otalikirana ndi anzawo, kuwononga chibwenzi.
Sizitenga nthawi kuti anzawo azindikire zipsinjo zakugonana monga kusowa chidwi pakugonana komanso kudalira mavuto. Ochepa okha ndi omwe amaliza izi ngati ziwonetsero zakukhumudwa komanso kuzunzidwa m'mbuyomu. Anthu ambiri amatanthauzira izi ngati kusowa chidwi kwa ubale wawo. Ngati wogwiriridwa safuna kukambirana zakale chifukwa cha zifukwa zosiyanasiyana, ubalewo ulibenso chiyembekezo.
Ngati winayo athe kuzizindikira patapita nthawi kapena wovutitsidwayo adawauza chifukwa chomwe akukhalira ndi mavuto okhulupirirana komanso kukondana, ndiye kuti banjali lingathe kuligwirira ntchito limodzi ndikuthana ndi zoyipa zakugonana.
Kupulumuka ku zowawa zakugonana ndi kuzunzidwa
Ngati banjali lili pamavuto okhudzana ndi nkhanza zomwe zidachitikapo m'mbuyomu, zingakhale zosavuta kuti mnzakeyo amvere chisoni ndi zomwe mnzakeyo wachita.
Komabe, kuchiritsa nkhanza zakugonana kapena kuzunzidwa sichinthu chophweka. Ngati banjali likufuna kuti lizichita lokha lisanalankhule ndi akatswiri pano pali zinthu zina zomwe angachite kuti athetse vutoli.
Osakakamiza kutulutsa
Ayi ayi. Ngati wozunzidwayo akukana kukhala pachibwenzi, siyani. Akuvutika ndi nkhanza zakugonana chifukwa winawake adakakamiza nkhaniyi poyamba. Ngati mukufuna kuti adzathe tsiku lina, onetsetsani kuti simukuwapangitsa kuti azikumbukiranso zomwezo.
Mawu okoma, ukwati, ndi zifukwa zina zimangoipitsa zinthu. Odwala ambiri omwe adachitidwa zachipongwe adazunzidwa ndi anthu omwe amawakhulupirira. Kupitiliza kuchita kwanu mukakana kukangotsimikizira kuti ndinu ofanana ndi omwe adakupangitsani zoyambazo.
Izi zingawalepheretse kukhala ndi ubale watanthauzo ndi inu, kwamuyaya. Chifukwa chake musalakwitse, ngakhale kamodzi.
Khalani omasuka kukambirana nkhaniyi
Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zimakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi anthu ogwiriridwa komanso kuzunzidwa chimakhala chamanyazi. Amamva kukhala onyansa, odetsedwa, komanso ogwiritsa ntchito. Kuwonetsa kunyoza mkhalidwe wawo ngakhale mosawonekera kungawapangitse kubwerera m'goli lawo.
Kulankhula za izi kumathandizira kuchira. Wopwetekedwayo akhoza kukambirana modzipereka nthawi ina, koma ngati satero, dikirani mpaka atakonzeka. Ndizotheka kuthana ndi zovuta zonsezi osagawana zomwe akumana nazo. Kulankhula za izi ndi munthu amene amamkhulupirira amagawana nawo mtolo. Koma pali anthu, ndipo simukudziwa kuti awa ndi ndani, omwe angadutse mwaokha.
Ngati pamapeto pake adakambirana, osasunga chiweruzo ndipo nthawi zonse muziyang'ana mnzanu. Ayenera kudziwa kuti si vuto lawo ndipo zonsezi ndi zakale. Muyenera kuwatsimikizira kuti tsopano ali otetezeka, otetezedwa, ndipo simudzalolanso zoterezi kuchitikanso
Sungani chinsinsi
Chinsinsi ndichofunika. Mkhalidwe ulibe kanthu, koma musalole wina aliyense kudziwa za zomwe zachitikazo. Osagwiritsa ntchito ngati mwayi uliwonse, ngakhale mutasiyana ndi munthuyo.
Kuyenda limodzi limodzi ngati banja kumalimbitsa kukhulupirirana kwanu komanso kulumikizana kwanu, ngakhale sizinafotokozedwe.
Musalole kuti zosadziwika zizidya ndikumvetsetsa kwanu, munthu aliyense amakhala ndi mbiri yakuda, koma ndi zakale. Koma ngati zikukhudzanso zamtsogolo, ndiye zomwe inu ndi banja lanu mutha kugwirira ntchito limodzi pano.
Mosakayikira kusokoneza chibwenzicho, ndipo maanja ambiri azivutika kuthana ndi zomwe zidachitika kale komanso zovuta zomwe zimabweretsa pano. Zovuta zakugonana si nkhani yaying'ono, ngati zinthu zavuta kwambiri, nthawi zonse mutha kufunafuna chithandizo cha akatswiri.
Kulemba ntchito wothandizira
Kupita kuchiritso cha nkhanza zakugonana ndikuzunzidwa ngati banja ndi chisankho chabwino.
Iyenera kukhala ulendo wa awiri. Kusiya wovulalayo kumangolimbitsa chikhulupiriro chawo. Kukhala ndi katswiri wokutsogolerani paulendo wanu kumawonjezera mwayi wopambana ndikuchepetsa kuwonongeka kwa ubale wapano.
Mankhwala opatsirana pogonana opangidwa ndi akatswiri amatengera maphunziro ochokera kwa odwala ena omwe ali ndi vuto lomweli pazaka makumi angapo zapitazi. Awiriwa sadzapapira mumdima ndikuwona momwe akupitilira. Katswiri adzakhala ndi pulani yomveka yochirikizidwa ndi kafukufuku wopambana.
Zovuta zakugonana mwakutanthauzira ndi mtundu wa Post-traumatic stress disorder. Imawonekera ndikudzimva wolakwa, manyazi, kusowa chochita, kudzidalira, komanso kutaya chikhulupiriro. Ngakhale kuwonongeka kwakuthupi kukachira, nkhawa ndi malingaliro zimakhalabe. Chabwino ndikuti matenda onse amachiritsidwa ndimankhwala oyenera komanso chikondi chachikulu.
Kuthandiza wokondedwa wanu wozunzidwa ndi mtima wonse ndipo ngati ali ofunitsitsa kupita mtsogolo ndi ulendo wawo wamachiritso ndi inu, ndiye kuti ndiubwenzi wabwino kale. Banja likatha kuthana ndi zowawa zogonana limodzi, zidzakhala zofunikira kwambiri kuposa kale.