Zamkati
- Yankho likakhala lomveka
- Kupita kapena kusapita, ndiye funso
- Kodi ubale wanu ungapulumutsidwe?
- Momwe mungadziwire ngati ubalewo ungapulumutsidwe
- Zifukwa zofunira kusiya chibwenzi
- Momwe mungapangire chisankho chokhala kapena kuchoka
Si nyimbo chabe ya Clash.
Ngati muli ndi mawu "Ndiyenera kukhala kapena ndiyenera kupita" kumazungulira mkati mwa mutu wanu, mwina zikutanthauza kuti mukuyesa ubale wanu.
Chibwenzi chikamayenda bwino, simukhala ndi lingaliro loti mukhale kapena kusiya.
Koma ngati mukuyamba kukayika za kuthekera kwa ubale womwe ulipo, izi zitha kufotokoza malingaliro oti "Ndiyenera kukhala kapena ndipite" omwe mukukhala nawo pompano.
Kuwona ngati mukuyenera kusiya kapena kusiya mnzanu ndi njira, ndipo sikophweka.
Tiyeni tiwone zina mwaubwenzi zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuyandikira yankho loti ndikhala kapena ndipite?
Onaninso:
Kodi ndiyenera kukhala kapena ndipite?
Chisankhochi ndi chofunikira chifukwa chimakhudza kwambiri moyo wanu, ndipo, ngati muli ndi ana, ku moyo wabanja lanu.
Yankho likakhala lomveka
Nkhani zina zaubwenzi ndizowonekera bwino mbendera zofiira, ndikupanga chisankho chokhala kapena kusiya chosavuta. Kodi zochitika izi zikanawoneka bwanji?
- Muli mwakuthupi, mwamawu, kapena motengeka Chibwenzi chozunza ndi wokondedwa osafuna kupempha thandizo.
- Wokondedwa wanu ali ndi vuto zomwe zikukhudza ubale wanu komanso moyo wabanja, ndipo sakufuna kupempha thandizo.
- Mnzanu ndi wosakhulupirika komanso wosadalirika.
- Wokondedwa wanu ndi wachinsinsi ndipo nthawi zambiri amakunamizani.
Pazochitikazi, simuyenera kuthera nthawi yayitali kufunafuna zifukwa zakufunira kuchoka. Chitetezo chanu ndi thanzi lanu zili pachiwopsezo, ndipo mungafune kuchoka paubwenziwu posachedwa.
Koma nthawi zina yankho loti "Ndiyenera kukhala kapena ndipite" silikudziwika.
Kupita kapena kusapita, ndiye funso
M'magwirizano pomwe thanzi lanu komanso thanzi lanu silili pachiwopsezo, kusankha kukhala kapena kuchoka kumafuna kulingalira mozama.
Kuyang'ana kunja kwa chibwenzicho osaganizira zomwe zili pachiwopsezo kungakulepheretseni mwayi wapadera wokula ndi kudziwonetsera nokha, ndipo, pazochitika zoyipa kwambiri, atha kutha msanga chibwenzi chosangalatsa chomwe chikadapulumutsidwa akadagwiritsa ntchito zida zoyankhulirana.
Kodi ubale wanu ungapulumutsidwe?
Musanapange chisankho chokhudza kukhala kapena kusiya banja lanu, ndizomveka kuyesa kuwona ngati ubale wanu ungapulumuke. Mwaika mphamvu pachibwenzi ichi, mwina chazaka zambiri.
Ichi ndi chifukwa chokwanira kuti mulingalire mosamala momwe gawo lanu lotsatira liyenera kukhalira.
Kaya mumachita izi mothandizidwa ndi akatswiri odziwa zaukwati, kapena pogwiritsa ntchito malangizo olimba ochokera m'mabuku kapena intaneti, dzifunseni ngati zingatheke kubwerera kumalo abwino ndi mnzanu.
- Kodi mutha kuyambiranso chikondi ndi kulumikizana komwe kudakukokerani pamodzi?
- Kodi mutha kulumikizana ndi ubalewo m'njira yoti ipititse patsogolo moyo, kulola kukula kwa inu nonse?
- Kodi pali zabwino zokwanira mu "ubale banki" wanu kuthana ndi malingaliro apano zomwe zikukupangitsani kukayikira ngati mungakhale kapena kusiya banja?
Momwe mungadziwire ngati ubalewo ungapulumutsidwe
- Mumapitilizabe kumvetsetsa zosowa za wina ndi mnzake. Ichi ndi chizindikiro choti ubale wanu utha kupulumutsidwa chifukwa zikutanthauza kuti mukumverana komanso kulumikizana.
- Mumagawana zinthu zina osati zogonana. Chibwenzi sichinthu chongogonana naye. Ngati inu ndi wokondedwa wanu mutha kulumikizana pamilingo ingapo, ndicho chizindikiro kuti ubale wanu utha kupulumutsidwa.
- Ndinu madoko otetezana a wina ndi mnzake. Mwina mukumenya, koma mukupitilizabe kumva kuti ndinu otetezeka kuti mufotokoze kusamvana. Ndi chizindikiro chabwino kuti mumakhala otetezeka wina ndi mnzake.
- Chisangalalo ndi moyo wa mnzanu zimakhalabe zofunika kwambiri. Ngati malingaliro awa alipo, zimakhala zabwino kupulumutsa chibwenzicho.
Zifukwa zofunira kusiya chibwenzi
Pamene mukuganizira za funso, "Ndiyenera kukhala kapena ndipite", bwanji osalemba mndandanda wa schimodzi mwazifukwa zofunira kuchoka?
Mwachitsanzo:
- Simukuyembekezeranso kucheza ndi mnzanu, ndi kupeza zifukwa zoti akhale kunja kwa nyumba madzulo kapena kumapeto kwa sabata.
- Mumagawana zochepa, ndipo mumangokhala ngati ogona kuposa anzanu enieni.
- Moyo wanu wogonana mulibe, osakhutiritsa, kapena osagwirizana.
- Mumakonda kukhala pazowonera zanu- kaya foni, pc kapena TV, kuposa kucheza ndi mnzanu.
- Mukumva kuti simunayanjane nawo. Zili ngati kukhala ndi mlendo.
Momwe mungapangire chisankho chokhala kapena kuchoka
Ngati mukufika poti mukudzifunsa kuti "ndichoke?", Mwina muli ndi mkwiyo wambiri wosungidwa mkati mwanu.
Wokwiya chifukwa chosamveka, osawoneka, osayamikiridwa. Chilichonse chomwe chakwiyitsa izi, ndibwino kuti musalole mkwiyo kukhala chinthu chosankha kuti mupite kapena musapite.
Mkwiyo ndimalingaliro osafotokozedwa. Musanadutse m'mutu mwanu, yankho loti, "Ndiyenera kukhala kapena ndipite", ndibwino kuti inu ndi mnzanu mufotokozere zomwe zakhumudwitsa mkwiyo kuposa kungonyamula masutikesi anu ndikunyamuka .
Pokhala pansi ndi mnzanu ndikuwawonetsa, mchilankhulo chosawopseza, chifukwa chomwe mwakwiyira, mwina mungangoyambitsa zokambirana zomwe zingakugwirizanitseni kumalingaliro anu zachikondi chozama kwa wina ndi mnzake.
Kumbali inayi, mnzanuyo akana kukambirana nawo zakukhosi kwanu, angowonetsa kuti ali ndani ndipo yankho lanu ku funso loti "ndiyenera kukhala kapena ndipite" ndi lomveka.
Yambani kulongedza. Funso, Kodi ndiyenera kukhalabe kapena ndichoke m'banja langa ”, lafunikanso tsopano.