Zamkati
- 1. Mumalumikizana, kutengeka, kuganiza, komanso kuthupi
- 2. Muli ndi masomphenya omwewo amtsogolo mwanu
- 3. Simumasunga chakukhosi
- 4. Anzanu ndi abale anu akuwona zomwe mukuwona
- 5. Mumalimbana wina ndi mnzake kuti mukhale bwino
- 6. Mutha kukhala nonse zenizeni
- 7. Mukungodziwa
Aliyense amafuna kupeza munthu woyenera kuti agawane zilakolako zawo zakuya, maloto ofunikira kwambiri, komanso zinsinsi zakuda kwambiri. Ukwati umakupatsani inu kumverera kwa chisungiko ndi chitsimikiziro mwa kukhala ndi bwenzi lanu lapamtima pambali panu.
Koma mungadziwe bwanji ngati ali "Mmodzi"? Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati muli ndi munthu woyenera?
Musanalowe m'banja, ndikofunikira kuti muzimvera nokha, kudalira matumbo anu, ndikugawana zakukhosi kwanu ndi anzanu, abale, ophunzitsa maubwenzi, ndi malangizo ena odalirika.
Ukwati siophweka, koma Nazi njira zisanu ndi ziwiri zodziwira ngati munthu amene mukuyenda naye ulendowu ndi munthu woyenera.
Fufuzani zizindikiro izi kuti muwone ngati mnzanuyo ali woyenerera bwino.
1. Mumalumikizana, kutengeka, kuganiza, komanso kuthupi
Kuzindikira zizolowezi za wina ndi mzake munthawi iliyonse ndikuchitapo kanthu moyenera ndikofunikira kuti muchite bwino. Mukakhumudwa, amadziwa momwe angakulimbikitsireni. Mukapanikizika, amadziwa momwe angathetsere nkhawa zanu komanso mosiyana.
Mukakhala ndi munthu woyenera, nonse mudzagwirizana ndi zizolowezi za wina ndi mzake, zozizwitsa, ndi zododometsa. Chimodzi mwazizindikiro kuti iye ndi amene adzabwera mukakhala ndi chitonthozo mozungulira iwo. Mwachitsanzo, mulole kutulutsa mawonekedwe azithunzi za thupi lanu ngati muli nawo. Momwe muwalandire, mudzayamba kudzilandilira inunso.
2. Muli ndi masomphenya omwewo amtsogolo mwanu
Ukwati sungayende bwino pokhapokha mutagwirizana momwe mungakhalire moyo wanu wonse limodzi ndikumvetsetsa tanthauzo la banja. Kufotokozera masomphenya anu ndi zolinga zanu zokwatirana mtsogolomo muubwenzi ndikuwona maso ndi maso zokhudzana ndi ana, malo, komanso moyo wantchito ndikofunikira.
Ngati mukudziwa kuti muli ndi woyenera, mutha kuyanjanitsa masomphenya anu monga anthu komanso za maubale ndikuwaphatikiza ngati banja. Izi zikuthandizaninso kuti mumudziwe bwino mnzanu.
3. Simumasunga chakukhosi
Mukakangana ndi wina wanu wamkulu, mumalankhulana zakukhosi kwanu, mumakhala ndi nthawi yozizira, ndikupitilira, ndikusiya kusagwirizana m'mbuyomu. Ndizosatheka kupita patsogolo muubwenzi ngati m'modzi kapena nonse mwa inu mukugwirabe zolimba pamalingaliro otsalira.
Chifukwa chake, mikangano sikumatha mwa kutha kapena kuyambitsa chisokonezo muubwenzi ndi munthu woyenera. Nonsenu mumatenga njira yothetsera vutoli ndikumvetsetsa nkhawa za mnzanu.
4. Anzanu ndi abale anu akuwona zomwe mukuwona
Amakudziwani bwino ndipo amakuganizirani zabwino zanu, chifukwa chake ngati sagwirizana ndi wokondedwa wanu, nthawi zambiri iyi imakhala mbendera yofiira. Ngati zomwe muli nazo za mnzanu ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi momwe okondedwa anu amawawonera, ndi nthawi yoti mufunse chifukwa chake zikuchitika.
Anthu atha kuchititsidwa khungu ndi chikondi ndikumangoyang'ana pazovuta zomwe zikuchitika muubwenzi pokhapokha atakhala okonzeka kumva nkhawa za anzawo omwe amawakhulupirira.
Chifukwa chake mukapeza imodzi, abale anu ndi abwenzi adzagawana bwino kwambiri ndi mnzanu, momwemonso inunso.
5. Mumalimbana wina ndi mnzake kuti mukhale bwino
Nonse mukufuna kukula monga aliyense payekhapayekha komanso othandizana nawo ndikukhala ndi oyang'anira anu pambali panu panjira iliyonse. Kutsutsana wina ndi mzake kumangopitilira pakungonena chabe - zochita zomwe zikuwonetsa kuti inu nonse muli ndi chidwi chofuna kuwona kukondana ndi chofunikira kwambiri.
Kupeza munthu woyenera kumatanthauza kuti nonse mumadziwa zomwe wina ndi mnzake angathe kuchita ndikukakamizana wina ndi mnzake kuti mukhale bwino. Vuto labwino pachibwenzi pamakhala zokambirana momasuka komanso kufunsa mafunso moona mtima.
Ndichinthu chopitilira-mnzanu akuyenera kukulimbikitsani nthawi iliyonse mukayamba ulendo wopindulitsa.
6. Mutha kukhala nonse zenizeni
Izi sizikutanthauza, koma munthu woyenera ayenera kukukondani pa chilichonse chomwe muli. Mukapeza yoyenera, mumakhala omasuka kuwonetsa umunthu wanu weniweni, kuseka, ndi mawonekedwe owazungulira, ndipo mnzanuyo ayenera kumva chimodzimodzi nanu.
Mu kanemayu pansipa, katswiri wamaubwenzi a Rachel DeAlto amalankhula za momwe timavalira masks ambiri. Izi zimatipangitsa kukhala opanda tanthauzo komanso kutilepheretsa kukhala akatswiri pazabwino zathu. Mverani iye pansipa:
7. Mukungodziwa
Mukudziwa bwanji kuti mwapeza?
Ngati mukukayikira chibwenzicho ndipo nthawi zonse mumayesetsa kukonza mavuto omwewo, ndiye kuti nthawi yakwana kuti mufufuze mozama muukwati wanu. Sikuti kukayika konse ndi zifukwa zosagwirizana kwathunthu, koma mumadziwa ubale wanu bwino kwambiri.
Nthawi zina chilichonse chimangodina ndi munthu woyenera, ndipo mukudziwa pansi pamtima ndi munthu amene muyenera kukhala naye.
Ukwati ndi mgwirizano wa anthu awiri omwe amadzipereka kwa wina ndi mnzake moyo wawo wonse, koma zingakhalenso zovuta kuyenda. Ndi zachilendo nthawi zina kukayikira ngati munthu amene umakwatirana naye kapena amene wakwatirana naye, ndiye amene umayenera kukhala naye.
Kuphunzitsa za ubale kumapereka njira yolumikizirana yakunja pomwe inu ndi mnzanu mumatha kufotokozera zakukhosi kwanu mwachinsinsi ndikulandila upangiri waluso kuchokera kwa akatswiri omwe amamvetsetsa zakukwera ndi kutsika kwaubwenzi.
Ngati mungadutse pamndandandawu ndipo simukukhulupirira kuti mnzanu ndi 'Yemwe,' gawo lotsatira ndikufikira ena kuti awathandize.