Zamkati
- 1. Chovuta chobwezeretsa zakale
- 2. Chovuta pakuphunzira maphunziro anu
- 3. Vuto la ana
- 4. Chovuta cha okwatirana
- 5. Vuto lazachuma
- 6. Chovuta chodzipereka
Kukwatiranso kachiwiri kumafuna kulimba mtima chifukwa nthawi zonse pamakhala chiopsezo chotenga banja lachiwiri kukhala lofanana ndi lanu loyamba.
Kukwatiranso sikukutanthauza kuti simumangodzinamiza- mukuyenera kukhalabe okayikira komanso oopa koma wofunitsitsa kuthana ndi munthu amene mumamukondayo. Ndiye tsopano mwalimba mtima mwakwatirana ndi banja lachiwiri muli ndi chiyembekezo komanso kutsimikiza mtima.
Zachidziwikire, pali chiyembekezo kuti zinthu zidzayenda bwino nthawi ino kuposa momwe zidachitikira nthawi yapita.
Ngakhale ziwerengero zikuwonetsa kuti kuchuluka kwachisudzulo chokwatirana kwachiwiri ndikokwera kuposa maukwati oyamba, simuyenera kuda nkhawa za mabanja omwe adzakwatirane kachiwiri.
Mutatha kuyang'ana pazoyipa m'banja lanu lakale, mudzalowa m'banja lino mwakonzeka.
Nkhaniyi ifotokoza zovuta zaukwati wachiwiri kapena mavuto omwe angabwere m'banja lachiwiri ndi momwe angathetsere mavutowa.
Onaninso:
1. Chovuta chobwezeretsa zakale
Zinsinsi za ukwati wachiwiri wopambana ndi ngati mulidi wowona pa banja lanu lakale.
Tonsefe timadziwa kuopsa kwa maubwenzi a 'rebound', koma mwina miyezi ingapo kapena zaka zidadutsa kale banja lanu lomaliza ndipo mumaganiza kuti ndinu okwera komanso owuma.
Kwenikweni, nthawi yokha sikokwanira nthawi zonse kuti mupumule zakale, ngati simunachitepo kanthu pazomwe zinachitika. Zili ngati kuyika zinthu zonse zakupha m'chipinda chanu cham'maganizo ndikuyembekeza kuti sizidzawonekeranso - koma zimatero, ndipo nthawi zambiri nthawi yovuta komanso yovuta.
Kaya mudamwalira ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna kapena banja, ndikofunikira kukhumudwitsa zomwe mwawonongeka musanafike pamalo ovomerezeka.
Kukhululuka kumathandiza kwambiri poika zakale kuti zikapumule; Dzikhululukireni nokha, mnzanu wakale, ndi aliyense amene wakhudzidwa.
Izi sizikutanthauza kuti mukungolekerera kapena kuvomereza zomwe zidachitikazo, koma kuti mwasankha kusiya zakale zomwe simunazilole kuti muzilamuliridwa nazo.
Mutha kuchita izi mutha kuyang'ana kwambiri pakupanga ubale wabwino ndi mnzanu watsopanoyo.
2. Chovuta pakuphunzira maphunziro anu
Palibe cholakwika kapena chokumana nacho choyipa chomwe chimawonongeka ngati mungaphunzirepo kanthu. M'malo mwake, zomwe mwaphunzira kuchokera ku banja lanu loyamba zitha kukhala maphunziro ofunikira kwambiri omwe angapangitse kapena kusokoneza banja lanu lachiwiri.
Chifukwa chake muyenera kuyang'anitsitsa zomwe zidachita ndipo sizinagwire ntchito nthawi yoyamba. Kudziwa izi kungakhale kothandiza kudziwa zomwe zimapangitsa kuti banja liziyenda bwino.
Khalani owona mtima pa gawo lomwe mudasewera - nthawi zonse pamakhala mbali ziwiri pankhani iliyonse. Kodi pali njira zina zomwe mumakhalira zovuta kukhala nazo, ndipo musintha bwanji zizolowezizo?
Fotokozerani momveka bwino zomwe simungathe kulekerera mnzanu wakale, kenako pewani kucheza ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi zikhalidwe zomwezo.
Ngati mutenga zovuta kuti muphunzire bwino kuchokera ku banja lanu loyamba mutha kuyamba bwino banja lanu lachiwiri.
3. Vuto la ana
Vuto lina lofala lachiwiri lachiwiri mosakaika, kubweretsa ana kulowa m'banja lachiwiri. Zochitika zosiyanasiyana zimaphatikizapo inu kapena mnzanu watsopano wokhala ndi ana pomwe winayo alibe, kapena nonse muli ndi ana.
Kaya pali kusiyana kotani, muyenera kulingalira mosamala tanthauzo lake. Kumbukirani kuti nthawi zambiri zimatenga kanthawi kuti ana avomere kholo lawo latsopano (kapena kholo lopeza).
Kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti zingatenge pafupifupi zaka zisanu kapena kupitilira apo kuti mabanja awiri athe 'kuphatikiza'. Ganizirani za magawo onse omwe angafunike kuthamangitsidwa nthawi yakuchezera ndi makolo ena omwe akukhudzidwa ndikukonzekera tchuthi.
Dera lomwe nthawi zambiri limayambitsa mikangano yambiri ndi masitayelo a makolo komanso momwe angalangire ana.
Apa ndipomwe inu ndi mnzanu muyenera kukhala limodzi, makamaka ngati kholo loberekalo kulibe.
Anthu ena angaganize kuti ndizovuta kulera ana m'banja lanu lachiwiri koma sizili choncho. Mutha kuwona kuti ana ndi mdalitso ndipo amapanga banja losakanikirana.
Komanso, ngati mukuganiza zokwatiranso ndipo "ana opeza omwe akubweretsa mavuto m'banja" ndi nkhawa yomwe ikubwera m'maganizo mwanu, muyenera kulingalira mozama, muuzeni mnzanu za zomwe zikukudetsani nkhawa komanso kuti mupeze thandizo kwa wochiritsa banja kuchitapo kanthu.
4. Chovuta cha okwatirana
Maukwati achiwiri nthawi zambiri amakhala amuna kapena awiri omwe sanakwatirane nawo, pokhapokha ngati ndinu wamasiye. Ngakhale mabanja ambiri osudzulana amatha kukhala achikhalidwe komanso amakhalidwe abwino pakati pawo, sizomwe zimachitika nthawi zina mukakwatiranso pambuyo pa chisudzulo.
Ngati pali ana omwe akukhudzidwa, kumbukirani kuti mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu watsopanoyo ayenera kulumikizana ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wake wakale kuti akonze zokacheza, kujambulidwa ndi zina zothandiza.
Izi zimatibweretsanso kuzovuta zoyamba ndi zachiwiri - kuyika zakale kuti mupumule ndikuphunzira maphunziro anu.
Ngati madera awiriwa athandizidwa bwino, ndiye kuti mutha kuyendetsa bwino ndi banja lanu lachiwiri.
Ngati sichoncho, mutha kukumana ndi zizolowezi zodalira, makamaka komwe kunachitidwapo nkhanza kapena zosokoneza bongo, komanso komwe kuli okakamira kapena ovuta.
Mtundu uliwonse wokhudzidwa kwambiri ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wakale umabweretsa mavuto m'banja lachiwiri.
Komanso, kukhala omasuka komanso owona mtima za momwe banja linatha kale ndikofunikira, komanso kukhala patsamba limodzi ndi mnzanu wapano pankhani yokhudzana ndi mnzanu wakale, kaya pali ana omwe akukhudzidwa kapena ayi.
Ngati mukukwatiranso pambuyo pa chisudzulo ndipo mukulimbana ndi izi musazengereze kutero pezani thandizo kwa mlangizi kapena wothandizira.
5. Vuto lazachuma
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Zowona, ndalama zimakhudzana kwambiri ndi kudalira.
Anthu akakwatirana ayenera kusankha ngati aphatikiza ndalama zomwe amapeza kapena azisunga maakaunti osiyana.
Atalowa m'banja lachiwiri, anthu ambiri adakumana ndi mavuto azachuma komanso zopinga zambiri panthawi ya chisudzulo, zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala osatetezeka pachuma kuposa banja lawo loyamba.
Lamulo lina lofunikira kuti banja lachiwiri liziyenda bwino kapena njira yabwino yothanirana ndi zovuta zachuma ndi kukhala yotseguka kwathunthu komanso yowonekera wina ndi mnzake, kumayambiriro kwaukwati pambuyo pa chisudzulo.
Kupatula apo, ngati mukufuna kupititsa ukwatiwu muyenera kuphunzira kukhulupirirana ndikukhala owona pakulipira chilichonse chomwe mungakhale nacho.
6. Chovuta chodzipereka
Popeza kuti uwu ndi banja lanu lachiwiri mtsogolo, mwina mosazindikira kapena mosazindikira zingakhudze momwe mumaonera chisudzulo - mwakuti mwadutsapo kale kale, ndiye kuti muli ndi mwayi wachiwiri.
Ngakhale palibe amene amalowa m'banja lachiwiri ali ndi malingaliro awa, nthawi zonse pamakhala kuthekera ngati zinthu zikuvuta.
Kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti 'kukhazikika' kwa chisudzulo kungakhale chimodzi mwazifukwa zazikulu zomwe mabanja achiwiri amalephera.
M'malo moyesera kudziwa kuti maukwati achiwiri amatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji, njira yothanirana ndi vutoli ndikudzipereka kwathunthu ku banja lanu lachiwiri.
Mwina mudasudzulapo kamodzi koma mutha kusankha kuwona ngati nthawi yoyamba komanso yomaliza. Kumbukirani, maukwati achiwiri achipambano sichimodzimodzi.
Tsopano mwadzipereka kwamuyaya kwa mnzanu wachiwiri, ndipo nonse mutha kuyesetsa kuchita zonse zomwe zingathandize kuti banja lanu likhale lokongola komanso lapadera momwe mungathere ndikuthana ndi mavuto aukwati wachiwiri ndikukhala ogwirizana.