Zamkati
- 1. Dziwani zosowa zanu ndi machitidwe anu
- 2. Phunzirani kumvetsera mwachidwi
- 3. Mvetsetsani njira zosiyanasiyana zolankhulirana
- 4. Fufuzani zolepheretsa kulumikizana moyenera
- 5. Kambiranani kachitidwe kosiyanasiyana ka phindu
- 6. Mvetsetsani momwe kupanga zisankho kumachitikira
- 7. Pezani njira zabwino zothetsera kusamvana
- 8. Phunzirani kuyendetsa mkwiyo
- 9. Onani zilankhulo zachikondi ndi machitidwe osamala
- 10. Phunzirani momwe mungathetsere zopweteka zakale
- 11. Kambiranani zodalirana
Mwina munamvapo zakuti banja loyankhulana limayendetsedwa m'dera lanu, ndipo mukuganiza kuti mwina ndi bwino kupita nawo.
Choyamba, muyenera kudzifunsa kuti, "Kodi kulankhulana bwino pakati pa ine ndi mnzanga ndi kotani?" Kodi mumamva ngati pali malo oti musinthe, kapena zinthu zina zoipa mpaka kufika pofunafuna thandizo?
Ndipo chachiwiri, kodi mnzanuyo akumva chimodzimodzi momwe inu mumamvera, ndipo kodi angakhale ofunitsitsa kutenga nawo mbali m'makalasi olumikizana ndi mabanja kapena zokambirana za mabanja?
Ngati yankho la mafunso onse awiriwa ndi 'inde' ndiye kuti mutha kupanga mapulani oti mulembetse maphunziro olumikizana ndi mabanja kapena malo olankhulana ndi mabanja ndikuyamba kuyembekezera zabwino zomwe mungayembekezere kutsatira.
Musanayang'ane pa maubwino amakalasi abwenzi apabanja, Komabe, muyenera choyamba kupeza gulu loyankhulana loyenera pafupi ndi ine 'kuti inu ndi mnzanuyo mudzakhalepo.
Ngati mulibe magulu olumikizana ndi anthu omwe ali kale mdera lanu, mungafunike kufufuza zina pa intaneti, kapena kufunsa anthu mdera lanu kuti apeze njira yolumikizirana yoyenera kwa mabanja omwe mungathe.
Palinso maphunziro a pa intaneti kapena makalasi olumikizirana a mabanja, omwe atha kuchitidwa limodzi kutonthoza kwanu.
Mukasankha kusaina imodzi yamaphunzirowa kapena makalasiwa, mungafune kuwonetsetsa kuti ena mwamaubwino awa akwaniritsidwa pamaphunziro.
Onaninso:
1. Dziwani zosowa zanu ndi machitidwe anu
Musanaphunzire kulankhulana bwino ndi ena, ndibwino kuti mumvetsetse zosowa zanu komanso momwe mumakhalira.
Mukadzimvetsetsa bwino, mudzadziwa chifukwa chake mumachita zinthu zina, komanso chifukwa chake nkhani zina zimakukhumudwitsani kapena mwina.
Pamene mungathe kuvomereza malo ofooka mwa iwe, ndipo ndinu ofunitsitsa kugwira ntchito m'malo amenewa, ndiye kuti mudzakhala okonzekera bwino kupita patsogolo ndikupita patsogolo kwambiri mukulumikizana kwanu.
2. Phunzirani kumvetsera mwachidwi
Kumvetsera mwina ndi luso lofunika kwambiri pakulankhulana. Mungayankhe bwanji mwanzeru ngati simunamvetsere bwino?
Kumvetsera sikutanthauza kungokhala chete pamene munthu wina akulankhula. Kumvetsera mwachidwi komanso moyenera kumafunikira kuyang'ana ndi kusamala, ndi cholinga chomvetsetsa ndikuthandizira mnzake.
3. Mvetsetsani njira zosiyanasiyana zolankhulirana
Sikuti aliyense amalumikizana m'njira yofananira - makamaka, pali njira zambiri zolankhulirana. Njira zina sizilowerera ndale kapena zopindulitsa, pomwe mitundu ina imatha kuwononga ubale.
Kudziwa mafashoni omwe inu ndi mnzanu mumagwiritsa ntchito kudzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa komwe muyenera kuchita nonse sintha zina kukhala zabwino momwe mumalankhulirana wina ndi mnzake.
4. Fufuzani zolepheretsa kulumikizana moyenera
Zolepheretsa kulumikizana bwino zitha kukhala zochulukirapo komanso zosiyana ngati banja lililonse. Mwina ndandanda yanu ndiyotanganidwa kwambiri, kapena mwina mwangotopa kuti simungathe nthawi yolumikizana kwambiri.
Mukazindikira ndi kuzindikira zomwe zikukulepheretsani inu ndi mnzanu kulankhulana momasuka komanso moyenera, mutha kupeza yankho labwino.
5. Kambiranani kachitidwe kosiyanasiyana ka phindu
Njira zamtengo wapatali ndizofunikira chifukwa zimazindikira, kwakukulukulu, zosankha zathu ndi machitidwe athu. Maanja akuyenera kukambirana za kachitidwe kawo kuti awone komwe akugwirizana komanso kuti amasiyana pati.
Ngati kusiyana kuli kosiyanasiyana, mikangano inayake siyingapeweke, ndipo a njira yothandiza kapena kunyengerera kuyenera kuchitidwa.
6. Mvetsetsani momwe kupanga zisankho kumachitikira
Zisankho, zisankho, zisankho! Tsiku lililonse, pali zosankha zambiri. Funso nlakuti, mbanja mwanu, ndani amapanga zisankho?
Kodi mumagawana nawo chisankho? Kapena mwagawa magawo osiyanasiyana kuti aliyense m'banjamo azisamalira mosiyana? Kapena kodi m'modzi wa inu nthawi zambiri amaperekera mwayi kwa mnzake yemwe amamaliza kupanga zisankho zonse zofunikira muukwati wanu?
7. Pezani njira zabwino zothetsera kusamvana
Ukwati wopanda mkangano wina mwina ungakhale chozizwitsa, osati ukwati! Mikangano imaperekedwa posachedwa pakati pa anthu awiri odziyimira pawokha.
Komabe, kusamvana sikuyenera kukhala kowononga kapena kuwononga chibwenzi. M'malo mwake, kupatsidwa malingaliro ndi maluso oyenera, kusamvana komwe kumayendetsedwa bwino kumatha kuyambitsa kukondana ndi kumvana kwambiri m'banja.
8. Phunzirani kuyendetsa mkwiyo
Mkwiyo wosayendetsedwa bwino ungafanane ndi moto wolusa womwe umasiya chiwonongeko ndikutsalira. Mkwiyo wamtunduwu umasokoneza mwayi uliwonse wolumikizana bwino.
Chifukwa chake, kuphunzira maluso owongolera mkwiyo ndi gawo lofunikira pakulankhulana kwa mabanja.
9. Onani zilankhulo zachikondi ndi machitidwe osamala
Kusanthula zilankhulo zosiyanasiyana zachikondi kungathandize maanja kwambiri kuti apeze zomwe zingapangitse wokondedwa wawo kudzimva wokondedwa ndi wokondedwa.
Ngati mumakhala mukuganiza kuti ndichifukwa chiyani magulu anu amaluwa ndi mabokosi a chokoleti samasintha muubwenzi wanu, yesetsani kutsuka mbale kapena kuchapa zovala kwa mnzanu. Mungadabwe ndi kuyankha kwabwino!
10. Phunzirani momwe mungathetsere zopweteka zakale
Ngakhale zakale zidapita, mwatsoka, zovuta zosasinthidwa zam'mbuyomu zimayambitsa mavuto pakadali pano.
Ngati simunagawanepo zowawa pamoyo wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu, ino ingakhale nthawi yoti muthe. Mukatero mudzakhala omasuka kupita patsogolo m'njira yabwino popanda 'katundu' wochulukirapo.
11. Kambiranani zodalirana
Kudalira ndiye maziko zikafika paubwenzi uliwonse makamaka banja. Tsoka ilo, nthawi zambiri pamavuto ndi zovuta zaukwati, kudalirana kumatha kugwedezeka kapena kusweka.
Chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti muphunzire momwe mungayambitsenso chidaliro kuti mubwezeretse kulumikizana koyenera.
Mukamaganizira maubwino awa, kumbukirani kuti banja lililonse ndi lapadera, ndipo zosowa zanu zitha kukumana m'njira zosiyanasiyana.
Chifukwa chake pitirizani kupita patsogolo kufikira mutapeza njira zoyenera zoyankhulirana za anthu okwatirana zomwe zimakuthandizani kwambiri ngati banja.