Zamkati
- 1. Dziwani kuti kulumikizana ndikofunikira
- 2. Pezani nthawi yocheza
- 3. Perekani malo
- 4. Pumani musanalankhule
- 5. Sinthani zochita zanu
- 6. Pitirizani kukondana
Mimba ndi gawo losangalatsa kwa mabanja ambiri mofananamo. Ino ndi nthawi yomwe maanja amalumikizana ndikuyandikira pafupi. Ndi nthawi yoti anthu awiri azindikire kuti abweretsa ndikulera moyo wina wamunthu, ndipo mavuto amimba ndi zoyembekezera zomwe zimabwera ndi mwana zimayenera kusintha ubale wawo.
Kusintha kwa thupi lanu, ma curve owoneka bwino, mimba yanu yotupa, komanso mahomoni okwiya omwe mungakumane nawo mthupi lanu ali ndi mphamvu yakukulepheretsani kuchita bwino posamalira ubale wanu panthawi yomwe muli ndi pakati ndi mnzanu. Nthawi ina inu ndi bwenzi lanu mumatha kulumikizana, ndipo munthawi ina mutha kukhala otopa m'maganizo komanso osungulumwa.
Ngati inu ndi amuna anu simukugwirizana ngakhale chimodzi ndipo mukumangokhalira kumenyana, musadandaule chifukwa ndewuzi ndizofala. Kukhala ndi mwana ndichinthu chosintha moyo wawo ndipo kumatha kusintha ubale wa awiriwa panthawi yapakati.
Nthawi yomweyo, ubale wofunikira umakhala ndi pakati. Mahomoni okhala ndi pakati amatha kukhudza amayi omwe angakhale amayi mosiyana. Ena atha kukhala osakanikirana komanso okhumudwa pomwe ena ochepa atha kukhala osatetezeka kapena kuda nkhawa.
Kupsinjika koteroko panthawi yapakati kumatha kukhudza ubale womwe ungakhale wathanzi pakati pawo.
Kusweka panthawi yapakati sikumveka. Mabanja omwe sangathenso kuthana ndi maubwenzi opanikizika amatha kumapeto kwa njira zopatsirana pambuyo pathupi. Mavuto aukwati ali ndi pakati ndiofala. Abwenzi akuyenera kumvetsetsa kuti maubwenzi amasintha nthawi yapakati ndikupeza njira zochepetsera kupsinjika panthawi yoyembekezera komanso kuthana ndi zovuta zaubwenzi.
Chifukwa chake ngati mukukhala ndi vuto lokhala ndi nkhawa panthawi yoyembekezera, musadandaule chifukwa zomwe zatchulidwa pansipa ndi maupangiri okuthandizani kuthana ndi mavuto am'mimba mukakhala ndi pakati.
1. Dziwani kuti kulumikizana ndikofunikira
Popeza kuti mwambowu ukusintha moyo ndipo ungakhudze kwambiri ubale wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu, ndikofunikira kuti muzitsegula zitseko zakulankhulana. Ngati inu ndi mnzanu simulankhulana kapena kulumikizana ndikudziuza zakukhosi kwanu ndi mavuto anu, ndiye kuti ubale wanu umakhala wopanikiza.
Pofuna kuthana ndi mavuto aubwenzi mukakhala ndi pakati, ndikofunikira kuti muzilankhulana, muuzeni mnzanu momwe mukumvera, zomwe mukufuna komanso mnzanu. Kuphatikiza apo, muyenera kuganizira momwe mukumvera ndikukhala oganizira za vuto lanu.
Tsopano, muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti palibe malangizo aliwonse amomwe mungapewere kupsinjika mukakhala ndi pakati. Zimatengera onse omwe ali nawo kuti apeze momwe angathetsere nkhawa za mimba.
Apa, kulumikizana ndichinsinsi chokha chothanirana ndi mavuto ammimba mukakhala ndi pakati kuti muchepetse kuthana ndi mavuto apakati.
2. Pezani nthawi yocheza
Pakati paulendo wopita kuchipatala, azimayi azachipatala, komanso makalasi a Lamaze, ndikofunikira kuti inu ndi mnzanuyo mupeze nthawi yopatula tsiku lanu lotanganidwa ndikukhala limodzi.
Dziwani kuti ngakhale mutanyamula mwanayo, wokondedwa wanu akukumana ndi zosintha, monga kumva kukhala ndi mwana komanso kukhala bambo.
Ndikofunika kuti muzilankhulana komanso muzikhala ndi nthawi yocheza wina ndi mnzake kuti sakhala okha. Pitani kokawonera kanema kapena chakudya chamadzulo mulesitilanti yokongola ndikusangalala kukhala limodzi.
3. Perekani malo
Kumbali inayi, simukufuna kupumira m'khosi mwa mnzanu. Ngati muli ndi pakati komanso mumapanikizika ndi amuna anu nthawi zonse, ndiye kuti muyenera kudzifunsa ngati mukumuvutitsa kwambiri kapena ayi?
Kukangana ndi ndewu sizithandiza, m'malo mwake mikangano yotere imangowonjezera nkhawa yamaubwenzi panthawi yapakati. Ingomusangalatsani nthawi yomwe mumakhala limodzi KOMA khalani ndi nthawi yopatukana ndikupatsanso malo enawo.
Umu ndi momwe mungathanirane ndi zovuta zokhudzana ndiubwenzi mukakhala ndi pakati.
4. Pumani musanalankhule
Ndizosadabwitsa kuti mahomoni oyembekezera amatha kukupangitsani kukhala osasunthika komanso osasangalatsa komanso otengeka, chifukwa chake mukamva kusinthasintha kochitika, siyani, pumani ndikudzifunsa "Kodi ndiyenso ameneyu?". Kupusitsa kosavuta kumeneku kumatha kuteteza mikangano yambiri ndi nkhani ndipo kungakuthandizeni kuthana ndi nkhawa ngakhale isanayambe.
5. Sinthani zochita zanu
M'malo mongokhala okakamira pazomwe inu ndi mnzanu mumakonda kuchita ndikukangana pa izo, yesetsani kusinthasintha ndikusintha zomwe mumachita. Ndizosadabwitsa kuti zinthu zikuyenera kusintha ndiye tanthauzo lanji pokangana za izi?
M'malo mochita zomwe mumakonda kuchita monga gofu kapena kusambira, yesetsani kuchita zosangalatsa zambiri monga malo opumira kapena kulimbitsa thupi kwa maanja. Sankhani zochitika zomwe nonse mungasangalale nazo.
6. Pitirizani kukondana
Ndizosadabwitsa kuti chibwenzi chapakati pa pakati, pakati panu ndi mnzanu chitha kutsika kwambiri. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zodziwika bwino zakupsinjika kwa maubwenzi nthawi yapakati. M'miyezi ingapo yoyambirira, muli otanganidwa ndi matenda am'mawa, kuthana ndi kutopa komanso kusinthasintha kwa malingaliro kotero kuti kugonana kumatha kukhala chinthu chomaliza m'maganizo mwanu.
Pakadutsa miyezi, mwana wanu amakhala akuwonekera kwambiri ndikupeza malo oyenera ogonana omwe angakhale osangalatsa kwa inu ndi mnzanu kukhala kovuta kwambiri. Zikatero, amalangizidwa kuti muzikambirana ndi wokondedwa wanu momwe zingagwirire ntchito. Mphindi monga kuthamangitsidwa, kubedwa kumayenera kutengedwa mopepuka ndikunyalanyazidwa ngati nthabwala.
Kupatula apo, mavuto apabanja ndi maubwenzi ndiofala, ndipo banja lililonse liyenera kudutsa gawo ili paukwati wawo ngati ali ndi mwana. Chifukwa chake, muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungachepetse nkhawa mukakhala ndi pakati. Chifukwa chake, musaiwale kuyankhula ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikuyambitsa chibwenzi.
Ndikofunikira kuti inu ndi mnzanu mukhale odekha komanso ogwirizana panthawi yovutayi. Amayi akuyenera kukumbukira kuti ngakhale akukumana ndi zosintha zambiri zakuthupi, wokondedwa wawo nawonso akusintha malingaliro kotero kuti atha kukhala opanikizika komanso amantha.
Mimba ndiulendo wokongola kwa anthu awiri omwe ali pachibwenzi. Koma, kupsinjika kwa ubale pakati pa mimba yomwe ingabwere ndi kusintha kosintha kwa moyo kumatha mukangowona mwana wanu wakhanda akugona pafupi ndi inu!
Zimangotengera inu ndi mnzanu - momwe mungathetsere kusokonezeka kwa ubale mukakhala ndi pakati ndikusangalala ndi gawo limodzi ndi mnzanu.