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Mwinamwake mwakhala mukuganiza kuti chithandizo cha mabanja ndi chiyani? kaya upangiri waubwenzi kapena ayi, ndipo cholinga cha upangiri wa mabanja ndi chani?
Kusamalira maubwenzi omwe ali pamavuto kudzera pama psychology atha kutchedwa kuti chithandizo cha maanja kapena upangiri waubwenzi. Cholinga cha upangiri wa ubale ndi kuti ubwezeretse ubale wokhala pamavuto osiyanasiyana mpaka magwiridwe antchito abwino.
Kuthandiza ubale mu Uphungu umayamba ndi kuzindikira chomwe chikuyambitsa mavuto m'banjamo kenako ndikupanga njira yothandizira kuti athe kuziziritsa. Izi zimathandizanso banjali kuti libwezeretse ubale wawo kukhala wathanzi.
Ubwenzi wapakati pa mlangizi ndi banja uyenera kumangika pakukhulupirirana ndi kulemekezana. Awiriwo atsimikiziridwa kuti azisunga chinsinsi chonse poti mlangizi amapereka malo otetezeka momwe amatha kufotokoza momasuka zakukhosi kwawo, nkhawa zawo, ndi zovuta zawo.
Mlangizi amakupatsani nthawi yokwanira, yosamala komanso yachifundo, kuwonetsa kumvetsetsa komanso kumvetsetsa popeza zopweteketsa komanso zovuta zimagawana. Pamene upangiri ukupita patsogolo, mlangizi atha kufunsa mafunso omasuka kuti akuthandizeni kuti mumve zambiri.
Nthawi zonse mlangizi amamvetsera mwachidwi, akukutsutsani mofatsa ngati kuli koyenera ndikupatsirani chithandizo chonse. Ngati mukulimbana ndi chilichonse chomwe chikukhudza moyo wanu komanso momwe mumayanjanirana ndi ena, ndiye kuti upangiri waubwenzi ukulimbikitsidwa.
Madera omwe upangiri wa maubwenzi ungakhale wopindulitsa kwambiri ndiosiyanasiyana, kutengera mavuto omwe akumana nawo mbanja kapena ubale.
Njira zothandizira maanja kapena Njira zoperekera upangiri kwa maanja zimasiyanasiyana kutengera mtundu wa mankhwala.
Zina mwa njira zomwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri ndizophatikiza ma psychoanalytic maanja, mankhwala ogwirizana ndi maanja, ma analytical mabanja othandizira, othandizira ophatikizika amachitidwe, othandizira azikhalidwe zamaganizidwe, komanso chithandizo chamabanja azikhalidwe.
Cholinga cha upangiri wa maanja
Uphungu wa maanja ndiwosasankha komanso wopanda tsankho, ndipo ayesayesa kuwonetsa nkhawa zanu ndi nkhawa zanu munjira yoti muthane ndi vuto lanu.
Zili ngati kuyang'ana pagalasi. Kodi mungaganizire momwe zimakhalira zisanachitike magalasi? Anthu mwina sanadziwe momwe amawonekera pokhapokha atapita kukayang'ana mawonekedwe awo mumtsinje kapena munyanja.
Nthawi zina timakhala china chake chopweteka m'mayanjano athu chomwe chimatibweretsera mavuto ambiri ndipo sitingathe kuziwona bwino - monga mukakhala ndi chakudya cham'mawa chotsalira patsaya lanu, kapena bowa wina atakhazikika pakati pa mano anu akutsogolo, ndipo mumapita kumsonkhano wofunika chonchi.
Zomwe mungafune ndi mnzanu wokoma mtima kuti akutengereni pang'onopang'ono pagalasi ndikukuwonetsani zomwe muyenera kuchita. Ndi momwe alili phungu.
Kudzera mwa alangizi othandizira atithandizire kuwona "smudges and snags" muubwenzi wanu zomwe zikuwononga mphamvu zathu, kutibera kudzidalira komanso kudzidalira komanso kutilepheretsa kukhala opambana momwe tingakhalire.
Cholinga ndi cholinga cha chilichonse upangiri wa maubwenzi ndikuwathandiza awiriwa kuti akafike pamalo pomwe amayambiranso kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi.
Chifukwa chiyani muyenera kufunafuna upangiri waubwenzi
Zovuta zomwe upangiri wa maubale ukhoza kukhala nazo sizingagonjetsedwe, zomwe zimatengera kulimba mtima kuvomereza kuti china chake chalakwika mu ubale wanu ndipo mukufuna thandizo.
Pali zifukwa zambiri chibwenzi chingakhale pamavuto, ndipo ngati inu ndi mnzanuyo mupanga njira yothandizirana yothandizirana ndi mabanja mutha kulimbitsa ubale wanu ndikupulumutsa banja lanu kuti lisagwe.
Nazi zifukwa zina zomwe muyenera kufunira chithandizo cha maanja:
1. Kulimbitsa kumvetsetsa ndi kulumikizana
Mlingo wokhutira womwe mumakhala nawo m'banja umadalira kwambiri inu ndi anzanu kuti mutha kugawana ndi kufotokoza malingaliro awo ndi momwe akumvera.
Kusinthana moyenera malingaliro anu, zokhumba zanu ndi momwe mumamvera ndi mnzanu ndikofunikira kuti banja liziyenda bwino. Ngakhale mutakhala achichepere apabanja, pamakhala zochitika zambiri muubwenzi wawo momwe samakondana.
Kudzera muupangiri waubwenzi mutha kutero dziwani zopinga zomwe mumakumana nazo pakulankhula kwanu ndipo phunzirani njira zothandiza komanso zothandiza polumikizirana.
2. Kubwezeretsani kulumikizana kwamaganizidwe ndi thupi
Chiyanjano chikukula, chimasokonekera m'maganizo komanso mthupi kapena pogonana. Ntchito zathu za tsiku ndi tsiku, zokhumudwitsa zazing'ono, kukhumudwa pakati pazinthu zina zimapangitsa ubale wathu kumasula ubale wawo wamalingaliro ndi wathupi.
Muubwenzi wa nthawi yayitali maanja amakonda kuthera nthawi yocheperana wina ndi mzake ngati njira yopewera zikhalidwe zosasangalatsa. Kupatukana kwamalingaliro ndi kuthupi koteroko kumatha kukhala koyenera kuubwenzi ndikupatsa onse awiri mpweya wopumira.
Komabe, ndikofunikanso kudziwa nthawi ndi momwe mungalekere kukhala motalikirana nthawi isanathe. Uphungu waubwenzi ungathandize maanja kuti mvetsetsa momwe ndi momwe mungabwezeretsere kulumikizana kwa malingaliro ndi kwakuthupi muubwenzi wanu.
3. Kusamalira zoyembekezera
Kuyembekeza kapena kuyesetsa kuti mukhale pachibwenzi popanda mikangano ndikuyembekeza kosatheka. Ngakhale ubale ungakhale wabwino bwanji sungakhale wopanda mikangano kwathunthu.
Kuyembekezera zomwe mumayenera kukhala pachibwenzi sizomveka komabe, Kuti banja liziyenda bwino pamafunika kuyang'anira zomwe akuyembekezerana kuchokera kwa wina ndi mnzake.
Mukakhala pachibwenzi muyenera kuvomereza zolakwika zomwe anzanu amachita ndikuphunzira kuzisiya zikalephera kukwaniritsa zomwe mukuyembekezera.
Mankhwala a m'banja angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi zokhumudwitsa kuti mutha kuchitira umboni muubwenzi wanu. Njira zothandizira maanja angakuphunzitseni momwe mungakwaniritsire zoyembekezera zanu komanso yang'anani pazomwe mumakonda kupembedza za mnzanu.