Zamkati
- 1. Ukwati umatanthauza kugwirizana
- 2. Ukwati umatanthauza kuleka kudzikonda kwako
- 3. Tanthauzo la banja ndikuti akhale amodzi
- 4. Ukwati umatanthauza kupanga m'badwo watsopano
- 5. Ukwati umatanthauza kusintha, kuphunzira ndikukula
Kodi fayilo yatanthauzo lenileni la ukwati? Kupeza tanthauzo ladziko lonse lapansi, tanthauzo lenileni laukwati itha kukhala yovuta popeza pali malingaliro ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana chomwe ukwati umatanthauza.
Mwachitsanzo -
Pulogalamu ya tanthauzo labwino laukwati monga momwe amaperekera Wikipedia imati "ukwati, womwe umatchedwanso kuti ukwati kapena ukwati, ndi mgwirizano pakati pa okwatirana kapena mwamwambo".
Mbali inayi, mavesi a m'Baibulo onena za ukwati kufotokozera ukwati monga Pangano Lopatulika pamaso pa Mulungu.
Komabe, kusiyana komwe kulipo mukutanthauzira kwaukwati wabwino, kumachitika kuchokera pachikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe ngakhalenso chikhalidwe kuchokera kwa munthu ndi munthu. Maganizo ndi matanthauzidwe aukwati asinthanso kwambiri mzaka zambiri zapitazi.
Koma kodi banja linachokera kuti? Nthawi zambiri, aliyense amvetsetsa kuti tanthauzo la banja ndi pamene anthu awiri amalonjeza pagulu kapena kudzipereka kuti azikhala limodzi ndikugawana miyoyo yawo m'njira yovomerezeka mwalamulo, mwamakhalidwe komanso nthawi zina mwachipembedzo.
M'mawu osavuta, tanthauzo laukwati koma kugawana miyoyo iwiri kumaphatikizapo zikwizikwi za mbali zophatikizira kulumikizana kwa matupi awo, miyoyo yawo ndi mizimu yawo mwamgwirizano wathupi, wamaganizidwe, wamaganizidwe ndi uzimu.
Ndiye zikafika pakupeza fayilo ya tanthauzo lenileni laukwati, lomwe ndi losangalatsa komanso losangalatsa, komanso kupeza mayankho a mafunso ngati awa kodi Mulungu amati chiyani paukwati? Kapena kodi ukwati umatanthauzanji kwa inu?, Pali zinthu zisanu zomwe zimafotokoza bwino izi.
Tsopano tiyeni tiwone chimodzi ndi chimodzi.
1. Ukwati umatanthauza kugwirizana
Kodi tanthauzo lenileni la lingaliro laukwati?
Pali mwambi womwe umati 'zingatheke bwanji kuti anthu awiri ayende limodzi ulendo pokhapokha atakhala kuti agwirizana kutero?' Ndi mmenenso zilili ndi banja. Anthu awiri akaganiza zokwatirana, payenera kukhala mgwirizano pakati pawo.
M'mbuyomu, mgwirizanowu ukhoza kuti udakwaniritsidwa ndi am'banja mukamakonzekera ukwati. Masiku ano, komabe, ndi anthu awiri okhawo omwe amapanga chisankho ndikupanga mgwirizano wokhala limodzi moyo wawo wonse.
Pambuyo pa funso lofunika kwambiri 'kodi ungakwatiwe ndi ine?' wafunsidwa ndikuyankhidwa movomerezeka, pamenepo pali mafunso enanso ambiri ndi mapangano oti akwaniritsidwe.
Awiriwo ayenera kugwirizana kuti ndi mtundu wanji wa ukwati wovomerezeka mgwirizano adzagwiritsa ntchito, monga gulu la katundu kapena mgwirizano wapaukwati. Mapangano ena ofunikira angaphatikizepo kukhala ndi ana limodzi kapena ayi, ndipo ngati angachuluke.
Ayenera kuvomerezana momwe achitira ndi kufotokoza chikhulupiriro chawo ndi zomwe adzaphunzitse ana awo.
Koma nthawi yomweyo, ngati mgwirizano sungakwaniritsidwe, onse awiri akuyenera kuvomereza kuti sakugwirizana mwanjira yokhwima kapena ayesetse kukambirana ngati mapangano sangakwaniritsidwe kuti asalole kuti zinthuzi zikhale mikangano nthawi yayitali thamanga.
2. Ukwati umatanthauza kuleka kudzikonda kwako
Mukadzakwatirana, mumazindikira kuti sizotengera inu nokha. Izi ndi tanthauzo lenileni la ukwati momwe 'I' amakhala 'We'.
M'masiku anu osakwatiwa, mutha kupanga mapulani anu, kubwera ndikupita momwe mudasankhira, ndikupanga zisankho zanu zambiri malinga ndi zokhumba zanu.
Tsopano popeza mwakwatirana muli ndi mnzanu woti muganizire makumi awiri mphambu anayi mphambu zisanu ndi ziwiri. Kaya ndi kuphika kapena kugula chakudya chamadzulo, choti muchite kumapeto kwa sabata, kapena komwe mungapite patchuthi - malingaliro anu onse tsopano ali ndi kulemera.
Mwanjira imeneyi, banja losangalala ndi imodzi mwa njira zabwino kwambiri zothanirana ndi kudzikonda.
Maukwati omwe amagwira ntchito bwino kwambiri komanso osangalatsa kwambiri ndi omwe onse awiri ali odzipereka, akufunafuna chisangalalo ndi moyo wa mnzawoyo.
Malingaliro aukwati wa makumi asanu ndi asanu samatsogolera ku kukwaniritsidwa ndi kukhutira. Zikafika pakupeza fayilo ya tanthauzo lenileni laukwati, zonse kapena palibe. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi, ngati m'modzi wa inu akupereka zonse ndipo wina akupereka zochepa kapena sanapereke kalikonse, mungafune thandizo kuti mupeze malire ndikupeza tsamba limodzi.
3. Tanthauzo la banja ndikuti akhale amodzi
Mbali ina ya tanthauzo lenileni laukwati ndiye kuti kuphatikiza kamodzi ndikofanana. Ndikusakanikirana kwa miyoyo iwiri pamlingo uliwonse, chowonekera kwambiri ndikuthupi, komwe kugonana kumadzetsa mgwirizano waukulu pamene ukwati watha.
Ndipo, ichi ndiye cholinga chofunikira kwambiri chaukwati.
Zomangiriza izi zimafikira kupitilira zakuthupi, chifukwa momwe amakhudzidwira, malingaliro ndi uzimu zimakhudzidwanso. Komabe, tanthauzo lenileni laukwati, lomwe likukhala banja silikutanthauza kuti mungataye dzina lanu.
M'malo mwake, tanthauzo laukwati limatanthauza kumaliza ndi kuthandizana wina ndi mnzake mpaka mutha kukhala nonse limodzi kuposa momwe mungakhalire osakwatira.
Umodzi samangochitika zokha mukayamba kukhalira limodzi - umafunikira khama komanso nthawi yayitali yocheza limodzi, kudziwana bwino.
Mukamaphunzira momwe mungayankhulirane bwino komanso momwe mungathetsere kusamvana kwanu posachedwa, mudzapeza umodzi wanu komanso ubale wanu ukukula. Ndikofunikanso kufotokoza zomwe mukuyembekezera bwino ndikupeza malo apakati popanga zisankho.
4. Ukwati umatanthauza kupanga m'badwo watsopano
Kodi cholinga chokwatirana ndi chiyani kwa mabanja ambiri?
Kwa anthu ambiri okwatirana, yankho la chomwe chiri ukwati, lagona mwa mwayi wapadera kwambiri komanso wopambana wopatsidwa kwa okwatirana - ndi mwayi wobereka ana padziko lapansi. Ukwati wotetezeka ndi wachimwemwe ndiye nthawi yabwino kwambiri yolerera mwana.
Banja, lomwe limagwirizana pophunzira ndi kuphunzitsa ana awo, liziwaphunzitsa kukhala achikulire okhazikika omwe angathe kukhala othandiza pagulu. Mbali iyi yopanga m'badwo wamtsogolo imatha ndipo imadzetsadi tanthauzo lenileni m'banja.
Komanso, kulera ana, monga mbali zina, sizimangochitika zokha kapena mosavuta. M'malo mwake, zovuta zakulera ndizodziwika bwino chifukwa chokhazikitsa mavuto m'banja.
Koma, mumamvetsetsa tanthauzo lenileni laukwati ndi chikondi mukadzakhala makolo onyada kwa ana omwe mumawakonda.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti muziika zinthu zofunika patsogolo pomwe ana ayamba kubwera - kumbukirani kuti mnzanu nthawi zonse amakhala woyamba, kenako ana anu.
Mukasunga izi momveka bwino, banja lanu likhala lolimba komanso lodalitsika ngakhale chisa chikasowa.
Tsopano pali zikhulupiriro zotsutsana kuti zikafika kwa okwatirana ndi ana, ana ayenera kukhala oyamba chifukwa achikulire amafunikira chidwi chocheperako ndipo amatha kupanga zisankho zawo koma nthawi yomweyo, maanja ambiri amakhulupiriranso kuti ndi njira ina.
Amadziwa kuti ana atha kufunsa kuti awasamalire koma kuwapanga pakati pa chilengedwe chanu sichinthu choyenera kuchita. Banja labwino pomwe aliyense amaganizira za mnzake, zimathandizira kuti maubale azikhala bwino komanso kukhala ndi ana abwino.
Kumvetsetsa zofunikira zanu zomwe zimasintha pakapita nthawi ndi tanthauzo lenileni laukwati ndipo ichi ndi chinsinsi chokhala ndi banja losangalala.
5. Ukwati umatanthauza kusintha, kuphunzira ndikukula
Kumvetsetsa tanthauzo laukwati sikophweka pokhapokha mutakwatirana. Mukasaka intaneti pa banja tanthauzo, mupeza matanthauzidwe ambiri a izi. Koma, ndi okwatirana okha omwe amamvetsetsa tanthauzo lake.
Kuyambira pomwe munena kuti, 'Ndimachita', moyo wanu umatenga njira ina. Chilichonse chomwe mumadziwa musanakwatirane chimasintha.
Kusintha ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri pamoyo, kuphatikiza kukhazikitsidwa kwaukwati. Kusintha ndichizindikiro choti china chake chili chamoyo monga zinthu zopanda moyo zokha sizisintha.
Chifukwa chake sangalalani ndi nyengo zonse zosintha zaukwati wanu, kuyambira nthawi yaukwati mpaka chaka choyamba, zaka zaunyamata, zaka zaunyamata kenako zaka zakukoleji, kenako zaka zanu zagolide mukamapita pantchito yopuma pantchito komanso madalitso okhalitsa ukalamba wanu manja a ena palimodzi.
Ganizirani zaukwati wanu ngati kanthanga kamene kamabzalidwa patsiku lanu laukwati.
Pambuyo pake, imayamba kuphukira ndikukankhira molimba mtima m'nthaka yakuda, monyadira ndikuwonetsa masamba ochepa. Pang ono koma pang'ono ndi pang'ono pakadutsa milungu, miyezi ndi zaka, mphukira yaying'ono yamtengo imakhala thunthu lomwe limakula ndikulimba.
Potsirizira pake tsiku lina mudzazindikira kuti zipatso zanu zasanduka mtengo wolimba ndi wamthunzi, wopatsa malo ogona ndi chisangalalo, osati kwa inu nokha komanso kwa ena.
Nanga tanthauzo lenileni laukwati, malinga ndi inu?
Mwachidule, tanthauzo lenileni laukwati ndikuvomera mnzanuyo ndikusintha zochitika zosiyanasiyana zomwe mungakumane nazo m'banja kuti zitheke. Kumasulira kwa Baibulo kwaukwati kumatenganso lingaliro lofunikira ili.