Zamkati
- 1. Sewerani Mlandu Wolakwika
- 2. Kulankhulana Mosalemekezana
- 3. Ikani Ubale Wawo Pomaliza
- 4. Sungani Zolemba
- 5. Dziyerekezereni Kwa Ena
- 6. Pangani zisankho zikuluzikulu osakondana
- 7. Kukondana
Chimwemwe chenicheni muubwenzi si nthawi yoyamba ya chibwenzi kapena nthawi yaukwati, yosangalatsa monga momwe ziliri. Chimwemwe chenicheni ndichokhutira chozama, chokhalitsa chomwe chimasokoneza ubale wanu tsiku lililonse, ngakhale nthawi zikavuta. Zikumveka zosatheka? M'malo mwake chisangalalo cha nthawi yayitali chimatheka - osangochisiya mwamwayi.Chinsinsi cha ubale wosangalala ndikumvetsera ndi kumanga maziko olimba a kukhulupirirana ndi ulemu.
Monga kumanga nyumba, ubale sungapulumuke ngati maziko ali ofooka. Mabanja achimwemwe amadziwa izi, ndipo amadziwa zomwe ayenera kupewa kuti akhalebe achimwemwe limodzi. Ngati mukufuna kukhazikitsa maziko olimba pachibwenzi chanu, onetsetsani kuti mupewe zinthu 7 izi zomwe mabanja achimwemwe samachita:
1. Sewerani Mlandu Wolakwika
Masewera olakwika ndi omwe aliyense amatuluka wotayika. Kaya simukugwirizana zakuti ndalama zimapita kuti, kapena kukhumudwa komanso kukhumudwitsidwa pantchito zomwe zikufunika kuti zichitike, masewera olakwika sakupezani. M'malo mongosewera, dziwani momwe mungakhalire pansi ndikukambirana momwe mukumvera komanso zosowa zanu mwaulemu komanso motetezeka. Tengani udindo pa moyo wanu. Ngati mukukhumudwa kapena kupsinjika, musamuimbe mlandu mnzanu pazomwe mukumva, kapena kuwapangitsa kuti azisangalala. M'malo mwake, khalani ndi nthawi yopenda momwe mumamvera ndikudziwa chifukwa chake mwakwiya komanso zomwe mukufuna kuti mumve bwino. Kwaniritsani zosowa zanu momwe mungathere, ndipo komwe mukufuna thandizo la mnzanu kapena mgwirizano, pitani nawo modekha komanso mokoma mtima.
2. Kulankhulana Mosalemekezana
Kulankhulana mopanda ulemu kumangowasiya onse awiri akumva kuvulala komanso kukwiya. Mnzanuyo ndi munthu amene mumamukonda ndipo mwasankha kuti mugawane naye moyo wanu - akuyenera kulankhulidwa mwaulemu komanso chisamaliro, chimodzimodzi inunso. Ngati mukumenya nkhondo, kumbukirani mawu omwe mwasankha kugwiritsa ntchito. Ngati zingafunike, perekani nthawi yopumira kuti musonkhanitse malingaliro anu. Kugwiritsa ntchito mawu ankhanza kapena opanda pake pankhondo kuli ngati kuphwanya mbale pansi: Ngakhale mutamupepesa kangati, simungathe kuyibwezera momwe idalili.
3. Ikani Ubale Wawo Pomaliza
Chibwenzi chanu ndi gawo lofunikira pamoyo wanu, ndipo chimafunikira kukusamalirani, chisamaliro, ndi chidwi chanu chonse. Mukayika ubale wanu pambuyo pomaliza ntchito yanu, zosangalatsa, kapena anzanu, pamapeto pake udzawonongeka. Osangotenga mnzanu mopepuka kapena ingoganizirani kuti azikupezerani mukamaliza ndi zinthu zonse zomwe mukufuna kuchita. Wokondedwa wanu akuyenera kukhala nanu bwino, osati zomwe zatsala mutatha kuchita china chilichonse. Inde moyo umakhala wotanganidwa nthawi zina. Muyenera kudzipereka kwina, kapena mukungofunika nthawi ndi zosangalatsa zanu kapena anzanu. Ndizachilengedwe. Musalole kuti ubale wanu usokoneze mndandanda wazofunikira - ngati mukufuna kuti ukhale wathanzi, uzikhala pamwamba.
4. Sungani Zolemba
Kodi nthawi zonse mumakumbutsa wokondedwa wanu za ndalama zomwe mumabweretsa? Kodi nthawi zonse amabweretsa nthawi yoti azichita maudindo ena kunyumba? Kusunga mphambu ndi njira yachangu yolimbitsira mkwiyo muubwenzi wanu. Chibwenzi chanu sichopikisana, ndichothandizana. M'malo mongolemba, yesetsani kukumbukira zomwe zingathandize paubwenzi wanu. Kodi ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri kwa nonsenu? Yang'anani pa izi m'malo mongolekana wina ndi mnzake.
5. Dziyerekezereni Kwa Ena
Pankhani ya maubale, ndikosavuta kuganiza kuti udzu ndi wobiriwira mbali inayo. Mabanja achimwemwe amadziwa kuti kufananizira ndi njira imodzi yopita kukakumana osakhutira ndi ubale wanu. Ngati mukukwiya chifukwa Bob amagula Jane mphatso zamtengo wapatali, kapena Sylvia ndi Mikey atsala pang'ono kutenga tchuthi chawo chachiwiri chaka chino, siyani. M'malo mongoganizira zomwe mumalakalaka, khalani ndi nthawi yoyamikira zonse zomwe muli nazo. Fufuzani zinthu zonse zomwe mumakonda zokhudza mnzanu komanso ubale wanu. Lolani kuti ena aziyang'ana paubwenzi wawo pomwe inu muziika zanu pa zanu.
6. Pangani zisankho zikuluzikulu osakondana
Mukakhala pachibwenzi, mumakhala ogwirizana. Kaya mwakhala m'banja zaka 20 kapena mukuganiza zokhala limodzi, chibwenzi ndi mgwirizano. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti muphatikize wokondedwa wanu pazisankho zazikuluzikulu. Kaya mukufuna kusinthana ndi othandizira zamagetsi, kapena mukuganiza zosintha ntchito kapena kugula kwakukulu, khalani ndi nthawi yoti mukhale pansi ndikulankhula ndi mnzanu zisanachitike.
7. Kukondana
Mabanja achimwemwe amadziwa kuti kumangokhalira kumangokhalira kungodandaula. Kukulitsa mnzanu kumangowanyoza ndikuwapangitsa kumva kuti akumangokhalira kukalipira. Inde nthawi zina inu ndi mnzanu mumachita zinthu zomwe zimakwiyitsana. Chinyengo ndikuphunzira kufunsa zomwe mukufuna ndikulankhula mokoma mtima ndi ulemu. Ndibwinonso kusiya zazing'ono. Phunzirani kuganizira kwambiri zinthu zofunika kwambiri m'malo molola zinthu zing'onozing'ono kukukhumudwitsani.
Chimwemwe chanthawi yayitali chimatheka. Pewani izi zomwe zikuberani chisangalalo ndikusangalala ndi ubale wanu.