Zamkati
- Zinthu zofunika kuziganizira mukamatha chibwenzi chanthawi yayitali
- 1. Lankhulani za banja lanu komanso ubale wanu
- 2. Kodi mutha kugawa chuma chanu mosavuta?
- 3. Kodi muli ndi ana kapena ziweto?
- Zizindikiro zakuti ubale wautali watha
- 1. Simulankhulaninso
- 2. Mmodzi kapena nonse mumaganiza zokhala ndi chibwenzi
- 3. Kugonana kwakhala ntchito
- Kuthetsa chibwenzicho mwamtendere
- 1. Pangani lingaliro lokondera mbali inayo
- 2. Khalani ndi pulani
- 3. Kambiranani nkhaniyi maso ndi maso
- 5. Tulukani mukangotha banja
Pali anthu ena omwe amakhala pachibwenzi cha nthawi yayitali chomwe chimatha zaka, koma sichimathera muukwati. Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe sizichitika, ngakhale awiriwa akukondanadi, koma pamabwera mfundo mukangowonongerana nthawi. Kutha chibwenzi kwa nthawi yayitali sikophweka, koma kukhala ndi wina ndikuyembekeza kuti zinthu zisinthe kumakhala kovuta kwambiri.
Pali anthu omwe sangathe kulowa m'banja ngakhale atakhala kale ndi wokondedwa wawo kwa zaka zambiri. Anthu omwe ali ndi mavuto amtundu wamaubwenzi monga omwe amapewa chikondi komanso omwe ali ndi matenda a Asperger amakonda kwambiri.
Zinthu zofunika kuziganizira mukamatha chibwenzi chanthawi yayitali
Pali mbali ziwiri munkhani iliyonse, ndipo pakakhala kuti ubale wautali watha, m'modzi kapena onse awiri sakusangalalanso ndipo amangosunga mawonekedwe kuti angokhala limodzi.
1. Lankhulani za banja lanu komanso ubale wanu
Mabanja ena amaganiza kuti chifukwa akhala limodzi kwa nthawi yayitali, amatha kudziwiranirana zomwe anzawo angaganize. Malingaliro awa nthawi zonse amakhala olakwika. Kulankhulana ndi kukambirana za chibwenzi chanu.
2. Kodi mutha kugawa chuma chanu mosavuta?
Anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi cha nthawi yayitali, makamaka omwe akukhala limodzi atha kukhala kuti amapeza ndalama limodzi. Izi zingaphatikizepo, nyumba zawo, magalimoto, zida zachuma, ndi chuma china chomwe chingafune njira yayitali komanso yosokoneza kupatukana.
3. Kodi muli ndi ana kapena ziweto?
Mosiyana ndi chuma chakuthupi, ziweto ndi ana aang'ono sizigawana. Kodi mwakonzeka kuyika miyoyo yawo pazowonjezera kuti apatukane ndi wokondedwa wanu?
Zizindikiro zakuti ubale wautali watha
Kutha ubale wanthawi yayitali ndi munthu amene mumamukonda si lingaliro lomwe muyenera kupanga mopepuka. Ngati mumamukondabe munthuyo, ndiye kuti pali chiyembekezo kuti zinthu zikhala bwino. Koma iyenera kukhala njira ziwiri. Ngati munthu amene mumamukonda ali pachibwenzi ndipo ndinu wachitatu. Ichi ndi chifukwa chomveka chothetsera, makamaka ngati zakhala zikuchitika kwakanthawi.
Kuti pambali, mosasamala zifukwa, pali zizindikilo zambiri zakuti mwatsala pang'ono kutha chibwenzi chanthawi yayitali. Nayi mndandanda wachidule.
1. Simulankhulaninso
Sizongokambirana mozama za tanthauzo la moyo ndi chiyembekezo chanu ndi maloto anu, simumalankhulanso zazing'ono zanyengo. Mumadziŵa mosamala kuti musalankhule wina ndi mnzake kuti muteteze mikangano.
2. Mmodzi kapena nonse mumaganiza zokhala ndi chibwenzi
Ngati simulumikizana ndi mnzanu, malingaliro monga kukhala ndi chibwenzi amayamba kudzaza malingaliro anu. Mumasowa kumverera kotenthetsa ndikufunafuna ena omwe amakupangitsani kumva kuti mumakondedwa komanso otetezeka. Ndizotheka kuti inu kapena mnzanu mwapeza kale wina ngati bulangeti lanu. Ngakhale palibe msonkhano wokhudza kugonana womwe udachitika (komabe), koma inu, mnzanu, kapena nonse, mukuchita kale kusakhulupirika.
3. Kugonana kwakhala ntchito
Kupatula kogonana pafupipafupi, m'modzi kapena nonse awiri mumapewa kukhudzana. Mukamaliza kugona limodzi, zimakhala zosasangalatsa komanso zosasangalatsa. Kukopana kosavuta kwatha, ndipo kusewera kwakhala kosasangalatsa. Pali nthawi zina pomwe mungakonde kudya kachilombo kusiyana ndi kugonana ndi wokondedwa wanu wa nthawi yayitali.
Kuthetsa chibwenzicho mwamtendere
Ngati inu kapena mnzanu mukuwonetsa zizindikiro zothetsa chibwenzi cha nthawi yayitali, ndiye nthawi yoti muchite kapena kuswa. Mabanja ambiri amadutsa m'malo owopsa makamaka mchaka cha 4 ndi 7. Ngati mwatsimikiza kale kuti muzimalize, Nazi zinthu zomwe muyenera kuchita kuti muwonetsetse kuti simumawononga ndalama zambiri kwa maloya.
1. Pangani lingaliro lokondera mbali inayo
Simunganene kuti mukufuna kutha, ndikusunga nyumba, galimoto, ndi amphaka. Ngakhale atakhala kuti ndi anu, mnzanuyo amayenera kuti adapanga ndalama zambiri komanso malingaliro pazaka zambiri posamalira zonsezi, kuphatikizapo amphaka. Ngati mukuganiza zokhala zodzikonda ndikukankhira mnzanu pomwe mukusunga zonse, ndiye kuti kuli bwino mukhale ndi loya wabwino.
Kukhala ndi keke yanu ndikudya ndi njira yovuta. Kuthetsa chibwenzicho kumathetsa chibwenzicho, koma chibwenzi chanu sichitha mpaka mutalandira khothi. Kukhazikika mikhalidwe yomweyo kumalepheretsa kusokonekera, ndipo mutha kuchokapo ngati abwenzi.
2. Khalani ndi pulani
Ngati mukufuna kuchoka panyumba ndikuwasiya anawo, ganizirani za zovuta zina, ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mwapangapo kale kuti muthe.
Kutuluka m'nyumba ndi kophweka, komabe mumafunabe kogona ndi kukonzekera ntchito mawa. Kugona m'galimoto yanu ndikusamba muofesi sikulakwa. Ndikofunika kukhala ndi dongosolo latsatanetsatane lazomwe mungachite mukamaliza chibwenzi chanthawi yayitali. Kungotuluka ndi kugogoda pakhomo la mnzanu ola limodzi pambuyo pake kungabweretse mavuto osakonzekera.
3. Kambiranani nkhaniyi maso ndi maso
Kutumiza meseji kuti mukufuna kuti mupatukane ndi wamantha komanso wopanda ulemu kwa munthu amene adakupatsani zaka zambiri pamoyo wawo. Kusudzulana sikophweka, koma kukhala pachibwenzi ndi wakale wanu, makamaka ngati muli ndi ana, ndikofunikira mtsogolo mwa aliyense. Gawo loyamba lokhalira limodzi mwamtendere ndikutha ndi kulekana mwaulemu.
Chitani izi mwamseri ndipo musakweze mawu anu. Chifukwa chomwe anthu ambiri amafunira kutha ndi maso ndikumangotsutsana. Komabe, ngati mwaganiza zothetsa chibwenzicho, ndiye kuti palibe chomwe mungakangane.
Kulimbana ndi kuthetsa ubale wautali ndi njira yokhayokha komanso yovuta. Kusungabe ubale wosalowerera ndale ndi wakale wanu kungathandize nonse kupitiliza.
5. Tulukani mukangotha banja
Chomaliza chomwe mukufuna kuchita mutathetsa chibwenzi chanthawi yayitali ndikupitiliza kukhala limodzi ngati palibe chomwe chidachitika. Munthu amene akufuna kuti banja lithe ayenera kutuluka ndikugwira ntchito yogawa katundu wanu ndi zinthu zina wamba. Ngati muli ndi ana, yambani kukambirana za makonzedwe ndikuonetsetsa kuti ana akudziwa momwe ziriri.
Osangolekana kenako ndikukhulupirira kuti muli ndi ufulu wochita chilichonse chomwe mukufuna. Izi ndizowona pamlingo winawake, koma osati kwa ana komanso katundu wamba ngati nyumba. Kumbukirani kuti malingaliro ali ndi zolakwika, zimagwira ntchito zonse ziwiri. Muyenerabe kuchita zinthu mogwirizana mpaka zonse zitathetsedwa.
Kutha chibwenzi kwakanthawi sichinthu chophweka, koma pamakhala milandu yambiri pomwe ndichinthu choyenera kuchita makamaka ngati mmodzi kapena nonse a inu ndi wankhanza, ozunza anzawo, kapena okhulupirirana kale ndi wina. Cholinga chanu ndikuwonetsetsa kuti chibwenzicho chimatha mwamtendere. Ziphuphu zomwe mumapanga sizikhala tsunami, zomwe zimamira aliyense ozungulira.