Zamkati
- 1. Bwerezani mobwerezabwereza zomwe zinayambitsa kupatukana
- 2. Khalani ndi nthawi yokhala panokha
- 3. Osangothamangira kukachita zibwenzi pambuyo poti mwasiyana
- 4. Musatope ndi banja lanu
- 5. Osatsanulira aliyense zakukhosi kwanu
- 6. Muyenera anzanu kuti akwaniritse
- 7. Mwaiwalika za foni kapena zoulutsira mawu kwakanthawi
- 8. Yesetsani kuzolowera ndalama zochepa, kuchepa pang'ono komanso nthawi yocheperako ndi ana anu
Zimatenga nthawi kuti muchepetse ululu womwe kulekana kumayambitsa. Kwa olowa m'banja osudzulana, zimangokhala ngati kutha kwa dziko lapansi pamene chikondi chanu chatuluka pakhomo limenelo sichidzabwereranso. Chinthu chimodzi choseketsa kutha ndikuti chimasintha kwambiri moyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku, ngakhale ubale wanu sunali wabwino kwambiri. Mwachidule, ndichimodzi mwazinthu zosautsa kwambiri m'miyoyo yathu; imodzi yomwe ingakuyendetseni mosavuta. Ngakhale kutayidwa kumayamwa kwambiri, nthawi zambiri kumakhala kwanzeru kupuma pang'ono ndikuganiza zothana ndi mavuto atatha. Umunthu uliwonse umakonda kuthana nawo mosiyana pang'ono. Kwa olowerera kunja uko, tili ndi upangiri wa akatswiri asanu ndi atatu omwe angakuthandizeni kupyola munthawi zovutitsa za kutha kwa banja. Pezani nthawi yowerengera, kuwatengera ndikuwapangitsa kukhala ngati gawo la moyo wanu.
1. Bwerezani mobwerezabwereza zomwe zinayambitsa kupatukana
Khulupirirani kapena ayi, otsogolera ndi akatswiri pakubwezeretsa kwamaganizidwe. Mwakutero, amakonda kuganiziranso zomwe adachita m'mbuyomu komanso zisankho zomwe adapanga zaka zapitazo muubwenzi. Ndipo monga a Laurie Helgoe (wama psychologist komanso wolemba wa Introvert Power: Chifukwa Chomwe Moyo Wanu Wamkati Ndi Mphamvu Yanu Yobisika) amanenera, owerenga milandu ali ndi kufunitsitsa kulingalira moona mtima zochitika zawo zakale, monga kutha kwa banja. Kufunitsitsa kotereku kumadzionetsera kumathandiza kwambiri pakutha. Ngakhale zingakupangitseni kukhala kovuta kusunthira poyamba, kudziwonetsera nokha kumapangitsa njira yanu kuwonekera kuubwenzi wotsatira. Ndipo ngati kubwereza kwamaganizidwe kumakhala kotopetsa, ndiye nthawi yoti mupumulitse mutu wanu.
2. Khalani ndi nthawi yokhala panokha
Kudzipatula kumatha kupangitsa anthu kuganiza kuti simukhala pagulu, ndinu okhumudwa kapena openga kwenikweni. Osadandaula kwambiri ndi zomwe amaganiza chifukwa zimapindulitsirani kukhala ndi nthawi yopuma banja litatha. Omwe amafotokozedwa bwino kwambiri ngati kubisala kwamtima, ino ndi nthawi yomwe maukwati osudzulana amatha kuchita bwino. Chimodzi mwazolinga zazikulu za kubisala mu mtima ndikuti zimakupatsani nthawi yambiri ndi chipinda choti mudzipezenso mutasudzulana. Kuti mupindule kwambiri ndi kubisala kwamtima, ndikulimbikitsidwa kuti musankhe kusinkhasinkha mwakachetechete. Ndicho, mudzakhala ndi nthawi yokwanira yosinkhasinkha za kutayika kwanu ndikusintha kwa Moyo wanu.
3. Osangothamangira kukachita zibwenzi pambuyo poti mwasiyana
Ambiri aife timakonda kuthamangira muubwenzi wina titasiyana. Ngakhale zitha kumveka zolimbikitsa, kufunafuna ngongole pambuyo pa chisudzulo sikungakhale lingaliro labwino. Osangothamangira kupereka mtima wanu kwa aliyense. M'malo mwake, ndibwino kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi ino kusinkhasinkha ndikupeza bwenzi loyenera. Mwachidule, muyenera kusankha mosamala ubale wanu. Mukufuna wina amene mungamve bwino mukakhala pafupi. Ngakhale zingatenge nthawi kuti mupeze munthu woyenera, ndibwino kudikirira. Mutha kukhala ndi chiweto chomwe chimakusungani inu m'mene mukudikirira.
4. Musatope ndi banja lanu
Kusudzulana si kanthu kakang'ono kamene kangatenge masiku angapo kuti mavutowo athe. M'malo mwake, ndi njira yayitali komanso yotopetsa yomwe imatha kupha pang'ono mwa iwo mkati. Ino ndi nthawi yomwe mumakakamizidwa kukambirana ndi maloya anu, abale anu, oyimira pakati komanso okondedwa anu. Pofuna kuti musataye gawo lonse pantchito yonseyi, tikulimbikitsidwa kuti muwone momwe mphamvu yanu ikuyendera ndikupumira pang'ono pa nthawi ya chisudzulo.
5. Osatsanulira aliyense zakukhosi kwanu
Monga wolowerera, mumakonda kukhala ndi mtima womwe umayikidwa m'malo akuya, amdima komanso obisika. Ngakhale abale ndi abwenzi ndizo zinthu zazikulu zotsatira pamoyo wanu nthawi zambiri zimakhala bwino kuti musazibweretsere zina mwazinthuzo. Ingosankha kutsanulira zakukhosi kwanu kwa munthu amene mumamukhulupirira. Kapenanso, mutha kusankha kulumikizana ndi anzanu komanso abale anu kudzera pa imelo kapena magazini. Ndipo monga akunenera, kulemba ndi malo abwino kwa omwe adasudzulana omwe akufuna kulankhulana.
6. Muyenera anzanu kuti akwaniritse
Otsutsa siabwino kwambiri pankhani yopanga ndikusunga mabwenzi. Otsutsa amakonda kusankha kwambiri anzawo omwe amasunga. Mwakutero, ali ndi nthawi yovuta kukhalabe ndiubwenzi wapamtima. Koma monga wolowererana yemwe wasudzulana, ino ndi nthawi yomwe muyenera kusintha pagulu lanu. Dzikakamizeni polumikizana ndi abwenzi komanso abale omwe angakukokani ndikukukumbutsani za kuthekera pamoyo wanu.
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7. Mwaiwalika za foni kapena zoulutsira mawu kwakanthawi
Kutsatira kupatukana, mumakonda kutumiza mameseji okhumudwitsa kwa bwenzi lanu lakale. Izi zitha kukhala chifukwa chakukwiya kapena kungofuna kumenya wakale wanu komwe zimamupweteka kwambiri. Koma monga wolowerera, muyenera kukhala otanganidwa ndi zinthu zina. Khalani ndi chizolowezi chofufuza momwe zinthu ziliri, zomwe zingakupangitseni kuti musatumize mawu osakakamizika. Siyani izi kuti ziziyambika kunja uko!
8. Yesetsani kuzolowera ndalama zochepa, kuchepa pang'ono komanso nthawi yocheperako ndi ana anu
Izi zitha kumveka ngati chinthu chovuta komanso chovuta kwa olowerera kunja uko. Komabe, ino ndi nthawi yabwino kwambiri yomwe mungaganizire zochepetsa ndalama zanu m'malo mwake mumangokhala madola ochepa patsiku. Muyeneranso kulingalira zochepetsera nthawi yomwe mumathera ndi ana anu. Koma osadula kwambiri chifukwa mukufunikirabe kusunga ubale pakati pa inu ndi ana anu. Pang'ono chabe zidzachita. Izi ndi zinthu zomwe zingakupatseni mwayi waukulu wokuyiwalani zomwe mudakumana nazo m'mbuyomu. Adzapita kutali kukuthandizani kuti muthe kupwetekedwa mtima.
Kuthetsa kupweteka kwa kutha kumatenga nthawi, kuleza mtima ndi chithandizo kuti achire kuchinthu chonsecho. Ndiwovulaza woyipitsitsa omwe adasudzulidwa omwe adayamba nawo ndipo ndizosatheka kunyalanyaza. Pakukwaniritsa malangizowo pamwambapa tsiku lililonse, mudzakhala ndi mwayi wokulitsa mtima wanu wosweka. Malangizo awa apangitsa tsiku lililonse kukhala labwinoko. Komabe, muyenera kudziwa kuti zosinthazo sizingachitike mwachangu.
Kuchiritsa mtima wosweka ndi njira yochepetsera yomwe imatenga nthawi. Limbani mtima ndipo musachedwa kuthana nazo ndipo mwina mungakumane ndi chikondi chatsopano yemwe angakhale munthu wapadera pamoyo wanu.
Marianna Amakoka
Marianna ndi wolemba mabulogu wamoyo yemwe amalembera blog ya Newaylook. Amakondweretsedwa ndikuwerenga, kapangidwe kake mkati ndi moyo wokangalika, ndikukhala panja momwe angathere.