Zamkati
- 1. Yesani kuvomereza
- 2. Khalani otsimikiza
- 3. Khalani omasukirana ndi oona mtima
- 4. Sonyezani chikondi
- 5. Ndimakonda kuseka wina
Anthu ambiri amalankhula za momwe angakhalire ndi ubale wabwino. Kuyambira chimodzi kungakhale kosavuta, koma kusunga ndizovuta. Tonsefe titha kukhala ndi malingaliro ena pomwe tikuyesera osati kungopeza zosowa zathu komanso kukondweretsanso wina kuti tikhale ndi ubale wokhalitsa.
Kodi mungandiuze chifukwa chomwe kuyesayesaku kumalephera kugwira ntchitoyo itangopangidwa?
Ndikutsimikiza kuti pali mayankho ambiri ku funsoli, koma Nazi njira zina zosungira kapena kukonza zomwe mwakhala mukugwira mwakhama kuti mupeze:
1. Yesani kuvomereza
Dziwani kuti tonse ndife anthu osiyanasiyana.
DNA yathu siyisintha, komanso zokumana nazo zoyambirira kuyambira tili ana. Ndikofunika kuti muwone ena ofunika monga momwe alili.
Pewani kuyesa kusintha mawonekedwe awo ofunikira kuti agwirizane ndi inu. Sindikutanthauza kuti zosintha sizingatheke. Zachidziwikire, zina mwazomwe munthu amachita zimatha kusintha pang'ono. Tikiti ndikudziwa zomwe zingatheke ndi zomwe sizingatheke.
Sankhani nkhondo zanu, ndipo khalani okonzeka kuganizira kuti zomwe mumakonda mwina sizingakhale za malamulo ena onse.
Ngati wina wazolowera kusiya zovala zauve pa bafa, pangani zaluso ndikupeza njira zokuthandizani kuti musinthe mawonekedwewo. Kumbukirani, kusintha kosatha kumafuna kuleza mtima. Kubwereza kungafunike mpaka kusintha kusanachitike.
Ngati cholakwika ichi sichinakusokonezeni mukakhala paulendo kapena mukamakondwerera ukwati, ndichifukwa chiyani ili vuto lalikulu tsopano?
2. Khalani otsimikiza
Tonsefe timafunikira chitamando. Kuphunzitsa galu wanga kunali kovuta, popeza ndinali wotsimikiza kumupanga kukhala galu wothandizira.
Chimene chinagwira ntchito bwino koposa chinali chiyamikiro ndi mphotho. Amakonda kundisangalatsa, momwemonso winanso wanu ngati angadziwe zomwe mukufuna. Zotsatira zake ndikuthokoza komanso chisangalalo m'malo modziimba mlandu kapena zowonjezera.
Pamene ndimati "mwana wabwino," galu wanga adakhala mwana wabwino. Zachidziwikire, sindikukupemphani kuti muwatengere anzanu motere koma ganizirani izi kwa mphindi. Ngati mutauzidwa kuti mwasintha chifukwa chonena kuti "zikomo," kodi simungachite izi pafupipafupi?
Mwina!
Ngati mutadzuka m'mawa kwambiri ndikukhala ndi khofi wotentha wokonzekera uchi wanu, zovuta zakumva zikomo ndikumwetulira ndizambiri. Ngati mukufuna kuti mnzanu apitilize machitidwe ena, ndiye kutsimikizira kuti mukusangalala mukuwona kusinthaku kumatha kupeza zambiri. Tonsefe timakonda kumva matamando.
Chenjezo chabe — amuna ena sakonda kutchedwa anyamata ndipo angakonde mawu oti "mwamuna wowopsa" kapena "bwenzi lapamtima."
3. Khalani omasukirana ndi oona mtima
Nenani zomwe mukutanthauza, ndikutanthauza zomwe mukunena. Palibe aliyense wa ife amakonda mapuzzles. Inde, izi ndizowopsa; koma kulozera mozungulira kapena kuyembekezera mnzanu kuti awerenge malingaliro anu kumabweretsa kuphompho kukayika ndi mkwiyo. Musaganize kuti mnzanuyo amadziwa zomwe mukutanthauza.
Afunseni kuti abwereze zomwe mwamvazo kuti muwone kuti uthenga wanu sunasokonezedwe.
Mwanjira imeneyi mutha kuyankha bwino ndikufikira yankho lovomerezeka. Khalani omasuka kufotokoza malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu osawopa kukutsutsani. Ganizilaninso za ubale wanu musanalowe m'banja, pamene munali kudziwana bwino, ndipo kumbukirani momwe izi zinachitikira.
4. Sonyezani chikondi
Kugwirana manja, kukumbatirana, kupsompsona pakhosi, ndi dzanja lofewa lingapangitse kuti mukhale osangalala. Dziwani zomwe mnzanu amafunikira komanso amakonda.
Kukhala pachibwenzi kumakhala ndi matanthauzo osiyanasiyana kwa munthu aliyense. Kumbukirani momwe zidalili zisanachitike. Kodi chinali chochita chakuthupi chomwe chinali chofunikira kwa wina wanu wamkulu-kapena kungoyang'ana chipinda, mawu, kapena kugwira paphewa? Chilichonse chomwe chinali, bweretsani kuti musachoke.
Chibwenzi choyenera chimangokhala bwino ngati tsiku lanu laposachedwa limodzi.
5. Ndimakonda kuseka wina
Kuti tikhale ndi moyo wachimwemwe ndi chikondi, tiyenera kudziseka tokha komanso tokha. Zinthu zopusa ndi zinthu zabwino kuti muchepetse mavuto komanso kuchepetsa nkhawa. Moyo umafunikira mphindi zochepa kuti muchepetse zowawa komanso zovuta zomwe zingabuke mtsogolo mosatsimikizika.
Mndandanda uwu si wathunthu.
Ndi poyambira poyatsira lawi kuti likhale "losangalala mpaka kalekale." Koposa zonse, kumbukirani kuti kusunga china ndikosiyana ndi kupeza kena kake. Kapena winawake!