Zamkati
- 1. Kuyang'ana nthawi yolumikizana yabanja
- 2. Kugogomezera kuwona mtima ndi kukhulupirirana
- 3. Kugawana maudindo
Banja - mawu omwe amatanthauza china chake chosiyana kwa aliyense chifukwa banja lililonse ndilosiyana.
Koma nthawi zambiri, tikamva mawu oti banja, timayanjanitsa ndi chinthu chosangalatsa, chosangalatsa. Koma, si mabanja onse omwe amakhala osangalala kapena osakhala osangalala nthawi zambiri.
Zachidziwikire, tizikonda mabanja athu nthawi zonse, koma nthawi zina zinthu zimatha kukhala zovuta ndipo m'malo mothandizana timayamba kudodometsana.
Banja liyenera kukhala chikumbutso chokoma kuti zivute zitani pali malo omwe mungabwererenso kwa wina yemwe adzakhala ndi msana wanu nthawi zonse. Koma nthawi zina, kuti mukhale ndi banja losangalala, muyenera kuyeserera pang'ono.
Chifukwa chake, positi lero, tikupereka zinsinsi 3 zosavuta kubanja lopanda nkhawa, losangalala komanso lathanzi.
1. Kuyang'ana nthawi yolumikizana yabanja
Mabanja ambiri omwe amavutika kuti azigwirizana sakhala ndi nthawi yokwanira yocheza. Ndipo ena, ngakhale atakhala nthawi yayitali limodzi, zokambirana zawo zonse zimatha kuweruzana kapena kunyozana.
Pachifukwachi, sikokwanira kukhala ndi nthawi yambiri ndi okondedwa - iyenera kukhala nthawi yabwino. M'malo mowakalipira, pezani mayankho abwino ndikupatseni chithandizo, makamaka ngati ndinu kholo. Ana onse amafuna ndikukhala ndi makolo awo pambali pawo, zivute zitani.
Tsoka ilo, pamene makolo sapeza nthawi yocheza ndi banja, ana ndiwo amavutika kwambiri ndipo pamapeto pake, akadzakula, adzakhala omwe sangakhale ndi nthawi yocheza ndi banja.
Poganizira zinthu izi, kulera ana mwina ndi ntchito yovuta kwambiri padziko lapansi chifukwa chilichonse chomwe mungapange chitha kukhala ndi gawo lalikulu mtsogolo mwa ana anu.
Imodzi mwa malangizo ofunikira kwambiri kuti banja likhale losangalala ndikutenga nthawi yolumikizana kuti mukhale ndiubwenzi wabwino ndipo pali zosangalatsa zambiri zomwe mungakhale nazo mukamamvana.
Mutha kupita kukawona malo achilendo kapena nkhalango yapafupi, mutha kuphika limodzi, nthawi zonse kudya limodzi, kusewera masewera usiku kamodzi pamwezi, kapena ngakhale kukhala ndi kanema wamakanema kamodzi pamlungu.
2. Kugogomezera kuwona mtima ndi kukhulupirirana
Banja lililonse limamenyana kapena kusamvana kumayamba chifukwa wina anali wosakhulupirika kapena amabisala kena kake - zomwe ndizofanana. Chifukwa chake, mukamanama kwambiri ndikubisalira banja lanu, zinthu sizikhala zosangalatsa kunyumba.
Zimadziwika kuti chimodzi mwazinthu zofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino ndichowona mtima.
Ndi kuwona mtima kumabwera kukhulupirirana - komwe ndikofunikira kwambiri paubwenzi wabwino - ndikudalirana, kumabwera ulemu - womwe ndi maziko a banja lililonse losangalala.
Nthawi zambiri makolo amanamizira ana awo za mavuto azachuma pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana zomveka, koma izi sizipangitsa kunama kukhala koyenera. Mwachitsanzo, ngati simuli bwino, ana anu ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti sizolakwika ndi izi.
Kupanda kutero, ana anu angaganize kuti mutha kugula zinthu zamtengo wapatali koma simukufuna chifukwa simukuwakonda mokwanira.
Kumbali inayi, ngati muli olemera ndipo mutha kukwanitsa zonse zomwe ana anu akufuna, mumatha kuwawononga. Ichi ndichifukwa chake makolo ena amakonda kunama - chifukwa ndizosavuta - kuti mwanayo sangakhale wolanda.
Ndibwino kukhala woona mtima ndikufotokozera mwana wanu kuti muyenera kupeza ndalama ndikugwirira ntchito zina m'moyo chifukwa palibe chomwe chimabwera kwaulere. Mutha kuwapatsa mphotho zoseweretsa chifukwa chochita ntchito zosavuta - mwanjira imeneyi mudzawaphunzitsa momwe dziko limagwirira ntchito.
Kuwona mtima kumadza ndi maphunziro abwino amoyo kwa mwana wanu ndipo pamapeto pake kumatha kukhala umunthu wawo.
Zinthu zoyipa zokha ndi zomwe zimabwera ndi kunama - kumbukirani izi nthawi zonse pomwe kunama kumawoneka ngati yankho losavuta pamavuto anu onse.
3. Kugawana maudindo
Pali zinthu zambiri zoti muchite mnyumbamo, makamaka ana, ndi mphamvu zawo zonse, atha kukhala ma tornados ang'onoang'ono ndikusokoneza mphindi zochepa mutangotsala ola limodzi kuyeretsa malowo.
M'malo moyambitsa mikangano m'nyumba, mutha kuphunzitsa ana anu okondedwa zaudindo.
Ntchito zapakhomo zikagawanika ndipo aliyense m'banjamo amalemekeza gawo lawo, mumachotsa mikangano iliyonse yomwe ingachitike.
Kuphatikiza apo, mutha kupanga ntchito zapakhomo kukhala zosangalatsa powasandutsa masewera. Mwachitsanzo, pa ntchito iliyonse, mumalandira nyenyezi yagolide ndipo pa nyenyezi 25 zagolide, mumalandira mphotho.
Udindo wophunzitsa ukhoza kukhala ntchito yovuta, koma ndi cholinga choyenera, mutha kuthetsa mavuto anu onse.
Chifukwa chake, kuti mupewe mikangano yonse chifukwa nyumba nthawi zonse zimakhala zosokonekera, khalani ndi udindo m'moyo wa ana anu - zomwe zingapangitse moyo wa ana anu kukhala wosavuta akadzakula, komanso chifukwa chakusamvana kuthetsedwe, anu banja limangokhala losangalala.
Onerani kanemayu wa Clinical Psychologist Dr. Paul Jenkins akukambirana za njira zothandizira ana kukhala odalirika komanso kuphunzira momwe angadziwire ngati ali okonzeka:
Mwachidule
Banja limakhala loyenera kumenyera chifukwa, nthawi zina, zitha kukhala zonse zomwe muli nazo - abwenzi ndi akanthawi, banja lanu silili. Chifukwa chake ngati zinthu sizikuyenda bwino posachedwa m'banja lanu, ndi nthawi yoti muchitepo kanthu kuti mukhale ndi banja losangalala. Mwa kungopatsana nthawi yabwino wina ndi mnzake, kukhala owona mtima ndikugawana maudindo, mutha kuchita izi mosavuta!