Zamkati
- 1. Dzidziweni bwino
- 2. Khalani omasuka nokha
- 3. Kutenga udindo
- 4. Landirani ena momwe aliri
- 5. Onetsetsani za maubwenzi
- 6. Khalani wokhulupirika ndi waulemu
- 7. Kulitsani zabwino
Chibwenzi chitha kuonedwa ngati chabwinobwino ngati onse awiri akumva kuthandizidwa, kulumikizidwa, komanso kudziyimira pawokha pomwe ali limodzi.
Kukhazikitsa ubale wabwino kumatha kubweretsa chisangalalo chochuluka ndikukhutira m'moyo wanu.
Ubale wathanzi umakhala mwala wapangodya, malo omwe ungakhale wekha ndikudziwa kuti ungathandizidwe ndikulemekezedwa ngakhale utakumana ndi moyo wotani.
Mbali inayi, maubale osakhala bwino ndi owopsa ndipo amawononga thanzi lanu lamalingaliro. Maubwenzi osakhwima amakhala opanikiza ndipo amakusiyani mumadzimva osatetezeka, kukumana ndi mavuto, komanso kukayikira.
Koma momwe tingasungire ubale wabwino? Kodi pali chinsinsi chokhala ndi ubale wabwino?
Zonsezi zimayamba ndi inu komanso momwe mumalumikizirana ndi inu nokha, komanso momwe mumaonera maubwenzi ndi anthu ena. Tiyeni tiwone momwe mungakhalire ndi ubale wabwino m'moyo wanu.
Nkhaniyi imagawana maupangiri 7 amomwe mungakhalire ndi ubale wabwino:
1. Dzidziweni bwino
Ndizachidule, koma ndichowonadi: Simungakhale ndiubwenzi wabwino ndi anthu ena mpaka mutakhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi inu nokha.
Kukhala ndi maubale abwino kumayamba ndi inu. Mukadziwa kuti ndinu ndani komanso zomwe mukufuna pamoyo ndi maubale, mutha kuyamba kufunafuna maubwenzi omwe akukwaniritsa zosowazo.
Ndikofunikanso kudziwa nkhawa zanu, kukhumudwa kwanu, zinthu zomwe zimakupsetsani mtima kapena kukupweteketsani mtima, komanso momwe mungachitire mukapanikizika.
Kudziwa zinthu izi kumapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuthana ndi mikangano yomwe ingachitike ndikuthana ndi mavuto mwachisomo.
2. Khalani omasuka nokha
Kukhala womasuka wekha ndikofunikira ngati mukufuna kukhala omasuka ndi munthu wina ndikupanga ubale wabwino pakati pawo. Ngati muli omasuka nokha, mupeza chisangalalo chokwanira komanso kudzitsimikizira.
Mukakhala omasuka komanso okhazikika mwa inu nokha, mutha kulowa maubwenzi kuchokera pamalo otseguka, okhazikika, komanso owona mtima.
Simungayang'ane maubale oti akukonzereni kapena kudzaza mpata m'moyo wanu, chifukwa mukudziwa kuti mwapeza kale wathunthu. M'malo mwake, mutha kusangalala ndi ubale uliwonse pazomwe zimabweretsa pamoyo wanu, osadalira.
3. Kutenga udindo
Kodi mungakhale bwanji ndi ubale wabwino?
Kutenga udindo pamalingaliro anu, zochita zanu, ndi zochita zanu ndi njira zofunika kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino.
Tonsefe timakwiya ndi anthu ena nthawi zina - timakhala anthu chabe - koma titha kuwongolera zomwe timachita ndikuvomera udindo wawo.
Ndiwe nokha amene muli ndiudindo pazomwe mumavomereza muubwenzi komanso momwe mumamvera ndi mnzake.
Kusamalira udindo wanu pamoyo wanu komanso maubale anu kumakupangitsani kukhala olimba ndikukukumbutsani kuti ndinu wamkulu wa sitimayo.
4. Landirani ena momwe aliri
Maubwenzi ambiri asokonekera chifukwa chipani china chimafuna kuti chimzake chikhale chosiyana. Komabe, simungakakamize anthu ena kuti asinthe ndikukhala monga momwe mumafunira. Zomwe mungachite ndikuwalandira monga momwe aliri tsopano.
Kotero, ngati mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungakhalire ndi ubale wabwino, yambani kuvomereza wina ndi mnzake.
Mukalowa muubwenzi ndi maso otseguka ndikuvomereza zomwe mnzanuyo akuchita, zolakwika, ndi machitidwe ake, zoyembekezera zanu zidzakwaniritsidwa, ndipo ubale wanu uzikhala chifukwa cha kulemekezana, osati kupusitsana.
5. Onetsetsani za maubwenzi
Matenda a Fairytale ndiwowononga ubale. Ubale uliwonse umakhala ndi nthawi yokondwerera ukwati, ndipo umasangalatsa kwambiri, koma si maziko aubwenzi wokhalitsa.
Mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungasungire ubale wabwino? Pezani zenizeni pazomwe ubale wanu umaphatikizapo.
Padzakhala zotsika ndi zotsika, ngongole zolipira, ndipo mwina mtsogolo zofuna za ana, kukwezedwa pantchito, kapena matenda. Mnzanuyo ndi wamunthu ndipo ali ndi zizolowezi zina zokhumudwitsa (inunso).
Dzikonzekeretsere kukhala pachibwenzi chenicheni m'malo mokhala nthano chabe, ndipo simukhumudwitsidwa. Mudzakhala okonzeka kukhala ndi chibwenzi chokwanira chomwe chimaphatikizira tsiku ndi tsiku m'malo mochikana.
6. Khalani wokhulupirika ndi waulemu
Kukhulupirika ndi ulemu ndi zina mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino. Kukhala wokhulupirika kwa mnzanu ndikuwapanga kukhala oyamba kumalimbikitsa kukhulupirirana ndikuwakumbutsa kuti ndiwofunika kwa inu.
Kukhulupirika kumakupangitsani kukhala kosavuta kuti mukhulupilirane ndikupanga ubale limodzi.
Ulemu umatanthauza kumvera zosowa za mnzanu, nkhawa, ziyembekezo, ndi maloto momasuka komanso mosamala.
Zimatanthauza kuphunzira kukambirana ngakhale zinthu zopweteka osachitirana nkhanza wina ndi mnzake, ndipo zikutanthauza kuyika thanzi laubwenzi wanu pamwamba pakupambana kapena kugoletsana mfundo.
Lankhulani ndi mnzanu momwe mungafunire kuti azikulankhulani. Ganizirani momwe mukumvera komanso zosowa zanu, osati kuyesa kuwalanga kapena kuwapangitsa kuchita zinthu mwanjira inayake.
Onani Dr. Emerson Eggerichs akufotokoza zinthu ziwiri zomwe zingathandize kuti banja liziyenda bwino.
7. Kulitsani zabwino
Ngati mukufuna munda wokongola, mumasamalira ndi kuthirira maluwa, osati namsongole. Kukulitsa ubale wabwino ndi chimodzimodzi. Kulitsani ndi kukulitsa zabwino za wina ndi mnzake komanso ubale wanu.
Onani zonse momwe ubale wanu umagwirira ntchito ndikuwunika. Chitani zambiri zomwe zimagwira ntchito yocheperako pazomwe sizigwira ntchito.
Izi ndizofunika kwa mnzanu, nanunso. Fufuzani zomwe mumakonda ndikuyamikira za iwo, ndipo yang'anani pa izo. Awuzeni za izi.
Zachidziwikire, mavuto amabwera nthawi zina ndipo amafunika kuthana nawo, koma maubale abwino amamangidwa pakukhala olimbikitsa komanso osamalira, osangokakamira kapena kupeza zolakwika.
Ubale wathanzi ndiwotheka kwa aliyense amene angafune kuti azigwira ntchito payekha ndikuphunzira maluso okhala muubwenzi wabwino.
Khalani owona mtima ndi okoma mtima kwa inu nokha kuti muthe kulumikizana bwino ndi ena ndikupanga ubale womwe udzagwire ntchito.