Zamkati
- Chifukwa chiyani maubwenzi amangotha mwadzidzidzi?
- "Mmodzi" amatulutsa mikhalidwe yobisika mwa inu
- Chisoni potaya "imodzi" sichidzakhalitsa
Mukudziwa momwe mumamvera mukakumana ndi munthu wina ndikukhala ndi nthawi yomweyo? Agulugufe amene mumamva m'mimba mwanu akamakalowa mchipinda? Mukudziwa zomwe ndikunena. Mukadzagunda kuyambira pachiyambi, kukambirana kwa maola ambiri pachilichonse, kugona ola limodzi chifukwa mumakhala ndichisangalalo kuti mwakumana ndi "ameneyo". Chikondi chomverera chodabwitsa! Chifukwa chake mumayamba kuwona zamtsogolo limodzi ndipo mukudziwa motsimikiza kuti winayo ali patsamba limodzi ndi inu.
Mosadziwika, zimatha. Osangokhala osweka mtima kwathunthu, komanso odabwitsidwa chifukwa simunaziwone zikubwera. Chilichonse chimawoneka ngati cholondola, nonse munali patsamba limodzi ... osaganizira. Chalakwika ndi chiyani? Ndikudziwa izi sizolimbikitsa ngati mukumva kuwawa kwa kutha, koma ndimvereni. Ndikufuna kuti mumvetsetse chifukwa chake amene mumaganiza kuti adzakhala mnzanu wapamtima kwamuyaya, adakhala chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe simunakhalepo nacho.
Mwazochita zanga, ndagwira ntchito ndi makasitomala angapo omwe adakumana ndi anthu omwe ali ndi mikhalidwe yonse pa "mndandanda" wawo, ndipo amakhala osangalala mosangalala akakhala ndi munthu wapadera ameneyo. Tsoka ilo, chibwenzicho chimathera modzidzimutsa kwambiri chifukwa cha zinthu zosalamulirika kapena zosasinthika. Izi ndizomwe zili, pazifukwa zabwino kwambiri, ngakhale sizikumveka.
Chifukwa chiyani maubwenzi amangotha mwadzidzidzi?
Maubwenzi onse (achikondi, abwenzi, bizinesi, ndi zina zambiri) amadutsa njira zathu kuti atiwonetsere ziweruzo zathu ndi mavuto osathetsedwa; amadutsanso njira zathu kuti awunikire mikhalidwe yathu yodabwitsa yomwe sitikuzindikira, kukhala nayo komanso kukumana nayo. Taganizirani izi. Ndi kangati komwe mudakwanitsa kupeza zikhalidwe zingapo za "zomwe" zomwe zidamupangitsa kuti akhale wokongola kwambiri? Mwinanso mudanenapo, "Iye kapena Iye adachita bwino kwambiri mwa ine!" Ingoganizani? Iwo mwamtheradi adatulutsa zabwino mwa inu! Komabe, ndiudindo wanu kuti mupitirize kuchita bwino. Adakwaniritsa gawo lawo lauzimu mwakukukopani ku mikhalidwe yawo yomwe imakuwonetsani zikhalidwe zomwe simukuziwona. Komabe, sikunali ntchito yawo kukhala.
"Mmodzi" amatulutsa mikhalidwe yobisika mwa inu
Sitingathe kuwona kapena kuyamikira mikhalidwe mwa munthu wina yomwe ife sitidziwona kapena kuyamikira mwa ife. "Mmodzi" sanangobweretsa zikhalidwe zanu izi, koma adayambitsanso mikhalidwe yomwe yabisidwa mkati mwanu. Palibe munthu wina amene angakupangitseni kumva kapena kukhala chilichonse chomwe simunali nacho kale. Palibe amene ali "m'modzi," chifukwa aliyense amene mungakumane naye ndi m'modzi. Munthu aliyense yemwe muli naye pachibwenzi (komanso osati mwachikondi) ndi wokondana naye, chifukwa akukuphunzitsani maphunziro a moyo ndi maphunziro a moyo.
Chisoni potaya "imodzi" sichidzakhalitsa
Ndikhulupirireni, ndikumva kukhala wokhumudwa chifukwa chotaya yemwe mukuganiza kuti ndi "m'modzi". Mwina sizikumverera ngati pano, koma kumangokhala kukhumudwa kwakanthawi. Kuwonongeka kwanthawi yayitali kungakhale kusavomereza mikhalidwe yodabwitsa yomwe mudayiwona kapena / kapena "ndi" ameneyo. Kumbukirani, simunakanidwe, amangogawidwira cholinga china. Cholinga cha ubale uliwonse ndikuti tiphunzire ndi
kukula mchikondi; za wina ndi zathu. Cholinga cha ubalewo sichikutipangitsa kukhala achimwemwe chifukwa cha ubale, kapena kukwaniritsa zopanda pake m'miyoyo yathu. Muyenera kuthana ndi zowawa kuti mufike ku cholinga cha chibwenzi chanu, ndi momwe akuyenera kukutumikirirani.
Ngakhale kupezeka kwakomwe "m'modzi" sangakhale kulipo, mikhalidwe yomwe mumakonda ya iwo idzakhala yanu nthawi zonse. Chifukwa chiyani? Kungoti chifukwa zomwe mumakonda za iwo, ndiwo mawonekedwe odabwitsa omwe amapezeka mkati mwanu. Mukamaliza kutulutsa zabwino mwa inu, ndiye kuti mudzatha kugawana ndi "amene" amatulutsa zabwino mwa iwonso. Palibe chifukwa chofufuzira m'maso mwa wina, mikono, kapena kama. Lekani kudabwa ngati munthu wotsatira amene mudzakumane naye adzakhala "ameneyo" chifukwa Uyo wakhala akuyang'ana m'maso mwanu ndikukuyembekezerani kuti muzimuwona nthawi yonseyi. Yemwe akuyang'ana kumbuyo pakalilore ndi amene amatulutsa ZABWINO mwa iwe.